Right. I think the most frustrating part, is people that say I am selfish for not wanting children. That doesn't make any sense. It would be selfish of me to have a child that I didn't want.I’m childless however even if I could have kids I wouldn’t.
This! People (before they know I can’t have kids) , tell me I’m missing out, I’m selfish, you don’t know love until you’ve had a child. Yet when I say I would like a dog, they all say “it’s too much responsibility , think of the cost etc”Right. I think the most frustrating part, is people that say I am selfish for not wanting children. That doesn't make any sense. It would be selfish of me to have a child that I didn't want.
Don't blame yourself. I am sure it has absolutely nothing to do with how you raised her. People are just built differently, some really want children, and others don't. I never had that desire. I thought I might change my mind as I got older, but in fact, the older I get, the more sure I am that I don't want children.Ok, so I'm NOT childfree, I have 4. But my #3 has stated for a long while that she doesnt ever want to have children of her own. She's nearly 15 now so obviously has lots of time for a change of heart, but she's so adamant about it I'd actually be surprised if she changed her mind! She points out the little smart cars and says that's what she'll have, doesn't need more than 2 seats, just room for a husband and herself. Says she will live in a house with 2 bedrooms so she has a spare for when her neices and nephews come to stay! It's interesting that you are an only child and she is one of four. Its made me feel I've done a terrible job bringing them up and put her off! Happy to see this may not be the case!
We have a dog that is two. I often think of him as a perpetual "toddler." He will never be able to feed himself, bathe himself, pay for things himself. We had people try to tell us that we should have a child before getting a dog and that just didn't make any sense to me.This! People (before they know I can’t have kids) , tell me I’m missing out, I’m selfish, you don’t know love until you’ve had a child. Yet when I say I would like a dog, they all say “it’s too much responsibility , think of the cost etc”
People just need to bloody butt out and mind their own business
Yeah, people can be quite nosy. I think it is a rude question to ask, as you never know what could be going on with someone fertility wise.I have a child but I’m really conscious not to ask others when they’re going to have children. I have quite a few childfree and friends who can’t have children.
I just think it’s rude. I’ve only spoken about it if they bring it up. It’s none of mine or anyone else’s business.
My daughter is still young but always says she doesn’t want kids. I honestly believe she may stick with that. I can’t imagine her having children and I respect her and anyone’s rights to have or not to have.
People seem to think it’s fair game. With couples and women as well
I agree with this entirely. I often think the worst and let alone environmental catastrophe what about war type environments. It could happen. And I’d have trouble enough keeping myself safe let alone someone else who’s dependant on me.Childfree for loads of reasons, not least that we don't have long before we will physically face an environmental catastrophe so why would anyone bring another life into the world to suffer that? Incredibly cruel.
Exactly - I’m not sure I’m cut out for the worry!Once you have children you never stop worrying.
This is exactly how I feel at the moment. I'm 33, married for 10 years and child free by choice. I have always been adamant that I definitely don't want children and deep down I know I am happy with my decision, it's everyone else with their "you'll make a great Mum" "you'll love your own kids" "I can't imagine a life without children" "you'll regret it when it's too late" that really gets to me and makes me doubt myselfI’m new but had to register after seeing this thread. YES!!! I have never wanted kids, I’m 35 now and I’m going through a very confusing “well it really is now or never” phase. Has anyone else been through this? It’s all I can think about right now. ESP as I’ve been so adamant when ppl say I’ll change my mind and I’ve been internally furious....and now, I feel like I can’t change my mindbut I don’t even know if I want to change my mind UGH it’s the most confusing thing. Glad to have found a thread where other people are childfree and I can relate to them
I agree with this entirely. I often think the worst and let alone environmental catastrophe what about war type environments. It could happen. And I’d have trouble enough keeping myself safe let alone someone else who’s dependant on me.
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