I agree. I've had so many regrets already and I'm not even mid 30s yet. I figure regret doesn't have to mean the weight of guilt. So I've been telling myself that hindsight is always 20/20 and I've made the best decisions for myself at the time with the knowledge and the opportunities I had back then. Could many things have been handled better? Without a doubt, but not by me as I wasn't able to. What I had done was the best choice for past-me. So in the future if I end up having regrets, I'll know it was the right decision for 30, 40, 50 y/o me.I always find it hard to think of things I genuinely regret doing because I'm so on board with the mindset that everything you do/everyone you meet teaches you something, whether it's that you didn't want to do that thing or that relationship ended because of X trait in a person that you realise you can't tolerate, etc. Even with things I sometimes find I regret, like not doing a year abroad at uni for example, I can always see how it could've gone wrong too - I had really poor mental health at uni and was struggling to be away from home as it was, so if I had done a year abroad it might've been catastrophic for me. And that's how I feel about having kids, I think even if I ever do end up regretting not having them, I would always think 'well what if I did have them and hated it?' I would rather have that regret than have a child I didn't actually want to have, not least because I do not want to ever be someone responsible for causing emotional damage and harm to a child. That's actually one of the reasons I find it absolutely bizarre when people say it's 'selfish' not to have children, for me it's not only the fact that I don't want one, it's that having a child you don't want or are reluctant to really spend time with/parent properly is very damaging and that's just not a risk I'm prepared to run.
How will you guys be spending the weekend?