She doesn't do the one thing that would make him gain weight and now help his development (considering hes been underweight his entire life). Switch to formula.Did anyone get through the slog that was her breastfeeding video? It's tricky to know what is really true from her account of it, and maybe O does have a cows milk allergy, but regardless I noticed major Munchausens red flags from her narrative of it, and was shocked to find it follows the exact same pattern of her own health and relationship to professionals. It mirrors her past behaviour as a teenager and in her early 20s, then in her pregnancy and she's doing it to Oryn as we all predicted. Nothing is clinically wrong but Bryony has some ''concerns'' over mild/vague symptoms (most of which are just normal life - period pain, fatigue, nausea, low milk supply). She reaches out to professionals who confirm nothing is wrong, but reassure her they'll monitor it. She expresses frustration and seeks new opinions. She gets the attention / prescription she wants for a short time, the symptoms subside, and then the problem returns in a slightly different way and she seeks a new opinion.
The other major Munchausens red flags, by her own account:
a) All of his initial symptoms are mild, vague or within normal. She reports that numerous people over 12 weeks told her his latch was good, he didn't have tongue tie, his weight wasn't worrying, and she was recommended many times to feed and pump more to increase supply.
b) In the periods when his health/weight is stable and things are going well, she reports spontaneously feeling that'll something is wrong and seeks a new medical opinion. For a healthy baby with no concerning symptoms (by her own account), she sought opinions from multiple midwives, a private cranial osteopath, an online lactation consultant, a specific health visitor, a weigh-in clinic, La Leche League, a drop in breastfeeding class, her NHS GP, then a private GP to prescribe the meds she was previously refused. That's 10+ people. I know many specialists are involved in infant health but the concern for me is the deliberate shopping around for new opinions after multiple people had said O was healthy and had well established feeding.
c) It was when she reported being left unmonitored that O's symptoms dramatically worsen and he lost a large amount of weight quickly.
Other red flags are that the insinuated problem / his symptoms changed multiple times in her story. Initially, the latch, then her supply, then an allergy. I get they're all common issues but she blurs them into one. Also note she initially blames his latch being disrupted by a dummy, which she gave him at just a couple of days old because he was 'grisly'hungryand she needed to sleep. So even in the hospital she's admitting to feed-restrictive behaviour. She also says later he had symptoms she ''doesn't want to make public'' (as if the poor boy's health and very conception haven't been exploited for the past year and a half). To me, it's just a way to keep it vague and hide a potential lie. She knows cows milk allergies have more symptoms than just poor weight gain. But it's only his weight she can manipulate, so that's the only symptom she talks in depth about.
I'm sorry to say that I genuinely believe that she is/was feed restricting him. I don't think this is the last we'll hear about his allergy. As he gets older she will report more symptoms, seek more opinions, his symptoms will shift over time, then she'll need even more opinions and that's how it will keep going. He'll also be on whatever meds she chooses.
Totally agree with this sentiment but what I was highlighting is that Oryn's weight was not of major concern to any professional he saw. She said again and again in the video, he was low on the centile chart but not really dropping, and none of the 10+ professions she saw in 10 weeks were that worried. He was gaining an appropriate amount of weight, even though he was quite small. In my mind she was restricting feeding to various extents in those first few months, just enough to garner attention and keep seeking new opinions.She doesn't do the one thing that would make him gain weight and now help his development (considering hes been underweight his entire life). Switch to formula.
She clearly doesn't produce enough milk. But she wants the attention and she wants him to depend on her. So she refuses to switch to formula.
I echo this in that I do believe she is deliberately starving him for multiple reasons, in particular to keep him small and babylike.
I think it's cruel to foster children if you have the attitude that they're not as good as biological children. I thought anti choice people say adoption is an alternative, and yet children who aren't biologically related are constantly getting messages that they're not as good.I know she’s trying to emphasise the difference between foster children and her own child, but it’s a strange way to phrase it when he’s donor conceived. There’s a man out there he may never meet who has an equal biological connection to him. Bryony hated the process of being pregnant, she just likes that he looks like her.
I got married to my now ex husband without living with him first, and even though we both worked, he only worked over the road and I travelled far, but he left me to do all the housework because he earned more money. He never even cleaned the toilet after he used it. I wondered if even though there was supposed to be equality, if most women were left to clean the toilet? I'm glad I never had children with him and spent years enjoying single life after him. I like it that my partner now has his own home, so when we're together it's nearly always a date night, and none of the boring tidying up after him apart from the odd times I'll make a special meal as thanks for him taking me out.Does she not realise that in the vast majority of modern relationships, especially amongst our generation, housework and childcare are split? A partner IS someone who helps with washing, dishes, childcare etc - “You cooked tonight, I’ll do the dishes” “You’ve had the kids all day, I’ll do bedtime whilst you put your feet up”. Plus two incomes means more financial stability.
I’ve said it before but all her perceptions of relationships and men seem to come from her being chronically online with little to no real life experience. To be honest, if she was to date I can imagine her ending up in a relationship where she does all the housework and childcare purely because her attitude and seeming hatred towards men would put off a lot of the men who do pull their weight at home.
You are completely right. I knew I was bothered by the sequence of all the issues but didn't have the brain power to work out what it was. But you have hit the nail on the head. She wanted the medication to increase her milk supply AND she simply HAD to be on the pill because "she couldn't deal with periods" even though she knew it was likely to reduce her supply. I think her priorities are completely wackadoodle. It appears her actual priority is "I want as much medical intervention and attention as possible". I also don't believe she's completely stupid. I think there has to be an element of she knows she's going to get higher engagement if she is a "mum with a chronic illness" with a child with "medical needs".I just put her breastfeeding video on in the background and god she's so neurotic and incredibly selfish. She spent the first three months of his life chasing down different doctors and nurses to try to find something that's 'wrong' with her son (who seemed perfectly healthy despite being in the lower percentile), and getting angry at health professionals when they don't give her what she wants.
She was annoyed her GP wouldn't prescribe her the medication to increase her milk supply, but then was ok with going back on BC despite the fact that it could reduce her milk production because she "didn't want" to have a period. Shes either incredibly selfish and putting her comfort above the health of her child, or she know what there's actually nothing wrong with the kid but still wants the attention that having a 'health problem' gives her. Then she was disappointed that she had to put him on formula because he wasn't gaining enough weight on breastmilk only... Who cares? If she was so worried about his weight from the beginning why didn't she do that sooner, and why is she so upset about doing something that will help her child?
Me, me, me. SHE was convinced there was something wrong, SHE knew better than the doctors and nurses, giving him formula was hard for HER, his allergy affected HER cruise holiday. She's treating him like a doll, like he's her property who is there to please her. He seems to be a perfectly healthy and happy child, she should be grateful for that.
God she's insufferable. Making such a big deal about nothing. There are people out there who are actually sick or going through actual hardships in life who complain less than she does.
He was cooking tea as wellI tuned out after she said her dad recently had surgery so she was going to go and give him her illness by staying the night, and have him fix her fridge door because they wouldn't let her use a screwdriver by herself.
It's rare to see someone so intensely pathetic, self absorbed and lazy.
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