Bethany Rutter

[Venuslurker]

Off topic but I often think about that tv show she was on where she said one of her favourite snacks was a ball of mozzarella rolled in salt.

 

[MissHavisham]

Her obsessive mentioning of every bit of exercise she does is clearly an attempt to shield herself against accusations of (gasp!) dieting. It will be 'I wanted to be fit and strong, weight loss was a mere side effect which I was in no way pursuing. To be honest, it didn't even occur to me that I might lose weight'

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

I’ve not seen Charlotte mentioned on any other threads so I’m assuming she’s referencing the comments in this one! that’s hilarious.

I’m really surprised she’s not tweeted more about Bethany’s awful earrings.



She doesn’t she’s not an #influencer or blogger.

Usually when people mention tattle it’s v disingenuous so I’m made up we got an honest review!

Although now we know we’ve got her eyes... tell us all the BR goss pls, we just want to know how you feel about those earrings pls

 

[ShadieSadie]

I knew one person who wrote for them who was a freelancer and if she didn't happen to get enough work in for that month her parents would pay her London rent for her. Which is galling when I know so many people who were in creative industries that ended up being sidetracked into 'proper jobs' as otherwise they couldn't afford to live.

I loved Domestic Sluttery and wrote for them and OMG, their invoicing was very ‘third new moon of the year when waxing not waning’ vague. Biodynamic bookkeeping. All very lovely if like the person you knew mum and dad are able to step in.

I don’t have that kind of back up so I had to chase and they genuinely couldn’t understand. It was ‘I’m off to see Shrimpy in Barbados and then it’s the artisan cheese awards so I’ll be adulting in three weeks babes. Promise.’ I had to go back and explain that if they did not pay me I was going to be a domestic whore and have to earn money to pay bills the non subverted way. They were really shocked that I lived on freelancing without a partner or parents. ‘Oh you need paid to pay rent? Gosh, how modern!’

I liked working with them but the LOL of feminism that assumed you worked for pin money not wages. Then they and The Pool just stopped paying at all and I never knew if it was lack of cash or that whole ‘if you do what you love it doesn’t feel like work’ attitude to accounting followed some of them round.

TBF once I got my head round the existence of these unicorns and went on slum it upwards safari after the initial mutual shock of ‘I did not know you existed!’ I had a ball. No hard feelings toward any of the specific people. Just an urge to smash the whole system

 

[courageouscrumpets]

I imagine she’s lost weight, because for a plus sized blogger she doesn’t half do a lot of exercise. She’s smaller now than her bisexual nightclubbing days for sure

“bisexual nightclubbing”

 

[MissHavisham]

all the 'look at the yummy high fat/high cal foods I eat' posts in her stories seems a bit performative

We know you're on a diet, love.

 

[ShadieSadie]

While we diverted down memory lane and the lads are on tour in Puglia, our pal Bert has switched bio from ‘fat exercise enthusiast’ to ‘love 2 move my bod.’ She’d already removed chub gal from her vocab…

That seems like distancing herself from herself from either the community or accusations of ‘mid sizes’ talking over plus sizes. So I’d say not a size 20

 

[Tittattattit]

This post is still on her website https://archive.ph/MG6tt (archive link in case she deletes) surprised she hasnt taken it down!

And this is why I don't pity her if she gets shit from her peers. It would be of her own making.

 

[Iwantyoutoknow22]

Must be nice to own property in London, buy expensive clothes and make up and go for fancy meals constantly without ever having to work hard…

 

[luv2shade]

melly has a private account on twitter now - i won't post her @ but she is and has always been one of the most genuine and loyal people i know. she is mutuals with bethany but nowhere near as close as they used to be; possibly for "reasons" but also possibly just standard friendship drift. i'm glad to see melly getting love on here

 

[frillylilly]

The 52 dates woman has written a blog post: http://www.52firstdates.com/2022/01/and-just-like-thati-stood-up-for-myself.html?m=1

Sorry but everything about this woman is embarrassing, starting with the fact she's using eblogger in 2022. The whole post is unhinged and just very badly written evidence that she's got a chip on her shoulder about never being offered the book deal that for some reason she feels she's entitled to.

 

[Spanner]

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I've never seen anyone so obsessed with their own sweat. Does she have a fetish or something?

Im not trying to be bitchy but why does she insist on exercising in cotton t-shirt? They always look like they’ll be so smelly and chafe her. Buy some proper sports clothing with moisture wicking

 

[Iwantyoutoknow22]

a mutual friend posted this... she looks happy and cute but just totally different to her other pictures?

 

[Greenlentils]

Ironic really because #HomeLovinPaul really seems to detest his little comfy suburban life, if his poetry has any truth to it...

I'd like to see a spoken word piece about the fingerprints on his wife's overpriced polymer clay earrings. A striking metaphor for the perils of capitalism

 

[Cocoloca]

I’d love to be mad at BR and take the bloggers side…but I just can’t. Ffs.

 

[jessicarrr]

I listened to the podcast episode last night where her and Alice talk about their experiences as authors - loved listening to Alice talk about it, it sounds like writing and being a published author has been a life-long goal and she sounded so joyful and passionate. It was SOOOO interesting to me to find out that Bethany was approached to write No Big Deal as the publisher wanted to have a fat protagonist in YA fiction but wasn't receiving any pitches along those lines. It is great that she has made a success of it but it sounded like it was more a professional goal/challenge for her to complete it rather than a dream to write a novel and (as an aspiring novelist myself) I couldn't help but be a little jealous - what a charmed life she leads!

 

[Jumpindesia]

That set of topman indie boys that hover around the set of redbrick alumni is so lol, they all used to go to those awful DJ nights in that pub and pretend to be polyamorous. I had the misfortune of dating one of the boys adjacent to that set and good lord the delusions of grandeur

Fucking bunch of weirdos....i honestly felt so uncomfortable. And their poetry was about random shit like cheese but they were using long words that had nothingg to do with cheese, and their 'rapping'made my arsehole go inside i cringed so much!

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

Fucking bunch of weirdos....i honestly felt so uncomfortable. And their poetry was about random shit like cheese but they were using long words that had nothingg to do with cheese, and their 'rapping'made my arsehole go inside i cringed so much!

I wonder how many of us on this thread have known the same people IRL because you're capturing the uncomfortable cringe you're regularly made to feel, it's like your first night at uni realising you're the only non posho, but just drawn out voluntarily for years after.

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

I knew you were my people, HTRIA

I feel exactly this. I'm all for safe working conditions for sex workers, and decriminalisation, and creating support networks wherever possible. No judgement on career choice.

But I just don't think I can be cool about a society where I'm supposed to think it's fiiiiiiiine that men can consume women as products and that's sound? And don't structures in which traditionally female skills (caring; teaching; nursing) earn significantly less than male skills (carpentry or whatever shit) and are valued less force women into the sex industry? And that's before we even consider trafficked women (AND CHILDREN)? And apparently that means my politics are bad?

I dunno, I despair. But you're right, people like BR will never really have to worry about that.

A cross thread frau moment, I love it!

YEP completely agree with everything you've said. Something that always felt...icky...that that lot shared would be oh you're working in an office for a man 9-5 and you think we're oppressed~? Like it's the ultimate GOTCHA moment?! No love but you studied English Lit at SOAS or wherever the fuck you went after Alleyn's and now you've a lifestyle business spanking rich men from a flat in Holborn which is fabulous for you, like you can't compare that to a woman who (like you rightly pointed out!) is desperate or trafficked and turns to sex work through lack of choice.

That whole circle of SW Twitter feels so self congratulatory and like it's missing so many important voices but they're too busy selling books on their experiences to care about that? A bit like JM. Twitter has really created some monsters hasn't it haha, you're right though there's no discussion allowed around any of these things else it's dogpiling & doxing etc !

 

[snapdrag0n]

Seeing comments that she’s stolen someone’s blog posts for her new book her sheep are excited for the book but if you look through there’s loads of comments she’s ignoring about this… hmm!