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[Maxine1974]

Honestly I totally agree with you but I’m sick of arguing with him about it. Without sounding like a martyr I will sort the contraception for an easy life cos if you want a job doing and all that....
He’s just stupid and has this bullshit misconception it makes you less manly

So you’ve had babies, gone through all the post partum stuff, and had years of hormonal contraception... but he won’t do his part?!
No no no! Tell him the only option is he gets the snip or he uses condoms, you have put your body through enough over the last 10+ years and that’s that.
The fact that he won’t even consider it would have me in a full rage (even if you were happy to do something else).

Why is the woman’s problem to sort out contraception? Makes me mad!

Honestly I totally agree with you but I’m sick of arguing with him about it. Without sounding like a martyr I will sort the contraception for an easy life cos if you want a job doing and all that....
He’s just stupid and has this bullshit misconception it makes you less manly

 

[gee_beth]

I’ve had the Mirena coil for 3 years now! I definitely feel more “normal” on it than I did on microgynon. The insertion was quite painful for me and I was really traumatised by it however 3 years ago I feel I was more immature and had never had anything invasive done, no cervical screening or anything down below! If I was to have it inserted again I know I’d have a better experience I don’t get periods anymore but I do get spotting and a bit of cramping at that point in my cycle. Rarely get mood swings which is something I had really bad on the pill! I will definitely have another inserted in a couple of years when this one expires

 

[Definitelyme]

Honestly I totally agree with you but I’m sick of arguing with him about it. Without sounding like a martyr I will sort the contraception for an easy life cos if you want a job doing and all that....
He’s just stupid and has this bullshit misconception it makes you less manly


Honestly I totally agree with you but I’m sick of arguing with him about it. Without sounding like a martyr I will sort the contraception for an easy life cos if you want a job doing and all that....
He’s just stupid and has this bullshit misconception it makes you less manly

I get it. It’s very easy for strangers on the internet to dole out advice, but they don’t have to live with it all! Men can be such idiots some times. In fairness my brother had it done and it went badly and he swelled up like a grapefruit and couldn’t walk for 3 days and then it turned out it hadn’t actually worked!

I hope you find something that works well for you

 

[Sally1993]

It's so strange!! Did you have to wait a certain amount of time before getting a new coil put in? I don't know if mine just came out due to getting it the same day as my csection as theres a higher risk of risk of it coming out after birth. I'd like to try it again but not sure if I need to wait a certain amount of time

I opted to try different methods of birth control after my coil fell out. None of them worked for me and I ended up having a surprise baby! Haha. This is my second coil at the moment. I’m three months down the line with it and it’s good so far, so I’m hoping my body has accepted it and I can go the full ten years with this one.

Maybe yours came out because with postpartum bleeding because your cervix opens a little bit more than a regular period? I don’t even know if that’s true or not. Maybe it was just random.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

@thenorthremembers Where's your rubber glove/crisp packet?

 

[hiya_hun]

I’ve had my implant for 3 years and went to get it removed a few months ago, after a long appointment and many painful tries, they told me they can’t remove it and I need an ultrasound guided removal. I’ve been waiting for it, for almost 3 months and they told me I need to wait another 1-2 months.

Really anxious that this implant is stuck in my arm and is expired 🥲 I’ve been on the pill in the meantime. If they cant get it out in the ultrasound guided removal or it’s too deep, I’ll need surgery on my arm, in case it’s imbedded in muscle or something.

that happened to me! I had to have mini surgery under local to get it out. I could still feel it in my arm so I’m convinced I just had a shit GP who couldn’t get it out at my first appointment.

i’m DREADING having my coil out/replaced in a few years! Has anyone ever had their coil removed before?

 

[Maxine1974]

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I’ve had the Mirena coil for 3 years now! I definitely feel more “normal” on it than I did on microgynon. The insertion was quite painful for me and I was really traumatised by it however 3 years ago I feel I was more immature and had never had anything invasive done, no cervical screening or anything down below! If I was to have it inserted again I know I’d have a better experience I don’t get periods anymore but I do get spotting and a bit of cramping at that point in my cycle. Rarely get mood swings which is something I had really bad on the pill! I will definitely have another inserted in a couple of years when this one expires

This is really good to hear thank you! I’m not too bothered about it been fitted as I’ve had 3 kids so it can’t be any worse than that (hopefully!) and I’m not squeamish etc. How did microgynon make you feel? Was it mood swings etc?

 

[Begborrowsteal]

I wish i didnt have to take the pill, one less to take every day would be good. Absolutely cannot risk another baby though. After struggling with PMS/PMDD, im too scared to change what im on - even though im higher risk for blood clots etc

 

[LouBug19]

Anyone here take citalopram and have nexplanon? Thinking of going back on it but I’m concerned about the implant being less effective because of citalopram…I know it’s not stated as a known interaction but I’m still anxious lol

I used to be on mirtazapine and had the implant at the same time. I don't remember having any issues.

I'm on the mini pill and have been for about 10 years. The implant didn't work for me (it pinched my skin) but I really want to be sterilised, I asked when I was 18 and got laughed at and I'm now 31 and still refused. I don't have kids, I don't want them for many reasons and I hate having to use the pill for the next 20 odd years. Condoms are a worry incase they break so I don't want to rely on them alone. I know if my partner asked for the snip he would get it no problem but I can't expect that off him so it's unfair that I can't be sterilised.

 

[jawidjanqndn]

thinking about going back on the pill because the pain is just horrendous and i get such low moods. just so worried about all the side effects it’s been 5 years since i was last on the pill so i have no idea where to even start.

 

[Lilypad]

I’ve just had my second child and when sorting out my contraception, I spoke to my doctor (who’s a woman) and she said it’s easier for the man to be sterilised but she refers women if they are done. Maybe try having an appointment with the female doctor at your GP as I find they are more understanding regarding this. She did say it can take 1-2 years on the nhs though .

 

[Hello Kitty]

A lady I worked with had problems getting the implant taken out also. She put on loads of weight with it and they wouldn't just take it out. In the end she said if they didn't then she would cut it out herself with a knife and then go to A and E. So they took it out for her!

They refused to take mine out and said they would only do it if I was planning to get pregnant

I hated it, I went from loving it in the first few weeks to a completely different person.

 

[Ghostpumpkin]

I’m on my third implant and find it works best for me, I havnt had a period for 7 years now (which I don’t known if that’s a good or bad thing) but I recently had to wait a year for my new one to be put in and it was delayed due to Covid, I was on the cerazette pill and I had no issues just that I kept forgetting to take it! I find the implant good because you can just forget about it, although I am worried when I want to start a family I’ve been on contraception for 7 years and wether that will effect things.

 

[Justreading]

Hi ladies,
What was everyone's experience with getting the coil fitted?
I had the Mirena coil fitted two years ago and while it wasn't agony, it was a very painful procedure. I remember thinking that it was the worst pain I'd ever experienced. I would describe it as having someone penetrating you with some kind of sharp object and trying to pierce through your uterus (I guess it's not that far off from the truth ). It probably didn't help that the coil didn't open properly at first, and that the GP had to go find another one in her drawers while I laid there with my legs wide open I was lucky, I didn't have any residual pain or cramping it was only painful during the actual fitting.
I remember reading about other girls' experiences with the coil before my appointment and in the vast majority of articles I read and videos I watched, it was described as something very painful.
Anyways, now that Naga Manchetti has spoken about her experience, I read on the BBC that X and Y health boards and organisations say that it's not meant to be painful? There's even a physician who said that most women would say that the pain is a 2 or a 3? I'm really just interested in hearing about your experience with it because I feel like I've been lied to

I've had 2 coils fitted now one copper coil about 6 years ago and more recently a mirena. I found it a little uncomfortable, a slight tugging sensation perhaps? And quite crampy for a few hours later. But not painful at all. I've been able to drive and carry on with my day straight after. Same with the removal, a tugging sensation and slight cramps but not painful.

 

[Pixipoppy]

Has anyone had the copper coil and recommend it? I'm having my second baby next week via csection and they've advised they can put the coil in during the op so I wouldn't feel it. I don't get on with hormonal contraception (tried several pills, implant and patch) so I like how this lasts for 10 years and no hormones. The only thing that worries me is the heavier bleeding that can happen, but is it a ridiculous amount or manageable when you already have semi-heavy periods?

I’ve not personally had one but I have a few friends who have - a couple have had quite bad experiences with cramping and heavy periods. If you can deal with that it’s worth it for a non hormonal contraception. I’d get it but I get quite bad cramping anyway and don’t want to make it worse.

 

[TJ90]

After 10 years of taking the pill the best contraception for us is now condoms. Why should it always be my responsibility rather than his?

 

[allforthegram]

thinking about going back on the pill because the pain is just horrendous and i get such low moods. just so worried about all the side effects it’s been 5 years since i was last on the pill so i have no idea where to even start.

I’ve never seen anyone mention it anywhere before but I took marvelon for years and it was the best… for me!
I’m onto month 3 of the Mirena for the first time after having a baby 6 months ago. I don’t know if I’m loving it but I’m not hating it…

 

[Amyx1518]

I know it can get a bad rap but I’ve had 3 Mirenas since 2011 and I love it. Haven’t had a period since mid 2012 and changing it every 5 years is simple. Dont have to think about
Contraception ever. Definitely recommend if you can power through the first six months
or so as it settles in. If it’s long term contraception you want (years rather than months) I’d recommend it.

 

[Lola123]

Resurrecting this thread to hopefully get some advice!

I've been on Desogestrel for 8 years now with no periods but I'm wondering if it's time for a change. I have zero sex drive, I feel bloated a lot, a bit depressed/lacking in motivation and I'm not sure if it's the pill or just the general state of affairs in the world lol

I would be open to trying another pill but side effects terrify me - like I haven't really gained weight or had acne with this one but what if another one causes it?! I don't recall my periods being too bad, just the general cramps but it's been so long since I've had one I don't know if I can accurately recall.

Do I just come off it and have a break for a while and see how my body reacts? Or ask my doctor if I can try something else. It feels like such a big decision which could effect my life hugely.

If it helps this is how I feel about desogestrel but I’ve been on it for 10 years. I’m wondering if a break in general would be good. It’s a catch 22 changing but deffo speak to a nurse about it, I find they’re generally really helpful

 

[Scorpihoe]

On my second implant, in total I’ve had it for 4.5 years. The bleeding and periods are totally random and heavy sometimes, I put on a bit of weight (which I was happy about anyway). Overall, it’s the most convenient method for me, but I’ve never tried anything else.

I’m way too forgetful for the pill