Her saying she felt violated from a smear test is ridiculous, you cannot be violated from something that you consented to in medical situations. sorry but you just can't, you can feel regret, you can feel upset, you can feel pain,you can feel disgusted but you cannot feel violated if you consented to it and booked the test, it is a doctor test it is not a sexual thing, where maybe you change your mind halfway through, it is a consent to a medical procedure to save your life so if you have
bleeping cervical cancer you don't die. I absolutely hate people who complain about medical procedures such as this, as if the doctors have the time physically in their day to individualize the tests for individual patients. sorry but you are supposed to do that on your own time, they tell you to take pain medication beforehand they will tell you to do things that may help you beforehand, there is no doctor who will say no you can't put on a blindfold or no you can't put in headphones or anything else that you need to do while you're having one. my gynecologist even would say if you need a break just tell me and we'll have a little break it is okay, like I understand these can be very painful for some people, so maybe Becky you just been in interacting with
crappy bleeping doctors or you are incapable and you need to bring somebody with you to your appointment to speak for you because you are incapable of speaking. it is all a her problem, she needs to do the work to help herself and she refuses and then is upset when people don't do the things that they cannot read her mind about she's infuriating an also her cry face is so punchable whenever she makes that stupid little pouty baby puppy face I want to punch her in the face because it is the face that people who are trying to make themselves cry make. Every single thing that she complains about comes back to her every single time it comes back to her not vocalizing her needs it comes back to her not telling people what she's thinking it comes back to her not doing
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Every single thing that she complains about comes back to her not vocalizing her needs, it comes back to her not telling people what she's thinking, it comes back to her not doing anything to help herself or pretending she is incapable, so she doesn't want to put the work in, she doesn't want to change. she wants to stay stagnant and is upset when people tell her that is what is happening. I have not seen a difference in her mindset or how she talks about anything or how she does anything since she was 15 years old that is not a normal, normal people including the neurodivergent grow and change and they change based on experiences. she has not changed, she continues to complain about the same things and be upset about the same things and does nothing for herself to help.
sorry but a lot of our individual problems are caused by ourselves, I am my biggest problem in my own life there's lots of things that I know that I do that contribute to the things that make me unhappy. So I am not trying to say I am perfect but I am working to change those things that are hurting me. but it's hard to change a human so I get it, I extend that empathy to her, but also if you're going to complain about it then own up to the fact that you have a part in it, because guess what you're one person you control your life. Every single day that I see anything in myself that reminds me of Becky I remember the bad of the thing that I need to change that is her impact on my life is she reminds me of the worst parts of myself, how that the person I definitely never want to be. I have been that person at points to my life and I never want to be that person again. Being the person who can't recognize that they are the thing standing in their own way is exhausting for people to be around.
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Her saying she felt violated from a smear test is ridiculous, you cannot be violated from something that you consented to in medical situations. sorry but you just can't, you can feel regret, you can feel upset, you can feel pain,you can feel disgusted but you cannot feel violated if you consented to it and booked the test, it is a doctor test it is not a sexual thing, where maybe you change your mind halfway through, it is a consent to a medical procedure to save your life so if you have bleeping cervical cancer you don't die. I absolutely hate people who complain about medical procedures such as this, as if the doctors have the time physically in their day to individualize the tests for individual patients. sorry but you are supposed to do that on your own time, they tell you to take pain medication beforehand they will tell you to do things that may help you beforehand, there is no doctor who will say no you can't put on a blindfold or no you can't put in headphones or anything else that you need to do while you're having one. my gynecologist even would say if you need a break just tell me and we'll have a little break it is okay, like I understand these can be very painful for some people, so maybe Becky you just been in interacting with crappy bleeping doctors or you are incapable and you need to bring somebody with you to your appointment to speak for you because you are incapable of speaking. it is all a her problem, she needs to do the work to help herself and she refuses and then is upset when people don't do the things that they cannot read her mind about she's infuriating an also her cry face is so punchable whenever she makes that stupid little pouty baby puppy face I want to punch her in the face because it is the face that people who are trying to make themselves cry make. Every single thing that she complains about comes back to her every single time it comes back to her not vocalizing her needs it comes back to her not telling people what she's thinking it comes back to her not doing
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Every single thing that she complains about comes back to her not vocalizing her needs, it comes back to her not telling people what she's thinking, it comes back to her not doing anything to help herself or pretending she is incapable, so she doesn't want to put the work in, she doesn't want to change. she wants to stay stagnant and is upset when people tell her that is what is happening. I have not seen a difference in her mindset or how she talks about anything or how she does anything since she was 15 years old that is not a normal, normal people including the neurodivergent grow and change and they change based on experiences. she has not changed, she continues to complain about the same things and be upset about the same things and does nothing for herself to help.
sorry but a lot of our individual problems are caused by ourselves, I am my biggest problem in my own life there's lots of things that I know that I do that contribute to the things that make me unhappy. So I am not trying to say I am perfect but I am working to change those things that are hurting me. but it's hard to change a human so I get it, I extend that empathy to her, but also if you're going to complain about it then own up to the fact that you have a part in it, because guess what you're one person you control your life. Every single day that I see anything in myself that reminds me of Becky I remember the bad of the thing that I need to change that is her impact on my life is she reminds me of the worst parts of myself, how that the person I definitely never want to be. I have been that person at points to my life and I never want to be that person again. Being the person who can't recognize that they are the thing standing in their own way is exhausting for people to be around.
Just going to say it's a misty she can feel violated but that is not what happened she was not violent you could feel violated I guess even if you actually weren't violated but it's not something you say on the internet that's something that you would like say to a friend not to the internet but Becky sees the internet as her friend for some reason instead of a actual platform
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