Gramma of 4....yes it was Hannah's coach...not Jessicas.
The obsessing over everything is a huge growing issue with Jessica...it's advanced to an almost debilitating stage....yes..obsessing and repeating things over and over can be associated with autism ...as well as severe IDD, severe OCD, manic schizophrenia among a few other things.
We parents who have a child who suffers from this type of obsessing where they get stuck in something and can't move past it..we WORK daily with help, guidance, coaching from professionals, therapist on how to help them cope when this happens.... If not addressed it will get worse and worse as time goes on...as we clearly see with jessica...over food, cards, death, dogs, old conversations from yEARS ago she plays on a loop in her head with various voices ..... It's out of control.
On Cody Speaks..Leasa deals with this daily with her son... He obsesses over something and repeats the question all day... Getting more worked up...the obsessing and repeating alters his mood, his ability to stay in control, make good choices, and it can cause self harm...
It's like scratching a mosquito bite...at first it feels good but it continues to itch so you scratch more, !onger, harder..eventually it becomes painful...bloody, your mood changes to irritable etc...
Leasa...does what I do from help with a therapist...we made a Velcro sticker chart...explained you can ask about " dogs for example" 6 times... Then no more today... Tomorrow is a new day...we visually mark off each time it's brought up..it took a bit of practice but now it's just a good habit...and it prevents elevation of frustration , self harm, doesn't drive everyone crazy! And teaches coping skills... Which are transferable to other things in her life.
Teaching our children no, teaching consequences, teaching a bad moment doesn't mean a bad day. Teaching coping skills helps prevent meltdowns ...
Val let's Jessica get manic and obsess over dead dogs, dead abby, drilling questions demanding HER answers.... Is extremely unhealthy and it's pure laziness on Vals part..
Telling Jessica ...okay.. That's enough... And teaching her it's not okay to ask 100 times... It's okay other people don't have dogs... Teach her bounderies... It's not okay to be obsessing over a dead dog.... From 2 years ago. She's not coping...if she were she wouldn't be still bringing it up to every single person she sees...
Jessica obsesses over EVERYTHING..especially because she feels everything belongs to her, she gets it first, she gets the most, it's all me me mine mine...it's getting worse and worse we all see it.
It doesn't matter WHY... The WHY she's doing it isn't the issue... It's WHY YOU aren't helping her deal with it that's the issue.
It's like watching someone choking..and you say... " yes she's choking because she took too big of a bite" ..........okay...... So???!?!? Now what??? Going to just sit back and watch telling everyone WHY? Or are you going to HELP her????
So instead of blaming autism ....or some " trauma" made up for the narrative ...HELP her!!!!get her a therapist learn how to actually help her!!! Instead of sitting back and letting her twist in the wind obsessing ...look at her infected sores! All over her body...we only see the ones on her hands and face ...her ankles legs and God miss where else is covered.
Be part of the solution instead of the problem.