Ashley James #48 She wants her friends pyjama distance and to forget her kids existence
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She gets her idea of a mother from Instagram accounts, the last place this stereotype exists. You’d think she’d understand it’s exaggerated for content, being her own industry.
She seems to have forgotten about her own Mum who ran various businesses with 3 children.
She seems to have forgotten about her own Mum who ran various businesses with 3 children.
You’re right-she definitely considers herself superior because she ‘works’
I don’t understand her. Alf’s childcare must cost a bomb- her ‘wage’ will barely cover it,surely
When I had my first child I had no choice but to go back to work full time and leave him with a childminder and I hated every minute of leaving him. She has no maternal instincts whatsoever and I pity her for it. Being a parent is one of the most rewarding things I’ve done-it’s the complete opposite for her.
Hmmmm... I adore my child, but I am not just her mum I am still me. I love my job and my colleagues and am at my best when I'm not all consumed by just being a mum.Nobody told her only deadbeat dad's (and mums) would choose work over their children. If men had the choice I'm sure a lot of them would rather be going to baby groups than working
I just don't understand people that don't like spending time with their children. Why did you have them!?
I can not be a stay at home mum and I can not just look after my child 24/7 as for me personally it's mentally exhausting and if I'm honest boring!
I'm currently on mat leave, doing all the baby classes and meeting new mums, and I have to say I hate every minute of it lol. But it gets me out the house, keeps my little one somewhat occupied and makes the day go faster.
But I'm looking forward to going back to work (actual work where I have to use my brain) and I know I will be a happier and better mum for it!
To be fair to her, if I saw her at one of those baby groups, I'd 100% steer-clear. She just looks the type to be an absolute witch.
Maybe that's why she doesn't enjoy it, because the one time she went, everyone saw through her for what she was.
Maybe that's why she doesn't enjoy it, because the one time she went, everyone saw through her for what she was.
Why research things yourself when you can just ask on Instagram and get 100s of suggestions sent directly to your inbox. She obviously knows how to look for stuff but she's lazy and entitled.
Also; I suppose if we are going with the fact that Ash's job is literally.... flouncing about in underwear and posting nonsensical crap on Instagram whilst accepting deliveries of free gifts from brands, then I guess she is actually telling the truth that she didn't take maternity leave. She was back to shilling tit and ramming her postpartum knickers down our throats the day after she gave birth.
Also; I suppose if we are going with the fact that Ash's job is literally.... flouncing about in underwear and posting nonsensical crap on Instagram whilst accepting deliveries of free gifts from brands, then I guess she is actually telling the truth that she didn't take maternity leave. She was back to shilling tit and ramming her postpartum knickers down our throats the day after she gave birth.
I had a genuine lockdown baby and it was hard going. I found mat leave difficult a lot of the time but I tried to get stuck in and socialise my baby (and myself) as much as possible as soon as things opened, be it on zoom or in person. It just irritates me that Ashley assumes all mums at these groups are “those mums who love to bake and aren’t career minded”. Utter bullshit.
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You can do it all, unless you're Ashley, then you're "just atit mum"
You can do it all, unless you're Ashley, then you're "just a
I’m currently dealing with a 2.9 year old dictator so I’m using my brain in a way MI6 would be proud impressed by.
She is so black and white. So keen to put people in their little boxes and act all superior for flung things in any way different to the norm. Stupid cow. There is no norm.
She is so black and white. So keen to put people in their little boxes and act all superior for flung things in any way different to the norm. Stupid cow. There is no norm.
this is so impressive!! and you are SO right.
Granted my friends haven't started having children yet, bar one - we are in the engagement/wedding season. But I don't think I know a single woman who's mother didnt work growing up, my one friend who does have a child works a full time job remotely from abroad, partner is in research, and they do have a constant juggle, I doubt any of my friends will stop working partly because you cannot really survive on one income especially in london.
But more to the point, women's identities are increasingly tied to their careers, in addition to their choice to become mothers and that's not a bad thing for women or children. my own drive for a career and belief that it can be done is my own mother who continued and advanced her career and raised her children. I grew up seeing my mother work and the joy and esteem she got from work. But what makes it possible is community - of help, childcare, relatives partner, activities, school etc.
I genuinely think her views on motherhood stem from the boarding school mum image of motherhood she saw growing up. in every other part of society motherhood looks very different and doesn't come with preconceived notions like 'just mums'. Her view is myopic and therefore completely unrelatable, because 99% of the population doesnt believe this. society says this and society says that - yes the society of the 1980-90s. not the society of now. And the kicker is because she looks down on the 'other mums' at classes instead of recognising that they are at LEAST her peers, she cannot avail herself of the community she needs to have both and come to peace with her identity as both.
Her ill informed, learned helpless, prejudiced narcissism strikes again.
It was only added to Rightmove in Feb too so it’s not like it was on the market ages with no offers so they got it cheap(er)The whole move and layout of the new place/ all the stairs etc screams that the kids are NOT the priority here doesn’t it
(I’m so far behind trying to catch up!)
WTF is 'masculine energy' if not thinly veiled sexism? She's such a werido. Is she trying to enter the whole 'trad wife' commentary. Why is she even elevating such nonsense? Quelle surprise, the voice for women has never actually spoken to any women. I can't even deal with the rest of her unfathomable nonsense other than like the other women here on this post. I care for my child, I do things for them and put them first as does my partner. We both work hard are both successful and I submitted my PhD last weekend whilst juggling a baby and working, all supported fully by my partner and guess what...we both did baby groups so shove that in your judgemental pipe and smoke it ashley 'masculine energy' james.
She goes on holiday to film yet more ‘content’ in bikinis that don’t fit!
I think you got the wrong end of the stick, I didn't mean you have to be a SAHM to love your children. You can absolutely love your job and me-time as well as your child.
Ash begrudges spending any time with her kids, that's my point. If you don't even love the time you do spend with them, what's the point?
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This , like, I’d love to like, errr, see. Like.
( That’s Ashley’s verbal fluff)
Does she really believe she’s a working mum though?
For the love of god please don’t get that bleeping fuzzy mic muff out. What corset will she be wearing this time?
Unlike her, people are capable of doing their own research and not going ‘I learnt this from Ashley James’
Unlike her, people are capable of doing their own research and not going ‘I learnt this from Ashley James’
It is funny she considers posting thirst trap pictures as "work".
That's what I do for fun after I've finished my full time job (not on Instagram for the male gaze though, just for whoever is my prey at the time 
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That's what I do for fun after I've finished my full time job
(not on Instagram for the male gaze though, just for whoever is my prey at the time )You can keep spouting it until you’re blue in the face hun but you really aren’t a good mum 
I really hope she focuses on article 8 and thinks about how it should apply to her children!For the love of god please don’t get that bleeping fuzzymicmuff out. What corset will she be wearing this time?
Unlike her, people are capable of doing their own research and not going ‘I learnt this from Ashley James’
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