InTheDollsHouse
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Algeronwashere
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She was schooled by the guy when she said she’d happily like the school to take over the responsibility of brushing children’s teeth because she has to put Alf in a headlock to do it. He said that keeping a child clean was the basic responsibility of being a parent.
willowtree2
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Ashley babe. Give up. They don’t even fit her hooves
This is too fucking funny
cyrilsneer
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guys, don’t you just HATE it when your 100% cashmere socks rip time after time?!
Truly a woman of the people, thank you for being our voice Ashley 🫶
InTheDollsHouse
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screenfreelookatme
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I must have missed the chapter on attachment theory where you put your six month old into childcare for 11 hours a day while you sit next door getting your hair done and trying on clothes 
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(And I’m not against daycare, but “attachment parenting” is such a laughable label when it comes to Ash)
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(And I’m not against daycare, but “attachment parenting” is such a laughable label when it comes to Ash)
lalalalaletmecomplain
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Attachment parenting 
I’ve never seen a boy less attached to his mother
I’ve never seen a boy less attached to his motherI am so pissed off by this whole Alf is possibly autistic chat from Ash, because she is literally using it at an excuse to get out of any accusation of how crap her parenting is. When she sends him to school and he isn’t potty trained well it’s not poor Ash’s fault, it’s because Alf is autistic. When he can’t focus in a lesson it’s because he has ADHD, not because she has put a screen in front of him for every meal, every day out, every train ride, every car journey, every trip in the pushchair his whole life.
She’s admitted herself she doesn’t care if he is autistic or not, so it gets her out of jail free for any delay he has and completely minimises the challenges that parents of neurodiverse children have every single day; parents that DO care and fight for their child’s best interests. Ash is sick
She’s admitted herself she doesn’t care if he is autistic or not, so it gets her out of jail free for any delay he has and completely minimises the challenges that parents of neurodiverse children have every single day; parents that DO care and fight for their child’s best interests. Ash is sick
Stewart123
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I think the way she describes herself as ‘performing as a mum’ says a lot about how much time she spends with her kids and their level of interaction.
She says she’s never questioned herself as a mum but wants to drop out after one class because Alf wouldn’t do what he was told and basically showed her up. Sounds to me like the class made her question her mumming, the development of her child vs his peers and she hates not feeling superior to other women.
She says she’s never questioned herself as a mum but wants to drop out after one class because Alf wouldn’t do what he was told and basically showed her up. Sounds to me like the class made her question her mumming, the development of her child vs his peers and she hates not feeling superior to other women.
willowtree2
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I’m gobsmacked.
‘Alf said thank you daddy for my dollshouse’
‘Daddy didn’t get it
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Speechless. Tommy, bin this cunt woman off and save yourself a life of misery mate.
‘Alf said thank you daddy for my dollshouse’
‘Daddy didn’t get it
’Speechless. Tommy, bin this cunt woman off and save yourself a life of misery mate.
JarvisCockerSpaniel
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I’m still getting over the fact that she posted a pic of herself at 3 on her son’s birthday! Give a shit!!! We’ve all been 3!!!!
BusyDoinNuffin
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I am absolutely triggered by her latest posts. It was almost a surely, surely she isn’t saying this out loud moment.
She is the most selfish, narcissistic, nasty person I’ve come across I think. She doesn’t deserve that poor gorgeous boy and he certainly doesn’t deserve her. How dare you undermine the challenges that ND children (and adults) face. How f@cking dare she aff link a ND test.
Guess what Ash. I adore my child (you know like most mothers do, but don’t feel the need to protest it quite so much) but I have worked damn hard to get a diagnosis, work closely with school/SENCO, coached their dad who didn’t see it (and is also undiagnosed ASD), and my family who didn’t understand it. Spent hours reading and planning strategies to support them, and me. That’s because being ND DOES matter and it matters a lot. It is heartbreaking, frightening and frustrating to have a child who never sleeps, has such huge disregulation that they self harm and harm you too, talk about wishing they weren’t here, hates themselves and hears so much negative language due to not ‘conforming’ has to leave what should be lovely events because it’s too loud and overly stimulating, has PDA so even before leaving the house at 7:45am to go to a proper job I may have been hit, drawers slammed on me, things thrown, tears and then the fallout on the way to school where they are desperately sorry and talk about wishing they weren’t here (and not wanting to let them go at the school gates). I could go on as that is only the surface. I too have seen children handed over to the system because the levels of violence towards parents, siblings, carers. Parents needing psychiatric help themselves. How dare you undermine and underplay the challenges. If your child was psychically disabled would that not matter either? Would they just be expected to live without any adjustments because it didn’t matter anyway.
As for the online test, there is a reason there is a hugely long list to be diagnosed. It’s because it isn’t a flippant as an online test, it’s a long process that requires specialist, clinical, psychiatric, medical input.
I’ll gladly diagnose you Ash, with narcissism. You may very well be ND yourself but that doesn’t preclude you from just being damn right horrible.
Sorry for the rant
She is the most selfish, narcissistic, nasty person I’ve come across I think. She doesn’t deserve that poor gorgeous boy and he certainly doesn’t deserve her. How dare you undermine the challenges that ND children (and adults) face. How f@cking dare she aff link a ND test.
Guess what Ash. I adore my child (you know like most mothers do, but don’t feel the need to protest it quite so much) but I have worked damn hard to get a diagnosis, work closely with school/SENCO, coached their dad who didn’t see it (and is also undiagnosed ASD), and my family who didn’t understand it. Spent hours reading and planning strategies to support them, and me. That’s because being ND DOES matter and it matters a lot. It is heartbreaking, frightening and frustrating to have a child who never sleeps, has such huge disregulation that they self harm and harm you too, talk about wishing they weren’t here, hates themselves and hears so much negative language due to not ‘conforming’ has to leave what should be lovely events because it’s too loud and overly stimulating, has PDA so even before leaving the house at 7:45am to go to a proper job I may have been hit, drawers slammed on me, things thrown, tears and then the fallout on the way to school where they are desperately sorry and talk about wishing they weren’t here (and not wanting to let them go at the school gates). I could go on as that is only the surface. I too have seen children handed over to the system because the levels of violence towards parents, siblings, carers. Parents needing psychiatric help themselves. How dare you undermine and underplay the challenges. If your child was psychically disabled would that not matter either? Would they just be expected to live without any adjustments because it didn’t matter anyway.
As for the online test, there is a reason there is a hugely long list to be diagnosed. It’s because it isn’t a flippant as an online test, it’s a long process that requires specialist, clinical, psychiatric, medical input.
I’ll gladly diagnose you Ash, with narcissism. You may very well be ND yourself but that doesn’t preclude you from just being damn right horrible.
Sorry for the rant
MillionDollarBaby
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So the elephant in the room has finally been given a nod.
Like the rest of you I am astounded by her laissez faire attitude to this.
We will seek support if and when the time comes??? You should have been seeking support when it was obvious that gorgeous little Alf had stalled developmentally, was learning his speech from rote rather than forming sentences himself, was physically behind his peers in terms of his gross and fine motor skills.
It’s lazy parenting, it’s not intuition, it’s not ill love Alf come what may, it’s neglect. It’s neglecting his basic needs as a child and of your basic role as a parent.
Baby classes. Does any parent truly enjoy them?! Probably not. I personally enjoyed a hot cup of tea and a biscuit and a natter with other mums, forming social circles. Ok maybe not friendships but circles of people I could talk to, wave at if I saw them round town.
Did I enjoy it? No.
Did I dance like a twat and sing Old Macdonald with gusto once a week, learn baby sign, go to rhyme time at my local library? You bet, because it all aids child development.
Alf didn’t do as he’s told or understand what he’s being asked to do cause it was all new to him.
Lastly, for reasons I won’t go into, I found her “perform as a mum” really triggering.
I hate her.
I really do.
Sorry for the rant.
Like the rest of you I am astounded by her laissez faire attitude to this.
We will seek support if and when the time comes??? You should have been seeking support when it was obvious that gorgeous little Alf had stalled developmentally, was learning his speech from rote rather than forming sentences himself, was physically behind his peers in terms of his gross and fine motor skills.
It’s lazy parenting, it’s not intuition, it’s not ill love Alf come what may, it’s neglect. It’s neglecting his basic needs as a child and of your basic role as a parent.
Baby classes. Does any parent truly enjoy them?! Probably not. I personally enjoyed a hot cup of tea and a biscuit and a natter with other mums, forming social circles. Ok maybe not friendships but circles of people I could talk to, wave at if I saw them round town.
Did I enjoy it? No.
Did I dance like a twat and sing Old Macdonald with gusto once a week, learn baby sign, go to rhyme time at my local library? You bet, because it all aids child development.
Alf didn’t do as he’s told or understand what he’s being asked to do cause it was all new to him.
Lastly, for reasons I won’t go into, I found her “perform as a mum” really triggering.
I hate her.
I really do.
Sorry for the rant.
I imagine the reason Ashley didn’t do the swimming today is a whole lot less deep and probably because she got a spray tan today for Alf’s party tomorrow
JarvisCockerSpaniel
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If she’d ever bothered to attend a parent and baby class or a playgroup she’d realise ‘how are they sleeping?’ Is literally just a conversation starter. Now mine is a toddler it’s more ‘do they still nap?’ It’s just parent small talk.
(and the correct answer to the first question is ‘oh you know, up and down, how about yours?’
And NOT ‘Like an ANGEL, I think I’m sleeping more these days than I did pre-baby! She’s slept through since 5 weeks!’
Said to sleep-deprived me in a trilling voice at my local playgroup when I was on the verge of injecting coffee into my eyeballs/engineering a little fall so I might have to spend a couple of days in hospital with a pin in my ankle to get some rest.
I STILL HATE YOU MELANIE.
(and the correct answer to the first question is ‘oh you know, up and down, how about yours?’
And NOT ‘Like an ANGEL, I think I’m sleeping more these days than I did pre-baby! She’s slept through since 5 weeks!’
Said to sleep-deprived me in a trilling voice at my local playgroup when I was on the verge of injecting coffee into my eyeballs/engineering a little fall so I might have to spend a couple of days in hospital with a pin in my ankle to get some rest.
I STILL HATE YOU MELANIE.
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crunkysnacks15
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Neurodiverse or not. No one can really say. It looks like it on screenz its been so well documented for the whole world to see that her child has experienced 3 years of lack of opportunity
strapped in various devices , in a play room constantly - not promoting gross motor development
Constant screen time , no family meals for socialising, a mum who actively says she doesnt like playing with a baby
any excuse to get rid of him - to many adults . So no secure attachments, disrupted as fuck.
okay, fussy eating- but was never offered anything! Just what he liked over and iver, of course he wouldnt try new stuff.
no proper shoes that fit, again limiting mobility
God where does it end with how shit a parent she is with how many examples you could give
what i mean is - is it just consistent under performing parenting. I dont think i could say
but a clue is how happy he looks at his childminders. mixes well with other children there too. Has little friends
im not saying he isnt neurodiverse I just think there are other factors, i think with intervention this little boy would come on leaps and bounds regardless of the reason
strapped in various devices , in a play room constantly - not promoting gross motor development
Constant screen time , no family meals for socialising, a mum who actively says she doesnt like playing with a baby
any excuse to get rid of him - to many adults . So no secure attachments, disrupted as fuck.
okay, fussy eating- but was never offered anything! Just what he liked over and iver, of course he wouldnt try new stuff.
no proper shoes that fit, again limiting mobility
God where does it end with how shit a parent she is with how many examples you could give
what i mean is - is it just consistent under performing parenting. I dont think i could say
but a clue is how happy he looks at his childminders. mixes well with other children there too. Has little friends
im not saying he isnt neurodiverse I just think there are other factors, i think with intervention this little boy would come on leaps and bounds regardless of the reason
Seriously, she's been playing dress up all day, her children have been in the care of others, between probably 7.30am till 6/6.30pm and she calls that working hard?
I'm sorry but you aren't seriously thinking this is a hard day's work Ashley? You've been at home all day trying on your clothes! Personally I find it insulting to parents who do work bloody hard and probably for a pittance too, yet still come home, cook dinner, bath their kids and get them to bed and don't expect a bloody medal for it! Never mind having spray tans ffs
Also, I do think Ashley is a lovely looking woman, lovely figure, yet her taste in clothes is horrendous....and just a note incase you are reading Ashley, just because something is trendy doesn't mean we should all be wearing our joggers, tucked into our socks sorry but you look bloody ridiculous!
I'm sorry but you aren't seriously thinking this is a hard day's work Ashley? You've been at home all day trying on your clothes! Personally I find it insulting to parents who do work bloody hard and probably for a pittance too, yet still come home, cook dinner, bath their kids and get them to bed and don't expect a bloody medal for it! Never mind having spray tans ffs
Also, I do think Ashley is a lovely looking woman, lovely figure, yet her taste in clothes is horrendous....and just a note incase you are reading Ashley, just because something is trendy doesn't mean we should all be wearing our joggers, tucked into our socks
sorry but you look bloody ridiculous!of COURSE shes used this to bang on about her ADHD. of course she has. addressing Alf's issues because shes figured out a way to spin a new self centered narrative for the Ashley show, starring Ashley James, a show about the mindless perfunctory misadventures of a vapid, vain, talentless narcissist with criminal lack of self-awareness. The fact she can openly say she is not getting Alf help while proudly broadcasting her own lame self-diagnosis with ADHD and to be self-righteous about it to boot just shows how totally out of touch she is with the thinking of her peers i.e. the modern practical minded feminist generation of women many of us are on this thread.
the adhd thing is a personal bugbear that could probably do with some self reflection on my part, but i will say that scoring X or Y on that form only indicates that you MIGHT have it. only a rigourous psychiatric assessment that investigates your entire fucking childhood as well as every mental breakdown you've had in excruciating detail can determine whether you should receive a diagnosis. My telltale sign for spotting adhd bullshit is when they talk about how relieved and enlightened they feel on diagnosis. For me receiving a diagnosis was a day of total and utter grief, for all the opportunities i would have made more of a success of if I'd had the right support, grief for my childhoos being branded a naughty child and a possible criminal... and Ash, the first thing i did when i got my diagnosis was put myself through a year of therapy. If you're so convinced you have it maybe consider it.
sorry long rant (also) over.
the adhd thing is a personal bugbear that could probably do with some self reflection on my part, but i will say that scoring X or Y on that form only indicates that you MIGHT have it. only a rigourous psychiatric assessment that investigates your entire fucking childhood as well as every mental breakdown you've had in excruciating detail can determine whether you should receive a diagnosis. My telltale sign for spotting adhd bullshit is when they talk about how relieved and enlightened they feel on diagnosis. For me receiving a diagnosis was a day of total and utter grief, for all the opportunities i would have made more of a success of if I'd had the right support, grief for my childhoos being branded a naughty child and a possible criminal... and Ash, the first thing i did when i got my diagnosis was put myself through a year of therapy. If you're so convinced you have it maybe consider it.
sorry long rant (also) over.