Ashley Cain

[Lollypops12345]

Whilst I feel for them that they have lost their beautiful daughter, I have had to unfollow them. My reasons for this are
1. The constant "Let's go champ" is odd.
2.ashley making videos of himself with his top off on the edge of a rock
3. Where is ashley supporting saff? Literally after azaylia passed away he was off everyday on bike rides without her.
4. I found the loud music totally disrespectful in a graveyard. This is a place of rest not a place to have a party. Wrong!!

 

[Heretoread19]

I lost my son at the end of last year at only a few days old and everything about her 1st birthday didn't sit right with me.
We have an older son and take him with us to the cemetery where he plays. We once had someone shouting at us to take him somewhere else "as this isn't a park" because she was grieving for her son. We weren't even being loud!
Also, our cemetery closes at 6pm so I don't know if they requested to have it open later? A little strange if they have a home they could have had a celebration.

I get it, I do but I don't like all the photos, stories etc. Especially when she was in her last days.
We didn't share anything until my son had passed...

I know everyone grieves differently but I just can't get my head around it.

 

[katetotheparty86]

My heart breaks for them so bad, I couldn't even begin to imagine the pain they must be feeling. One thing what doesn't sit right with me though, is all the "fan" pages people have made about azaylia. Posting pictures of a dying baby an calling her their angel like they knew her. Some of them even have things like "saf liked×3 an commented" as if its an achievement to be noticed by the parents of the poor baby they are posting about. Its just weird!

 

[Laurawright]

My heart breaks for them so bad, I couldn't even begin to imagine the pain they must be feeling. One thing what doesn't sit right with me though, is all the "fan" pages people have made about azaylia. Posting pictures of a dying baby an calling her their angel like they knew her. Some of them even have things like "saf liked×3 an commented" as if its an achievement to be noticed by the parents of the poor baby they are posting about. Its just weird!

Those accounts have never sat right with me it must be even more heartbreaking for the family to see those pictures everyday

 

[Book]

Those accounts have never sat right with me it must be even more heartbreaking for the family to see those pictures everyday

Saf etc actually like the posts on these pages as Said above. So while it does seem strange to me also, it appears to be ok with the Cain family and may even be of support to them.

 

[lockdown sux]

Sorry for your loss @Heretoread19

 

[littlelunches]

I agree it’s so sad to see Saff reach out for Ashley and him to barely acknowledge her. He seems quite cold towards her. She always seems so lonely and in bed alone talking to stories or posting at the cemetery alone. Her brother seems lovely and Ashley’s sister seemed to be a nice support for Saff too.

 

[Olivemaks]

Whilst I feel for them that they have lost their beautiful daughter, I have had to unfollow them. My reasons for this are
1. The constant "Let's go champ" is odd.
2.ashley making videos of himself with his top off on the edge of a rock
3. Where is ashley supporting saff? Literally after azaylia passed away he was off everyday on bike rides without her.
4. I found the loud music totally disrespectful in a graveyard. This is a place of rest not a place to have a party. Wrong!!

I agree with everything you said. Ashley on the rocks. The drone view was all a bit too cinematic and dramatic for me

 

[geeforthetea]

I know it's not about the money and I only donated a tenner, I don't really care what they do with it. But the total as a whole was a lot of money and some people donated thousands. I know he has said that they are doing something with it eventually but it would be nice to get more of an update on what that will be. I know they used some for the wee girls funeral, it was quite over the top and it must have costs tens of thousands of pounds, I think they could have scaled it back a bit and still given her a lovely send off without spending so much money from the just giving. I'd have rather they donated the full amount to another child who is waiting for the same treatment, as many don't have the platform to raise that level of cash.

 

[Heretoread19]

I know it's not about the money and I only donated a tenner, I don't really care what they do with it. But the total as a whole was a lot of money and some people donated thousands. I know he has said that they are doing something with it eventually but it would be nice to get more of an update on what that will be. I know they used some for the wee girls funeral, it was quite over the top and it must have costs tens of thousands of pounds, I think they could have scaled it back a bit and still given her a lovely send off without spending so much money from the just giving. I'd have rather they donated the full amount to another child who is waiting for the same treatment, as many don't have the platform to raise that level of cash.

You don't actually have to pay for a childs funeral. The costs are taken care of. Sometimes you will have to pay for the coffin but our funeral director didn't take a penny from us, we only paid for flowers and our sons headstone (which they don't have yet...)

 

[Noonoosanne2]

My heart breaks for them so bad, I couldn't even begin to imagine the pain they must be feeling. One thing what doesn't sit right with me though, is all the "fan" pages people have made about azaylia. Posting pictures of a dying baby an calling her their angel like they knew her. Some of them even have things like "saf liked×3 an commented" as if its an achievement to be noticed by the parents of the poor baby they are posting about. Its just weird!

That I find totally weird and also all the “merchandise “ when she was poorly it was so uncomfortable to see and people got way way to invested, people need to let this poor baby rest now and her parents to grieve,

 

[geeforthetea]

You don't actually have to pay for a childs funeral. The costs are taken care of. Sometimes you will have to pay for the coffin but our funeral director didn't take a penny from us, we only paid for flowers and our sons headstone (which they don't have yet...)

I didn't realise that. I mean more the marquee, the flowers, decorating the hall, the fireworks, the catering etc . I guess it could all have been gifted but they did say they were using money from the go fund me to pay for the funeral. It's just looked like it would have cost a lot of money and I appreciate they wanted to have a celebration of her life, If they weren't gifted then its going into thousands of pounds and I think those funds should have been kept for donating treatment to another child or children.

 

[Heretoread19]

I didn't realise that. I mean more the marquee, the flowers, decorating the hall, the fireworks, the catering etc . I guess it could all have been gifted but they did say they were using money from the go fund me to pay for the funeral. It's just looked like it would have cost a lot of money and I appreciate they wanted to have a celebration of her life, If they weren't gifted then its going into thousands of pounds and I think those funds should have been kept for donating treatment to another child or children.

Completely agree. Sorry that's what I was trying to say.
I didn't realise until we had to do it either but it felt like they were spending money people had donated on a party to me when it could have been put to better use for a poorly child.

 

[Freckledredhead]

I lost my son at the end of last year at only a few days old and everything about her 1st birthday didn't sit right with me.
We have an older son and take him with us to the cemetery where he plays. We once had someone shouting at us to take him somewhere else "as this isn't a park" because she was grieving for her son. We weren't even being loud!
Also, our cemetery closes at 6pm so I don't know if they requested to have it open later? A little strange if they have a home they could have had a celebration.

I get it, I do but I don't like all the photos, stories etc. Especially when she was in her last days.
We didn't share anything until my son had passed...

I know everyone grieves differently but I just can't get my head around it.

Sorry for your loss

 

[Mums84]

I want to hug Saf, from a mother to a mother. I think I would want to die if I had been through what she had been through. Ashley seems to be in the dark, running from those tides of grief.
They don't seem together anymore, the past year for them will have been one of trauma. Most couples don't survive a loss like that, I remember reading that when Sarah Payne's parents split up. God bless them and anyone who faces that.

 

[Lollypops12345]

What I find really disturbing is all these small businesses fighting for attention with their "azaylia" items they've made like it's some sort of competition so they gain more followers. I can think of a few people who ate constantly doing this. Weird!!!

 

[Poppysmimi]

You don't actually have to pay for a childs funeral. The costs are taken care of. Sometimes you will have to pay for the coffin but our funeral director didn't take a penny from us, we only paid for flowers and our sons headstone (which they don't have yet...)

Same here x

 

[Okgolightly]

They do seem very detached from each other which I've thought for a while. Ashley has clearly chosen exercise as his coping mechanism but what has Saf got? Whenever I watch her stories she just seems completely broken and it's awful to think of her on her own whilst Ashley is out exercising all hours of the day. It also hit me that he signed his poem for Azaylia just from daddy. But then I suppose everyone does grieve differently

 

[Noonoosanne2]

It seems they are constantly getting things sent to them if Azalyia like candles, photos, personally wouldn’t it be best to say thank you for the lovely thought but there’s going to come a time when they will run out of room wouldn’t it best for donations to her charity instead of these gifts, the charity if done right could raise thousands, there was another Midlands lad who passed away about 11 yrs ago Harry, his Mum has gone on to raise millions through the charity she set up in his memory

 

[BettySpaghetty]

Saf had a lady who she didn't know in her clinic for a treatment the other day who had a tattoo done for Azaylia. I find it disturbing to be honest.