Ashley Cain

[Noonoosanne2]

I really do hope this charity comes off soon as it will give them a purpose especially Ashley who is just existing through exercise, I

 

[vdh266]

I don’t understand how they’ve got such a huge plot for azaylia. She was litterally a tiny baby but it’s a full on massive garden she has? Do you pay for the size or have they just made the garden that big themselves?

 

[Cdinvoice]

I think it’s very unfair for some to claim they are doing it all for attention rather than being for Azaylia, you can see they are both struggling. Ashley has lost his spark and does almost look like he’s living but there’s nothing behind his eyes. Saff is obviously upset and probably is struggling with the media attention as she gained these followers so maybe she feels that she has to document her journey because of her new followers?

I think unfortunately social media is a toxic place for anyone, it’s awful that a lot of people feel so reliant on it. I did feel uncomfortable watching some of the stories especially towards Azaylias final days. Having two children (one who is always in and out of hospital with heart disease) it got too much at some points and I had to put myself back from the black hole of social media.

i dunno I followed this quite closely as Azaylia was the most beautiful girl, and I think it definitely raised awareness into the cancer and getting those record donor requests was amazing. I do agree though that perhaps they should step back and feel the grief, as opposed to distracting themselves because bottling emotions is never good.

But regardless of what they chose to post, talk about, share etc, they will be going through torture each day without their baby and I do feel so awful for them both.

Hell on earth, it’s true!
they are navigating the journey differently,,,Ashley is a broken man who deals with exercise endorphins,, Saff is a broken woman who hasn’t yet found her relief yet (bike riding is definatly NOT!!Albeit it’s clear to see Ashley thinks it’s best for her :0(
I don’t know him but I’ve delved quite deeply into him as a person on previous interviews/media/celeb stuff and I would NEVER put them together.
the whole situation is horrific and I just want to scoop Saffiya up and make it better

I don’t understand how they’ve got such a huge plot for azaylia. She was litterally a tiny baby but it’s a full on massive garden she has? Do you pay for the size or have they just made the garden that big themselves?

They paid for the funeral through funds raised ( nothing underhand they were very transparent on giving the baby the “best day”)
Im
Sure I read it’s a family plot. Which let’s face it, that would give me comfort, knowing categorically that no matter what they would be with her eventually.

My heart goes out to both Saf and Ashley loosing a child in any circumstance is cruel and hard to comprehend as it’s not the way of nature. Most parents who’s child die end up divorcing as it is such a difficult time. I know we do only see snippets off their life however it’s extremely noticeable that Ashley unfortunately does not have the same love or compassion as Saf for their relationship. The funeral gave off very cold vibes - I feel Saf is struggling massively, she insists she doesn’t want to take medication etc which is fair everybody has a choice but I think she’s trying to cope the same way as Ashley.

even when you look back at birthday or Mother’s Day post they seemed to be forced there was no real compassion for Saf. I give it a few months after the charity picks up and they will go their separate ways. The only thing keeping them together is the grieving journey. I pray for both & hope they find happiness.

They aren’t even on the same grief journey either

 

[ai2021]

I just hope for Saf’s sake she doesn’t see this page. If she’s as fragile as you all think she is then reading this will definitely do her more harm than good . She probably has enough going on and could do with a bit of kindness and compassion.

I completely agree. Everyone grieves very differently and they need to do what they can to try and get through this is any way they can.
It was the babies first birthday, any parents would have a party, and they both have big family/friend circles that would have wanted to be there.
I wouldn’t want to be reading things about how I’m coping online

 

[Peakyblinders]

From her stories saf tries to get his attention and he seems to just blank her, also I’m not sure what went on with her mother but she posts some really strange things on her IG, I know they wanted to celebrate Azalyias birthday and totally understand that but that was a full on party in cemetery in a residential area, it was inappropriate and selfish, her resting place is getting very OTT my friend had a few teddies removed from her childs resting place so I’m not sure how this has been allowed. I just hope soon they take time out as saf mentions many times she’s got anxiety I just hope they both don’t crash and burn, they both need to be supporting each other

What does her mother post?

I personally don’t begrudge them doing the grave thing yesterday as someone else said she is only 1 once and it’s a little bit of happiness in what has been a horrible year for them. I think this is quite a common thing now especially for people who have long young friends etc. I don’t know I just don’t think we can judge.:. And I definitely wouldn’t call it a disco as someone else said.

In terms of saf and ash I am unsure, to be fair ash never really posted saf like EVER. Even before azaylia… I always wondered who his Mrs was. I do agree she is doing all this bike and fitness stuff to somehow seek his approval. And it does seem she is such a lovely sweet girl who adores ash but he never seems very interested. But she did a q&a not too long ago and she said thir relationship is great and they are closer than ever so I don’t know?

 

[Noonoosanne2]

What does her mother post?

I personally don’t begrudge them doing the grave thing yesterday as someone else said she is only 1 once and it’s a little bit of happiness in what has been a horrible year for them. I think this is quite a common thing now especially for people who have long young friends etc. I don’t know I just don’t think we can judge.:. And I definitely wouldn’t call it a disco as someone else said.

In terms of saf and ash I am unsure, to be fair ash never really posted saf like EVER. Even before azaylia… I always wondered who his Mrs was. I do agree she is doing all this bike and fitness stuff to somehow seek his approval. And it does seem she is such a lovely sweet girl who adores ash but he never seems very interested. But she did a q&a not too long ago and she said thir relationship is great and they are closer than ever so I don’t know?

I feel for her that his not even mentioned her in his insta story today griefs such an awful thing I really don’t want it to hit her ten fold she’s a fragile soul & just needs the love of someone going through the same thing

 

[DevaVictrix]

I know Ashley & Saf are a bit of a touchy subject after what they have been through & I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, I may be in the minority here but I just wish they would both take a break away from social media, I know we only see a snippet of their lives but they really need to step away & grieve alone for a while, I feel Ashley is on the verge of a breakdown I know exercise is good for the Mind but he actually worries me that he doesn’t rest, it would be good to see them go away as a couple, I know they are starting The charity which is fantastic that Azalyias legacy will live on.
I will probably get slaughtered for saying this but I think the party in the cemetery tonight was a bit much it really isn’t the place for something like this I found it quite disrespectful towards the surroundings. Saf is looking more fragile and lost, it’s such a weird one as I cringe when she asks where she can get things from & recommendations on her stories when she knows she’s going to get gifted something
Sorry I’m really going on I just needed to get a few things off my chest ! I really do like the both of them and like I said I just think they need to step away & grieve

This . I have felt the same thing about them. I believe they are good people and I feel so sad for them, but it makes for uncomfortable viewing at times.

 

[Njgjji]

Have been deeply saddened by what they have gone through and found it completely heart wrenching. However I do feel incredibly sad for saf. I no we don’t see everything and who knows what goes on behind closed doors but I’ve always felt she’s completely in love with him and he doesn’t show much back. A video not long ago she said she made him his favourite dinner he was unaware he was being filmed and he barely even said thank you and just carried on watching tv. It’s also seemed very much about him and his family and his friends. She needs support and love and made to feel secure and I just don’t get that vibe they don’t seem to do anything together even the funeral photos he’s just so distant no holding her hugging her he barely even said her name on stories for a long time it was always just my partner. I hope I’m wrong but I’ve never had good vibes from him but do really feel for them and hope I’m wrong.

 

[MamaD]

I just want to pick Saff up and give her a hug. She seems so alone and although she says on her stories that her and Ash are stronger than ever, he seems to always be with everyone but her.

 

[Penny for them]

I can't even imagine how I'd react towards my partner though if I lost my whole world. I can't even imagine the grief , what do you talk about ,maybe it's too raw too painful,to
Try and exist alone then together,if it's possible maybe it's not possible. I don't know how the family dynamic is but no matter what how on earth can the mum fall out with her daughter she surely gets a pass ,to be however,to say whatever,her mum is nowhere to be seen,I know we don't see it all,my empathy is so strong towards them,because I followed the journey,but I had to block it a bit too because I couldn't handle the thought of what they were going through,I sobbed the news she passed,it was something that come over me,I struggled for days to get it out my head,that's a grain of salt in a huge pot of salt that they live in,I just can't. The cemetery,a thought that entered my head was the other resting place's,if I was visiting my loved one might I feel intimidated yes,but that's me. I also can't cope with balloons being released because of innocent wildlife being injured - but again ,small grains of salt to me.

 

[Pollie]

I think the celebration with dance and color was really beautiful and suited them. It’s strange to see all the phones out but perhaps they wanted footage of it from friends as well. She was such a sweet baby, so sad to see her photos.

I think the celebration with dance and color was really beautiful and suited them. It’s strange to see all the phones out but perhaps they wanted footage of it from friends as well. She was such a sweet baby, so sad to see her photos.

 

[Poppysmimi]

I don’t understand how they’ve got such a huge plot for azaylia. She was litterally a tiny baby but it’s a full on massive garden she has? Do you pay for the size or have they just made the garden that big themselves?

When my son passed away, I had a few small teddies taken off his grave. I was told they weren’t allowed.

 

[Anon1989]

When my son passed away, I had a few small teddies taken off his grave. I was told they weren’t allowed.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also can’t imagine being the type of person that removes teddies from a child’s grave. There’s jobsworth and then there’s heartless.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

When my son passed away, I had a few small teddies taken off his grave. I was told they weren’t allowed.

So sorry for your loss, my friend had the same she had some small teddies and photos and they got removed

 

[lunaluna10]

It is really sad to watch Saff, I have thought the same watching stories she always seems alone or with her brother, it’s a shame he isn’t there for her more

 

[fnddlsoxnz]

Someone mentioned on here about her mum..
I could be wrong but a few months ago before their loss it was said on a thread that apparently her mum created a Facebook group for Azaylia without the parents permission and was accepting gifts, money etc and keeping it all. Saf then put a story up to her followers letting them know that any group or page for Azaylia was not created by them and to not donate/give gifts. Also on the mums Instagram she made a few indirect captions on her posts about Ashley, especially pictures from the funeral and it was clear she didn’t have a liking for Ashley. I’m not sure if something had gone on before Azaylia though . Don’t @ me I’m just relaying what someone said on a previous tattle thread xx

 

[Cccxxxxxxxxxxxx]

So agree with all this. I feel so sad for them
But they are both so lost and strung up with Instagram. The shouting let’s go champ all the time I don’t know something weird about it. What bothered me about Saf was the promoting/AD of a hair curler only a few weeks ago it just made me cringe a wee bit not sure where they go from here social media wise but it’s sad to see. I feel like saf is always putting on a front

 

[madness12]

I’ll say one thing, I did always think that about Ash and Saf until recently. Yes he doesn’t post much about her or even mention her but have you ever read his comments under majority of her posts?

 

[Lollypops12345]

I know Ashley & Saf are a bit of a touchy subject after what they have been through & I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, I may be in the minority here but I just wish they would both take a break away from social media, I know we only see a snippet of their lives but they really need to step away & grieve alone for a while, I feel Ashley is on the verge of a breakdown I know exercise is good for the Mind but he actually worries me that he doesn’t rest, it would be good to see them go away as a couple, I know they are starting The charity which is fantastic that Azalyias legacy will live on.
I will probably get slaughtered for saying this but I think the party in the cemetery tonight was a bit much it really isn’t the place for something like this I found it quite disrespectful towards the surroundings. Saf is looking more fragile and lost, it’s such a weird one as I cringe when she asks where she can get things from & recommendations on her stories when she knows she’s going to get gifted something
Sorry I’m really going on I just needed to get a few things off my chest ! I really do like the both of them and like I said I just think they need to step away & grieve

Totally agree

 

[Freckledredhead]

This grieving mother needs to get away. Literally go away somewhere. Yes everyone grieves differently but like someone said before Ash is totally void of anything and the exercise will stop fulfilling its purpose. Also like someone said, Saf is totally lonely. The bike and swimming etc is to get attention and approval from Ash. She's always with her brother who seems to be her saving grace but he did not create that baby with her. She carried and gave birth to that baby. Her body will still be hormonal from all that and literally physically yearning for her baby. She's doing everything randomly and at the same time. Training and going to wk for example.
When her eye swelled up and the Dr sent her to the maternity ward to get her meds she was alone Ash should've gone with her. Riding his bike could've waited. Is there not one person that encourages him to just be with her alone sometimes. If I lived closer when she was crying her eyes out in her car mustering up the courage to go to the maternity ward I'd have gone with her.
My heart hurts for them both but in particular for her. I truly hope their relationship survives this and that they can both heal to some extent. But they need each other right now. To just be.