I just find it really awkward. I never know what to say or doTo those above who feel uncomfortable around it. Can you explain the uncomfortable?
Is it that you feel weirded-out or don’t think you know how to comfort or what to say to them?
Selfish, I know, but unless the crying is over something serious, I kind of feel slightly relieved when others start crying over trivial issues, like there’s more of my kind out there.
Many equate crying to manipulation, don’t they?I don’t mind other people crying, we’re all individuals and what might not upset one person, will likely upset someone else. We all feel differently, some more deeply than others.
Having said that, I can’t abide people who cry and whinge for attention and it’s so obvious.
Yes, it can definitely be used as a manipulation tool and it bugs the shit out of me. People like that need to grow up. I know a few.Many equate crying to manipulation, don’t they?
It’s a tactic learnt from a young age ie a toddler who notices a toy in the shop and cries until parent gives in and buys them the toy.
I do this! Broke an 8 day streak yesterday because I was on a video chat with my friend and she was crying about something. Other people crying totally gets me.Even as a child, I would sometimes count up the consecutive days that I didn’t cry. I think around four days of non-crying was my personal best.
I'm from South Africa and can relate growing up in the 90s too. XI had a pretty tough childhood living in Bloemfontein, South Africa in the 90s. It was only a few years after the end of Apartheid and the release from prison of Nelson Mandela. White kids, myself and my sister included, became targets of abuse and bullying from other kids at my school and neigbourhood. And as a consequence I would often go home crying my eyes out!
But I think that toughened me over the years, and since coming to England I don't cry quite so much over things. I will get quite emotional at times, or sometimes resort to anger via frustration. But the only times I cry now is during the cold dark winter months (I suffer from SAD), and the depression that lingers during that time, especially these last few months during lockdown and being away from my g/f.
Apart from that, I am fairly resilient to a good old blub, even though inwardly I am emotionally upset. (Having said that I also cry when I see animal cruelty, or pets of friends having to be put to sleep)
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