Oh, love
Oh, loveI need to let off steam. Last year after me being Sherlock Holmes I found out my husband had been texting / calling another female , he did work for this women and her then husband, apparently they used to talk about life , I had been distant due to depression etc and he could talk to her he says there was no physical attraction on his behalf I won’t get personal to her but I would find astounded if there was, she definitely had a thing for him. He promised he would cut contact a month later he was still talking to her I lost the plot slashed all his tyres, but then we started to build our marriage back up , again I’ve not been myself lately I’m missing my family and I’m lonely I live 200 miles from my children and parents, last night I saw this women was selling a car so something rang bells as it looked like one mu husband sold last year.. he buys and sells cars as a sideline so I messaged her on a fake Facebook asking about then asked her why she was selling and you will never believe it she said she had just brought this certain car and you’ve guessed it my husband has just sold the exact same carI confronted him he admitted they bumped into each other a while ago again and sort of kept in. Touch I hit the roof and told her who I was but she wouldn’t reply! His twisted things to be my fault I honestly don’t know what to do it’s killing me and I self harmed through stress last night
That seems petty to want you to sell rather than you buy him out? If you have it valued and you give him half then he's not losing out is he?I have lived with my boyfriend for 3 years, my dad died in January and he had the cheek to argue with me when I said I thought he should wear a suit rather than a jumper. Can’t forgive him, there is now no affection or anything at all between us.
I have asked him to let me buy him out as I work from home, my widowed mum is round the corner etc but now he is saying he wont let me he wants to sell..what can I do?!
Thats exactly what I’ve offered and he’s now acting like a 5 year old!That seems petty to want you to sell rather than you buy him out? If you have it valued and you give him half then he's not losing out is he?
Just sell it to get rid of him and then get another place yourself. x He sounds an oaf, what man would wear a jumper at a funeral?...I have lived with my boyfriend for 3 years, my dad died in January and he had the cheek to argue with me when I said I thought he should wear a suit rather than a jumper. Can’t forgive him, there is now no affection or anything at all between us.
I have asked him to let me buy him out as I work from home, my widowed mum is round the corner etc but now he is saying he wont let me he wants to sell..what can I do?!
Honestly I'd go to the Drs and get some medication to calm me down and get some space from him, either you go or ask him to go.You are going to end up in a right state at this rate. You dont want your health to suffer or to get in trouble with the Police. Its not worth it. Can you get some support from your family or a friend?I need to let off steam. Last year after me being Sherlock Holmes I found out my husband had been texting / calling another female , he did work for this women and her then husband, apparently they used to talk about life , I had been distant due to depression etc and he could talk to her he says there was no physical attraction on his behalf I won’t get personal to her but I would find astounded if there was, she definitely had a thing for him. He promised he would cut contact a month later he was still talking to her I lost the plot slashed all his tyres, but then we started to build our marriage back up , again I’ve not been myself lately I’m missing my family and I’m lonely I live 200 miles from my children and parents, last night I saw this women was selling a car so something rang bells as it looked like one mu husband sold last year.. he buys and sells cars as a sideline so I messaged her on a fake Facebook asking about then asked her why she was selling and you will never believe it she said she had just brought this certain car and you’ve guessed it my husband has just sold the exact same carI confronted him he admitted they bumped into each other a while ago again and sort of kept in. Touch I hit the roof and told her who I was but she wouldn’t reply! His twisted things to be my fault I honestly don’t know what to do it’s killing me and I self harmed through stress last night
To your father in laws at that?! He now denies ever doing this also which tells you everything..Just sell it to get rid of him and then get another place yourself. x He sounds an oaf, what man would wear a jumper at a funeral?...
Honestly I'd go to the Drs and get some medication to calm me down and get some space from him, either you go or ask him to go.You are going to end up in a right state at this rate. You dont want your health to suffer or to get in trouble with the Police. Its not worth it. Can you get some support from your family or a friend?
It boggles my mind that women put up with this shit. How is that a partner?! It’s more like the worst possible flat mate you had at uniThats exactly what I’ve offered and he’s now acting like a 5 year old!
The whole 3 years we have lived here I have gone for every food shop, done every washing, washed every dish etc and if I ever asked him to help I was told to “stop moaning” now I finally feel I have had enough and this is what I’m getting
Thank you, I’m so glad its not just me going mad! XIt boggles my mind that women put up with this shit. How is that a partner?! It’s more like the worst possible flat mate you had at uni! It’s good to know you’ve realised your worth and have called it quits. Good luck with the house — he sounds immature enough to make the process as laborious as possible.
Seek some legal advice about it before caving and agreeing to what he wants. You should absolutely have the right to buy him out. He'd get more money that way too.Thank you, I’m so glad its not just me going mad! X
I absolutely do not want to give in to him, he keeps saying he has to agree to me buying him out but I have to agree to sell also so I might end up stuck here forever haha!Seek some legal advice about it before caving and agreeing to what he wants. You should absolutely have the right to buy him out. He'd get more money that way too.
It sounds like he's trying to create obstacles and delay you leaving him.I absolutely do not want to give in to him, he keeps saying he has to agree to me buying him out but I have to agree to sell also so I might end up stuck here forever haha!
i also forgot he did sign the transfer of equity form but is now saying I forged his signature and its fraud and as I’m a mortgage advisor it could cost me my job...which I absolutely did not do!!
I kind of thought this because he says he has somewhere else to live sorted..but won’t move out. He also says though once this is done he will be so much happier because its been so bad for a long timeIt sounds like he's trying to create obstacles and delay you leaving him.
His pride is probably hurt that you're the one to want to end it so that's his pride talking trying to make out he doesn't care and then throwing obstacles in your way but he's not exactly endearing himself to you by how he's acting or the things he's saying. Typical man!I kind of thought this because he says he has somewhere else to live sorted..but won’t move out. He also says though once this is done he will be so much happier because its been so bad for a long timemust be terrible getting everything done for you and not having to lift a finger!
Even if others would be okay with it doesn't mean u have to feel the same. If it's affecting you and your relationship then ofc you're not being silly.Hey so it’s tik toks of other girls saved, porn videos and random girls just as selfies. The porn whatever I can deal with it’s the personal level of having random girls tik toks and photos on his camera roll. Not sure if I am being silly or not :/
Could’ve written this too BexCould have written this post myself... I just dont know what to do. I have been with my husband for 15 years in august and I just feel like were two friends living together now. We haven't had sex in around 18 months and I know this as it was when we conceived our 2nd daughter... he makes 0 effort with me.
I dont even feel like he wants to be with me anymore and the arguing between us is just crazy...
The whole thing bloody terrifies me
You need to think about yourself as well, your life matters, theres flights he can get to see the kids if you come back here.Can you have some type of shared care arrangement with the kids?Could’ve written this too BexWe’ve lived overseas for 8 years and don’t know what to do as leaving would mean taking the children away from their dad. As a mum I want to chose their happiness over my own but the thought of this just being ‘it’ for the next 40 years saddens me.
Sending love to all you ladies struggling just now x
Thanks for replyingYou need to think about yourself as well, your life matters, theres flights he can get to see the kids if you come back here.Can you have some type of shared care arrangement with the kids?
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