Your meetings need an agenda and a chair, no??
No one can possibly be satisfied with things as they stand, maybe raise the issue if you feel able? You might be everyone's hero!
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No one can possibly be satisfied with things as they stand, maybe raise the issue if you feel able? You might be everyone's hero!
When you come in in the morning and get met with a barrage of negativity and complaints. Most of which aren’t legitimate complaints but part and parcel of the job. It would be nice if people said hello, Spoke, how are you, before they get wrapped up in a rant.
The meetings are weekly or sometimes bi weekly and there's never an agenda as such. It is chaos most of the time. About 5 years ago our senior managers PA introduced agendas, action points etc. Lasted about 3 months, and even then everyone interrupted each other and talked over each other.
I've never worked anywhere that people have so little meeting etiquette. Worst part is most of them speak for the sake of it and to demonstrate 'active listening', they have nothing to say of relevance!
I think I'm institutionalized about it now, it's become the depressing norm. I do chair my own meetings twice a month, slightly different audience but those at least are always well run
Men being excused from important project admin because it’s ‘not their skill set’, but it coincidentally is automatically assumed to be for woman who then end up picking it up.
No, it’s obvious what’s going on there and it annoys me so much that it’s enabled.
No, it’s obvious what’s going on there and it annoys me so much that it’s enabled.
Get too involved in personal business. Don’t care for their opinion on what I do in my free time. Also I don’t care details about everyone’s weekend. sorry not sorry 
A coworker who keeps talking/mentioning it's their birthday. It is non-stop for weeks before the actual day. No one really cares apart them. It gets really boring after a while. It's like some people feel the need to broadcast everything to everyone and make themselves known.
I know I am not the only one in my office who finds it quite annoying.
I know I am not the only one in my office who finds it quite annoying.
Not really all the time but the only place I can vent. Our team got sent home at the start of covid and the company agreed policies for people to work how they wanted as long as their role was performed satisfactorily. That has worked fine for everyone in the team prior to covid. We took on a new member during covid, they had a few ups and downs and eventually left. In their exit interview they blamed everything on said policies that work for everyone else so we are now being made to report back into the office regularly to address this issue. The issue that was only raised by one person as they were on their way out the door.
I appreciate they may have just been truthful but only addressing it as they left feels a bit like we have been stitched up with the resulting change to everyone's work routine.
I appreciate they may have just been truthful but only addressing it as they left feels a bit like we have been stitched up with the resulting change to everyone's work routine.
I used to really look forward to coming into work but this one bad egg has ruined it. She's not even full-time, and often works from home (but openly criticises anyone else for doing the same), yet she creates so much friction. I don't know why our MD hired her! He never used to close his office door and operated on pretty much a flat management structure; since this woman's come onboard he's taken to closing his door on a regular basis, not stopping to do have a chat with us in the morning, and seems buried in worry all the time. The whole energy of the office has changed - it's just awful!
I'd had a good run of being offered a cuppa of an afternoon then just had 2 days of being ignored. Actually calling over my head to find out what people want, making sure those who are busy get one made.....several left to go cold even but not a word said to me. They didn't even bother clearing up their cups when they'd finished, just walked off and left them. Bunch of petty witches. I'm useful when I answer the phone 100 times a day or I find casenotes that have gone walkabout but heaven forbid I'm actually considered part of the team and worthy of a coffee break of an afternoon. And yes, I could go get myself one but it's more the being left out part that bothers me than the actual lack of a drink.
I'd also like one particular member of staff to shut up about masks. Yes, visitors should be wearing them, yes it's annoying that we have to wear them all day and they won't wear them for an hour but none of us are going to get in an argument about it especially when half the staff don't bother wearing them properly, or at all! She rants about it for hours daily. My heart sinks when I seen she's on.
I'd also like one particular member of staff to shut up about masks. Yes, visitors should be wearing them, yes it's annoying that we have to wear them all day and they won't wear them for an hour but none of us are going to get in an argument about it especially when half the staff don't bother wearing them properly, or at all! She rants about it for hours daily. My heart sinks when I seen she's on.
When I was growing up, office workers in films and TV shows had these little cubicles they worked in or seperate offices to just get on with their work, and honestly it looks like it was bliss!! I don't know who came up with the idea that modern offices be communal, open plan, noisy - it just looks like chaos to me. Must be great if you're a chatter and need constant company around you, but if you just need to get your head down and work it must be a nightmare. I work in nursing so I sometimes fantasise about having a peaceful job somewhere in an office 
but even that doesn't seem to exist anymore.
but even that doesn't seem to exist anymore.
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Ok .. hear me out . I took time off after my mum died and I can finally talk about her death without crying. Some colleagues won't just stop at Hi ,how are you . They keep going on and on to the point where I burst into tears and it seems they enjoy that element of making me sad so they can feel special by comforting me .
They aren't even close colleagues . A friend observed this recently & after the other person had left said they were on the verge of telling them to duck off because it was blatant goading.
Don't get me wrong, it's nice for people to ask how you are but that's where it should stop .
They aren't even close colleagues . A friend observed this recently & after the other person had left said they were on the verge of telling them to duck off because it was blatant goading.
Don't get me wrong, it's nice for people to ask how you are but that's where it should stop .
I spent at least half an hour explaining something to a colleague on Monday, including sitting with him. He said he understood it all and would do the work straight away.
Now he's emailed me saying he's been too busy to do it, so can someone else do it instead? Give me strength! So that's another item for muggins here to do.
Now he's emailed me saying he's been too busy to do it, so can someone else do it instead? Give me strength! So that's another item for muggins here to do.
Yeah I've seen those cubicles. I think they're more common in the US maybe? That said, in the days of hybrid working they seem a bit pointless as you might as well stay working from home rather than sitting by yourself in a cubicle.When I was growing up, office workers in films and TV shows had these little cubicles they worked in or seperate offices to just get on with their work, and honestly it looks like it was bliss!! I don't know who came up with the idea that modern offices be communal, open plan, noisy - it just looks like chaos to me. Must be great if you're a chatter and need constant company around you, but if you just need to get your head down and work it must be a nightmare. I work in nursing so I sometimes fantasise about having a peaceful job somewhere in an office
I work in a ward where majority of the time, it's quite heavy with constant admissions and staff shortages.
There's this one colleague who will come in whilst I'm assisting with the likes of a bed bath/medication round/helping a patient to the toilet and will tell me that the consultant is starting their ward round with the patients I'm looking after and always looks at me as if I should stop everything I'm doing and go start the ward round but never offers to help take over. So I always reply with I will get to the ward round when I can. It absolutely winds me up because a) she never offers to help, always avoids anything involving personal care and b) she gets snippy when I essentially tell her tough titties I'm busy with a patient because God forbid I don't stop everything and join the ward round.
Luckily most of the consultants on my ward are really understanding as they know how short staffed we are and will give a brief update when I do finally get to join it.
There's this one colleague who will come in whilst I'm assisting with the likes of a bed bath/medication round/helping a patient to the toilet and will tell me that the consultant is starting their ward round with the patients I'm looking after and always looks at me as if I should stop everything I'm doing and go start the ward round but never offers to help take over. So I always reply with I will get to the ward round when I can. It absolutely winds me up because a) she never offers to help, always avoids anything involving personal care and b) she gets snippy when I essentially tell her tough titties I'm busy with a patient because God forbid I don't stop everything and join the ward round.
Luckily most of the consultants on my ward are really understanding as they know how short staffed we are and will give a brief update when I do finally get to join it.
I'd say sure, but he needs to find that person and agree it with them, not you.
Yeah I know that's the proper way to do it, but without going into too much detail, it's a specific task that needs a bit of training - hence why I sat with him to show him the ropes and got him the relevant access. And it needs doing ASAP.
If someone else were to do it, I'd need to train them as well plus get them access when it'll just be quicker to do it myself and it'll then be done before the deadline. As is often the case!
But I'm going to tell his manager it's not on so he doesn't try and pull it again in future. So many people have bad planning skills.
This guy who is constantly making mouth noises, and imitating the sound of every motor vehicle passing by or every phone that rings with an annoyingly high voice. The other guy who is constantly humming and mumbling to himself. I often find myself moments away from an actual rage fit. I don't get why people find itnso difficult to work in silence.
I’m sorry for your loss.
I understand. I’m in the opposite situation where my dad died and not a single person asked if I’m OK, not even my managers. It’s just as painful.
I know it is painful to have people asking you all the time because it’s a reminder, but they don’t mean to get you in tears. Perhaps you should take more time off. A loss is difficult to process and perhaps you’re not ready to be at work. Otherwise, just change the topic of conversation before it gets too intrusive.
people who lie to try and cover up a mistake. just admit to it and fix it or ask for help to fix it - we all make them so i don't understand why they try to cover it over.
To follow up on this - they pinged me today “Hey, how are you” then went on and on about how it’s not right the managers already posted the ad for his replacement when he’s not gone yet.
I’m honestly getting a headache from this person and their drama over their departure. People come and go all the time. They need to get a grip because all the drama I see is coming from them and not the other people in the team. I don’t even engage anymore and just say “sorry, I’m busy”.
My colleagues talk over me all the time and it's sooooo annoying. Can't get a word in edgeways unless I interrupt/talk over one of them and I hate doing that because it feels so rude. Especially in meetings, they'll start talking about something that I actually know more about, but won't pause for breath for me to step in and elaborate or correct. Then afterwards it's "why didn't you speak about x in that meeting?" Errrr kindly tell me when I had the opportunity?!
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