Dami is a pleasant young woman who has a leveling-up/socialite wannabe/luxury interest group on FB. The group is okay. Lot of bad attitudes and mean girls mixed with women who actually need advice, and others who legit try to give good advice. I used to be more active in that group but realized within months that I wasn't learning anything I hadn't already learned from my own upbringing. Dami started a paid group (not an app really, more like a website) for the members who want to attend events together in various cities. But I already attend upscale events and restaurants with my friends and family. I don't need to pay a random woman on FB for that. I think Dami is providing opportunities for very young girls/women who aren't worldly yet and need help to achieve a more sophisticated way of life. She also doesn't position herself as an expert of any sort, and has shared her own progress over the months.
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I don't agree. In the modern world many people study and end up focusing on work, then marrying later, if they marry at all. And "youth being attractive" is a kind of sexist statement - as I'm assuming you mean it for young ladies, not young men. Because if there was equality of the sexes, that would mean older women would be rushing to marry young college-aged men too.
The need to be partnered is as old as the human race but we don't really advance our gender if we continue to subscribe to this idea that a woman is incomplete without a man. It is NEVER shown as the other way around. An older bachelor is a playboy, an older bachelorette is somehow damaged goods?
I understand you said your views are old fashioned, to an extent mine are too, but the men seem to be getting worse and worse so in most cases an average woman would actually bring her quality of life down in order to match the partners out there. She would marry a man who's less intelligent, makes less money, treats her badly, etc. Women are developing and many studies show that men are regressing. They are the ones who could use some "old fashioned" thinking. In the old days men provided for their families and made something of themselves. They wanted to provide a wife with a house, a foundation. Nowadays the young ladies are lucky if they are provided with a coffee on a cOfeE daTe.
I adore Shalimar,it's an old lady perfume!!!!@maria99 It was low carb diet,one of them anorexia before and he messed her hormones completely,second one had some underlying health problem same story,third one after his diet is having problems with intestines and she can't eat anymore plenty of food which she enjoyed before.Thing about this guy is that he reminds me of Aija a lot.IN CREEPY WAY.Someone said that his followers are worse than Jehovah's witnesses. There's over 90 of pages of this thread and his minions are attacking people who spoke out. I'm quite outspoken and direct to a point where lot of people considers it rude or shocking.Minions of this guy said to woman who was anorexic and sent him her results of tests and all other medical documentation after she said that even with that he gave her same diet as to someone who has 110 kg.I will try to paraphrase it in a way.That whole forum knew about her problems with food for years and how does she dare to blame him for her problems,she should get shrink.Other said that messed up clients are jealous because he's good looking guy and he never paid them attention in sexual way.Guy said that it's not his problem nor responsibility because they followed his advice...........It's over 10 women complaining.He became popular online but he lost it all online.
Often, women who say you don’t need a man, don’t settle downwards etc are the ones who are coupled up.
it’s difficult to take this advice onboard because society makes it near impossible to exist as a single entity past a certain age.
I find that the majority of men I meet are discounted because they arrive too late, the ones that are good on paper are usually ambling around & don’t want to be in a relationship (either because they have just come out if one or they don’t need one at this time). The Other scenario is that they lack general social skills or are narcissistic.
It seems to be extremes - so yes I’m ok to be single as the alternative isn’t something I can put up with to be socially acceptable.
i find that I don’t come across many women like me - they generally will put up with the extremes just to be coupled up. That’s what I find puzzling.
it’s difficult to take this advice onboard because society makes it near impossible to exist as a single entity past a certain age.
I find that the majority of men I meet are discounted because they arrive too late, the ones that are good on paper are usually ambling around & don’t want to be in a relationship (either because they have just come out if one or they don’t need one at this time). The Other scenario is that they lack general social skills or are narcissistic.
It seems to be extremes - so yes I’m ok to be single as the alternative isn’t something I can put up with to be socially acceptable.
i find that I don’t come across many women like me - they generally will put up with the extremes just to be coupled up. That’s what I find puzzling.
Just to clarify one thing - I meant youth is attractive in both genders. I could not be in a relationship with a huge age difference, men tend to look younger, but in the long run, they age pretty fast. And to be vital woman in your 60s, 70s and have to take care of way older man, not my jam. I meant it for both sexes. I was lucky to find the one quite young, but I was for a lookout for a perspective man always. Again, not loaded, but educated, emphatic, willing to work on himself, from a good family - as in healthy relationship role model. That's very important. And I can't stress enough how important is man's healthy relationship with both his parents.
As for providing, I agree. My husband takes very good care of me, both materially and emotionally. I've been in a very happy place for many years, I did not have to wait for a long time until he asked to marry me. I am a homemaker, but I also enjoy my career, but to the extend it allows me healthy work-life balance. I have never have to work insane hours with perspective to enjoy life later on. Balance in everything, time is the only thing you will never get back.
Oh, I got a much-needed chuckle out of this! Gosh, I just have to go out and shop for a monument appropriate gown. This leveling up is difficult stuff, and I truly hope that I’m not committed to a mental institution or arrested for “defacing” a public monument when I go and sit on one . . . in my gown.Why wear a gown to the opera when you can wear one while sitting on a monument? Or when knocking on a door while holding a huuuge balloon?
My dear elegant ladies - those are occasions that call for a gown, but not the opera!
On another note: I love all the nuggets of wisdom in these threads, be it style, music, fitness or places to go!
Yes, many amazing women will settle for less. Unequal partnerships then wonder why they are unhappy.
Marriage to some extent is strategic - indeed it is easier to be a "double entity" for career and social prospects. For a long time marriage was a business proposition. In Jane Austen's time, women had to come with a dowry.
I wouldn't say that they just settle for less,plenty accept abuse and misbehaviour.
Oh my God, Annabelt - “In Dawn I mobile” - hysterical. I’m writing it down so I don’t forget it.
So many truly funny, clever, smart and knowledgeable women here. You all must have taken Anna Rat’s course,LOL. (Now, don’t stone me.)
It would take me an essay to explain the sexual marketplace failure of post Cold War media so when I have time I will get to it. Meanwhile, to be brief during the Cold War in the 1980s you had hyperfeminine supermodels and hyper masculine Rambo, Bruce Lee. Thus there was trust in traditional media institutions. After the cold war bored artists were given free reign, and no longer served the sexual marketplace with their androgyny so intelligent people go elsewhere for men to get laid and women to get married. Hence young people go on YouTube, TikTok to find alternative information how to get laid and married.
The problem with alternative information not being mainstream is a lack of regulation. Thus scammers exploit mainstream sexual marketplace failure. Thus we have Anna Belt.
Why do we assume there is gender equality anymore than fairies and unicorns if women can get pregnant but men can’t?
My two cents on being single in your 30s.
I think there are people out there who definitely think you need to get married in your 20s. These people do look down on people who are not married with kids past a certain age. These people are men and women. They often hang out with people who have similar family dynamics. Some of these couples live happily ever after. But most end up being very unhappy and stuck with a kid in a bad relationship (men and women) or they finally get divorced mid-age. These people prefer a single divorced partner to a partner who was never married!
Then there is a group of people who don't think like the above. I never wanted to get married in my 20s. The experiences and knowledge I have in my early 30s will make me choose a better and equal partner. I have freedom and a lot of opportunities to be successful in most areas of my life. Something, to be honest, married women my age don't have. They can't. Time, stuck in family-orientated neighborhoods, expectations and so on all play a role. Because the first group does care about their image so they have to play with certain rules in their family-oriented communities. Now I am generalizing and there are always couples who go against tradition.
The second group loves being single and doesn't judge people if they're not married. They don't think one is ruined because they never got married. They may marry or not and they know they do get judged by certain groups but they don't care.
And I don't believe that after a certain age, there are only guys with issues. As we age, we do get pickier, more comfortable to show who we really are, we care less about the approval of others and of course we have some failed relationships. So the true nature comes out more and louder. That's the whole point. People don't pretend anymore. You get what you see. The person married in the 20s also changes and also goes through multiple personality issues because no one is pure but these issues might be less apparent at the surface level due to denial, settling, getting used to each other, losing their own identities and many other reasons until something explodes like cheating, money issues, health issues..
I think there are people out there who definitely think you need to get married in your 20s. These people do look down on people who are not married with kids past a certain age. These people are men and women. They often hang out with people who have similar family dynamics. Some of these couples live happily ever after. But most end up being very unhappy and stuck with a kid in a bad relationship (men and women) or they finally get divorced mid-age. These people prefer a single divorced partner to a partner who was never married!
Then there is a group of people who don't think like the above. I never wanted to get married in my 20s. The experiences and knowledge I have in my early 30s will make me choose a better and equal partner. I have freedom and a lot of opportunities to be successful in most areas of my life. Something, to be honest, married women my age don't have. They can't. Time, stuck in family-orientated neighborhoods, expectations and so on all play a role. Because the first group does care about their image so they have to play with certain rules in their family-oriented communities. Now I am generalizing and there are always couples who go against tradition.
The second group loves being single and doesn't judge people if they're not married. They don't think one is ruined because they never got married. They may marry or not and they know they do get judged by certain groups but they don't care.
And I don't believe that after a certain age, there are only guys with issues. As we age, we do get pickier, more comfortable to show who we really are, we care less about the approval of others and of course we have some failed relationships. So the true nature comes out more and louder. That's the whole point. People don't pretend anymore. You get what you see. The person married in the 20s also changes and also goes through multiple personality issues because no one is pure but these issues might be less apparent at the surface level due to denial, settling, getting used to each other, losing their own identities and many other reasons until something explodes like cheating, money issues, health issues..
Anna Bey like many scammers simply exploited the sexual marketplace failure of traditional media that empowered the cult of the artist at the expense of social utility for the average person. In an environment that is easy for scammers to exploit you are all angels saving women.
Oh that’s because people don’t know how to socialize and are watching more and more porn. Why put in the work to have a release when you can just type it out and get anything you want. @AnnaBelt thank you for the post, I’m not too educated in social sciences. I found out a couple months ago the detrimental sociological effects world war 1 had when it created a 2 working parent household. If you don’t want to type it could you recommend a paper/ book that explains it?
It has been a few years since I have been in grad school but the two parent household as an effect of WW1 is fascinating. I thought it was an impact of the industrial revolution. Dusting off my old research will take longer.
Women say they want research but if you give women a long answer they will make fun of you from what I have observed. So if people don’t understand me too bad for them. I don’t owe anyone an explanation. I give my theory and if it’s useful, it’s useful. If not it’s their business. I put my best effort and I am enough. I don’t mean to be rude but talking too much doesn’t end well for me
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Sorry I didn’t mean to offend you! I just don’t know where to look for credible sources for this type of information, I usually go to PubMed for research articles but those are medical articles not psychology/sociology related. Still thanks for the answers you provided, I appreciate it!!
You didn’t but I just know women who ask me to elaborate then end up making fun of me taking too much behind my back. I learned there is a gap between what people say they want because they think intellectually vs how they act and respond viscerally. For example all women say they want a man who is a nice guy but a lot of women still date bad boys. So hence I am watchful because people mean well intectually but the physical dominates over the intellectual. So I appreciate the outreach but I end it there where I still seem charming and don’t overstay my welcome
Philip Zimbardo is one of pioneers of social psychology and he gave excellent speech on TEDx called "Why boys are failing?"Porn is actually addiction and plenty of guys aren't capable of normal intercourse.
so she is also telling people she is married to a billionaire?
You know Bastine, you actually make me appreciate Anna Bey.
Because if she wasn’t out there, this thread wouldn’t exist and neither would your comments. I would really be missing out, I’m learning so much!
I know you are probably a professional woman and have better things to do but I would love to watch YOU make yt videos or blog!
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