He still wants to hug me, call me affection names, kiss me goodbye. He still wants sex. And yes I'm stupid but I still do at the moment. For me, I can't switch off like he's somehow been able to do. He's got the best of both worlds!It’s just an all round horrible situation. I really feel for you.
When you say he still wants affection, what do you mean by that?
Ah here.... I think you are taking the piss.He wants me to tell him everything. He says to protect me.
Nothing new happened. He just says he's not in love with me anymore. Nothing has ever hurt like this.I'm so sorry to hear this. Has something else happened or did it just eat away into the relationship?
I’m really sorry but I think you know the answer deep down. Pm me if you need a chat xxI've been married 21 years, I thought happily. Mostly we trust each other, there's a couple of ups and downs as you'd expect in a long term marriage.
The last couple of days when I've asked for his phone, he's sort of hovered around me as I've used it, not something he usually does.
Today I read a text that he'd sent yesterday morning to some woman I've never heard of. It said something to the effect of that they were both looking for the same thing, and that he knew her partner wasn't happy about her sleeping with other people. Finished with "I just wanted to check you're ok, tell me to fuck off if you want x". I can't give you it verbatim as he's deleted it.
I've called him on it, he's said that the thing they were both after was happy marriages, but that doesn't make sense to me given the next part.
In addition, I know he talks to a lot of friends at work, both male and female alike. Normally we discuss them together. I've never heard of this woman, ever. And he's got no explanation for why this is the case.
We've had a massive argument lasting hours today, I've been a mess and it's culminated in him looking right at me, swearing there's nobody/nothing else. Normally I'd trust him 100% but I just don't know. What would other people think in this situation?
Agreed I'm 41 been with my husband 26 years, 4 kids one who had a tumour( fine now) one with autism. We have little money and still we are so close. He would literally do anything for me and I'm not but he tells me I'm beautiful. I know this might be cringe but good faithful men do exist. Plus my parents have been married 50 years...my dad's a good man too.I disagree. Of course some men would, but I think a lot wouldn’t.
seriously, taking any kind of sage wisdom from a fictional show like SATC?!!!!!Think it’s the minority though . One of my favourite quotes from sex & the city ,”there’s men who cheat on their wives & theres men who hide it well “