Do you know what I'm doing? I'm telling him to look out for her. To be nice to her. To be happy together. It's just not in me to be mean. I'm sure she's a really nice person.
I don't know if he's been abusive. My head is completely messed up. All of it is just so stupid. Ive caused so much of this myself by being a depressive mess so it's not all him. I think he might be controlling, maybe? I was actually talking to a new guy today but was made to delete him. Honestly I know this sounds ridiculous but I just don't know where I am.
Whoever said I could come back and post in a year, genuinely looking forward to that.
None of this is your fault, at all.He wants me to tell him everything. He says to protect me.
Ah here.... I think you are taking the piss.
Folks I think you have all wasted your time on this thread.
This is a couple that thrive of drama in their lives, both as bad as each other. The kids are probably fed up listening to them at this stage.
Leave them be!
I don't even know how it happened. I was on a quiz chat site and he messaged me on there. I know it's stupid and I'm in no place to do that and I'm sure he's nice and am being really unfair to him. It just all happened so suddenly. I just wanted to feel not unloveable and hideous really but that wasn't fair, I do get that.None of this is your fault, at all.
I don’t know how he would have known you were talking to another man, or why you would even be doing that tbh, but that’s none of his business.
Eta - just to reiterate my point above, why would you be talking to a new man when you’re in such a vulnerable state?
Oh ffs, I just typed a really long reply and then saw this. It’s either all nonsense or she needs serious mental health support. Emotions shouldn’t flip flop that quickly...Ah here.... I think you are taking the piss.
Folks I think you have all wasted your time on this thread.
This is a couple that thrive of drama in their lives, both as bad as each other. The kids are probably fed up listening to them at this stage.
Leave them be!
He has no right any more to comment on or control your life. Don't keep thinking 'oh he really understands me more than anyone' because he doesn't. It isn't kind or caring or loving. You don't have a special bond. It is creepy and controlling.The breakdown was sexual related. So it's not so strange that he would look out for me like that. I think even though he doesn't want to be with me he still wouldn't want me to get hurt and right now I'm super vulnerable and just wanting to trust anyone who says they're nice. I know I shouldn't and it's stupid.
I applaud your patienceHe has no right any more to comment on or control your life. Don't keep thinking 'oh he really understands me more than anyone' because he doesn't. It isn't kind or caring or loving. You don't have a special bond. It is creepy and controlling.
She’s not actually answering any of our questions…. I think this is a load of nonsense at this point@leviosa I’m curious about your job (and lack of faith in yourself/ability to support yourself away from your ‘husband’). Do you you work full time? If so do you earn more or less than him? I get the impression that he’s not even providing a great life for you (no mortgage etc) but you seem to think this is as good as it might get? You seem to have evaded any questions regarding money, savings accounts, whether dad treats the children lots etc. But it would help us to understand the circumstances better and why this guy has such a hold over you….and why on Earth he’s managed to hook in his next victim.
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