bringingdownthebs
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Don’t mind you being nosey at all! My nosey ness prompted me to create this thread! My partner is the older one. I’m 29 and he’s 55.Who is the older one? Sorry I’m nosy!!!
mine is 8 months and met at uni.
Don’t mind you being nosey at all! My nosey ness prompted me to create this thread! My partner is the older one. I’m 29 and he’s 55.Who is the older one? Sorry I’m nosy!!!
mine is 8 months and met at uni.
My sisters is about the same as yours. He is in his 90s and she is early 70s and they have been together since she was 21.I’m curious to know (and super nosey!) what’s everyone’s age gaps in their relationships?
I seem to be searching the internet for an age gap as large as mine
Please share! What’s your age gap? How did you meet? How long have you been together?!
Our age gap is 26 years. We met at work. We’ve been together for nearly 2 years.
aww that’s lovely! I’ve come from a very unhappy marriage so I feel incredibly lucky to have a man so wonderful in my life! Even if he does get mistaken for my dad on a regular basisOooh!! Nice. My aunt has a similar age difference and is in a very happy relationship
Hey thought I would chime in.I’m curious to know (and super nosey!) what’s everyone’s age gaps in their relationships?
I seem to be searching the internet for an age gap as large as mine
Please share! What’s your age gap? How did you meet? How long have you been together?!
Our age gap is 26 years. We met at work. We’ve been together for nearly 2 years.
Mean this from the nicest place ever I promise, but had to say this after seeing the comment re his 3 older kids from what appears to have been a longer previous marriage but please make sure you’re fully in the know on his financial position following this divorce as he will likely be paying a lot out of savings/investments/private pensions/etc and possibly an ongoing obligation too, and whilst 10 years to prep isn’t great it’s something to help make life easier for you and baby in the future. Similarly would want to do other admin such as wills, who the named beneficiaries are on any insurance policies or private pensions (they don’t default to who is named in the will), etc etc.We’ve only just started discussing the future proofing plans as his divorce is taking ages and we’re unsure exactly how much he’ll be left with after the sale of his family home etc. I’ve said if we ever get married I’m happy to sign a prenup as I’m absolutely not in this for his money at all - hence us only just starting to discuss the future in terms of finances etc. We have a child together (he’s 5 months old) so our main priority is making sure everything is secure for him.
That being said… my partner has always said he’ll work until he’s 65 so he’s got another 10 years yet!
thank you! I’m gonna have a chat to him about it when we’re away in a few weeks… need to think carefully about how I broach the subject as I’ve stayed out of the divorce stuff so far out of fear!! But now you’ve said about being conditioned by society… it’s a totally valid point! The thing that bothers me the most when people are weird about our age gap is when they’re like “oh he must be rich!” Or make comments about his job and income… when I have my own career and my own income! I love him for who he is… not what he can financially give to me and I get so worked up about people not seeing that!!So glad you took this well cos I promise it’s not from a nasty place at all. Life happens & people move on, which is fine you just want to make sure you’re both in a decent position for when he retires and you’re down to 1.x incomes, especially as you’ll have a kid about to start secondary & eventually transition into adult life!
The pensions stuff may not be as easy as there’s ongoing divorce stuff, but usually it is very easy for husband to call each pension provider up and change the “it goes to…” (forgot the proper name of this) to include you & baby. Personally - and this is obviously subjective - I would want a will that weights at least some portion of it based upon age (under the idea younger = higher need). He also has a lot more to consider with this set up, eg if he’s regularly gifting cash sums to adult children later as when it comes to wills etc they could argue that evidences need so request this continues through the estate, I went through this as my husband was recreationally paying an adult relative’s mortgage and I worried she could say she was a financial dependent (and she could have!).
Also re the don’t want a prenup / not after his money is something we as women are socialised to think by a toxic misogynistic media/society. Women aren’t gifted money for just sitting about doing nothing or just because they were married, if a court wants to allocate you money that is a) so, so your money b) likely an understatement on what you really contributed albeit indirectly.
oh that’s beautiful If my partner lives to be in his 90s I’ll be over the moon!My sisters is about the same as yours. He is in his 90s and she is early 70s and they have been together since she was 21.
3.5 years. We were introduced by a mutual friend who thought we'd get on like a house on fire. Said friend walked me down the aisle 7 years later.I’m curious to know (and super nosey!) what’s everyone’s age gaps in their relationships?
I seem to be searching the internet for an age gap as large as mine
Please share! What’s your age gap? How did you meet? How long have you been together?!
Our age gap is 26 years. We met at work. We’ve been together for nearly 2 years.
I think older men know what they are doing! my ex was 21 years older, absolute dickhead but amazing in bed!I had a relationship with a man 16 years older than me and it was the best sex I ever had
A girl I know from school has a husband with a similar age gap (I believe), but she's 38. They have two kids. Honestly it looks like grandad is out with his grandkids. Personal choice, but it's too big a gap for me.Don’t mind you being nosey at all! My nosey ness prompted me to create this thread! My partner is the older one. I’m 29 and he’s 55.