A place for ranting/whinging

[Gembo]

On Monday 4th I was arrested by the police for buying alcohol from a vendor. Spent the next 27 hours in a prison cell, released and charged, along with been handed a Written Notice, to appear in court 14th January,

I paid what is called here a "Admission of Guilt" fine, which means I won't have to appear in court because I have admitted guilt. However, it does mean I have a criminal record!

I admit my guilt, but I was desperate. I'm an alcoholic, but in South Africa the buying of alcohol is banned as part of the current lockdown. I had gone almost a week without a drink but I was becoming far more agitated and desperate to the point where I had to buy booze from illegal sources.

The problem/annoyance I have is that neither the police, the courts or the South African government have considered alcoholics such as myself, who are going a little cranky now that we can't get our fix!

As for me. I have a criminal record, that will live with me for the next 10 years. But it also means I still can't have a drink. My only option is to return to the UK. But from I understand England is currently in another lockdown, and I don't think they're accepting people flying in from South Africa

Therefore, I seem to be stuck between a rock and a hard place. And I still need a drink!

I promise I’m saying this kindly but I know that written words can come across wrong as they don’t carry tone but I really am feeling very compassionate towards you, could you try and use this as a time where you really try to tackle your drinking problem head on? Ask for help and try to get to the root of the issues. Try to see this as an opportunity? I will never fully understand how you feel or how hard it is to actually be an alcoholic but I watched my mum and my Nan both die of alcoholism and my dads alcoholism was a contributing factor towards his death. Please please reach out for help. I’m not being dismissive of you being an alcoholic and how hard that must be but I do have a lot of experience. When you post on various threads here you seem like someone who has such a lot going for you, I really hope you can battle this demon and win

 

[lemonlime]

Watched the birthday video of a youtuber I really like. It was just so lovely, thoughtful and heartwarming. I felt so envious for the relationship she has with her husband and how loved and celebrated she was in a way that truly made me realize how much I need something like this and how much it's not even on the table or even in the dining room.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Are you okay? x

I'm ok, thank you. Just a bit down. Had a bad day - me and my boyfriend have been at eachothers throats all day. I've kicked him out twice but let him back twice too we're just round each other too much. I've not seen anyone other than him & the baby for so long. It's making me miserable. I don't know how anyone manages to cope

 

[petitspois]

It always happens, people can be so rude. I had my first child at 32 but before that was regularly asked if I was going to have children, then swiftly followed by was I going to have another. We were slower than friends to buy a house too and every bloody time I saw people they would ask about it. Why ask? surely you would find out if I was pregnant or buying a house by virtue of me telling you and not having to ask!!!!

Its started again in recent years as I am single and really happy with that. Every time I see friends it's 'any men on the scene?' grrrrrrrr

 

[Routron]

Feeling a huge sense of dread about going back to work this week. I hate my job and I am currently also having to study in my free time for a professional qualification (two exams in March).

Feel like there is literally nothing for me to look forward to this year except working and studying. Didn't get to see my family or go home for Christmas so I just don't feel refreshed like I usually do in January.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I am due to fly out from Johannesburg, South Africa tonight, to return to England by tomorrow afternoon.

I have followed all the Covid requirements - had a PCR test, with negative results yesterday, and have printed off at least 5 copies.
Will also have the added stress/burden of having to take a "Negative Rapid Test" at the airport less than an hour before I'm due to board the plane.
No idea what is involved, but if I fail that then I don't think I'll be able to fly - which means having to rebook and start all over again!

Not only that but scheduled flights seem to be getting cancelled at the last minute! No idea why, but have noticed certain unrelated flights that were scheduled over the last few days, ending up being cancelled.

As a consequence I am constantly checking the status of my flight, even though its not due to leave until just before midnight SAST tonight. For all I know it might get canncelled between now and then, which means having to rebook, take another PCR test (at my expense), and another NRT, and hope nothing goes wrong then!

Annoying and stressful to the point where I've felt like throwing up with nervousness at what might happen in the next 12 hours or so

My flight was cancelled last night!

Didn't even know about it until I had arrived at the airport 3 hours before the flight, checked-in, handed over my PCR test results and just waited around like a lemon, just like the other mugs on the flight.

Anyway, roughly 90 minutes before being called we're told the flight has been cancelled due to new Covid regulations set out by the Dutch government (the KLM flight was flying from J'burg to Amsterdam, and then a transfer to Heathrow).

As such we had the choice to rebook or get a refund.

Lots of anger and confusion from everyone, especially as it turns out KLM knew about the new Dutch Laws a few days previous and had been cancelling similar flights out of South Africa. And the article below now confirms that.

Extremely angry with them, but I managed to get a refund, and have booked a flight with Air France for next Saturday. But it does mean I have to take another PCR Test at my own expense and hope all goes well.

Piss up and breweries, come to mind with KLM informing their passengers about this farce! Why leave it until the last minute to cancel a flight when they knew about the new rules days before?

Grrrrrr

https://www.tourismupdate.co.za/article/breaking-klm-suspends-weekend-flights

 

[Friendsfan]

Yknow what I love about dogs? They love you no matter what, even in death. Dogs always forgive.

My dog passed in February and I am so grateful we could be there and so wracked with guilt that we had to say goodbye.

We had our dog put to sleep 20th December . I still cry about it. My little fur baby has gone to heaven . Wish there was a time machine so I could cuddle him one last time and tell him I love him more than anything . Or a telephone so I can hear him snoring or barking. I sleep with a throw he used to lie on and smell it ( sounds weird , but it’s not ) it brings me so much comfort.
This is heartbreaking. I’m sorry for your loss xx

 

[Fofoca]

It’s my mum’s birthday today. I haven’t seen her since December 2019, so this is the second birthday I’m missing.

I miss her and I’m sad. I took the day off work to celebrate, out of habit. Now I’m doing laundry. I spent my own birthday alone but that was somehow easier.

On a positive note, I’ve got myself a mini feast to celebrate later. Noodles for a long life. Won tons for prosperity. And then loads of yummy bits to hopefully bring me joy.

ok whinge over. Birthdays are a blessing, especially in this economy jfc

(Retired parents went on a long holiday in December 2019 and then got stuck cos of you know w

 

[LittleMy]

When I’m sick, it’s just another day. When my husband is sick however, it’s like the end of the fucking world and woe is me. I’m quite harsh though, I just tell him to suck it up and don’t give me the dying duck act. Ugh. Gets on my tits.

 

[Youre a wizard Harry]

I’m so bored... of work. Bored of not being able to do anything. Bored of not seeing friends and family. Bored of wondering when lockdown will be over and what life will be like post Covid.
Bored of just existing.

that’s all.

 

[lemonlime]

 

[Kim Mild]

I want to quit my job but my husband won’t let me. It’s been triggering my PTSD I’ve been off sick more this year than I have worked, I know I’m on my last legs from the employers side (ie they are fed up with me being off etc) I’m trying my hardest.

I am not *allowed* to quit because money and my husband has taken over my finances by changing my password and transferring MY money into our joint account (he said I spend too much) when I’m reality I bought myself an £11 book for Christmas and I bought my family and his family all the Christmas gifts and I have a spreadsheet for budgeting. However he can spend his cash Willy nilly on his new “hobby” of investing!

Taking your money is not on . I would try and get a new bank account that he doesn't have access to

 

[petitspois]

I'm fed up with people saying 'just do what you can' when it applies to home school, keeping on top of work and so on. In fact - keeping on top of anything in this current shit show. The stuff still mounts up and has to be done, saying 'just do what you can' doesn't help.

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

Found out a website I ordered from before Xmas is a scam. Can’t believe I fell for it, I’m usually good at spotting a scam but the website seemed so legit! Decided to google the company today only to find a load of reviews from people who have had exactly the same thing happen to them. I’ve now reported them to fraud action and am looking at getting my money back via my bank.

 

[Pixipoppy]

Need to rant but need some reassurance I’m not the worlds worst mum please.

My baby has just gone one and learnt to walk. He is my first. We went for a walk round a country park near us today and he was on his reins and toddling away. He loves dogs and always stands and laughs and points at them. If they come up to him then he loves it and he will stroke them and he adores them. Obviously we’ve never had a bad experience.

Today a pit bull Wasnt on a lead and came hurtling towards him and pushed him to the ground. He couldn’t get himself back up because the dog was in the way. I was so panicked. I tried lifting him and the dog kept pushing him back down. All that was racing through my mind was the dog was going to kill my baby. I picked him by the fabric of his puddle suit and got him away and the dog owner put the dog on a lead. I could tell he felt bad. I didn’t walk away because I didn’t want to instill fear into my son. I wanted him to think the dog just knocked him down so we didn’t really cause a fuss but my baby was hysterical.

I just wish I said to the guy now how the dog should have been on a lead and I’m so so paranoid he might do this to another toddler and it could be worse.

I can’t stop thinking about the situation and I feel really bad. My husband said the dog was playing but I don’t see it like that at all. We are both dog lovers and we love our son being around dogs but this has shaken me so much and I can’t help thinking “what if” and how I should have said something different to the owner. I feel such a bad mum and like I’ve failed at looking after my baby.

Oh my gosh you did nothing wrong! I’m sure that dog owner will definitely put the dog on a lead next time. It sounds like you acted quickly and calmly so as not to upset your little one

 

[LittleMy]

It’s hard isn’t it.

realistically I know SIL wants it because she likes the idea of our kids being cousins and it comes from a place of love, like I’m sure it does with your parents wanting to be grandparents.

It doesn’t stop me from wanting to tell her to mind her own business sometimes.

It doesn’t even stop once you do have a child. Then it’s questions like:

“When are you having another?”

“Will you try for a boy next?”

“Will you try for a girl?”

“I assume that’s you finished now?”

It’s like a timer goes off and you get to a certain age where people expect these things from you (especially if you’re a woman) and they can’t help themselves. Drives me nutty.

 

[Very traditional]

So sorry to hear this, lots of love to you and your Dad xx

My dad's dog had to be put to sleep this morning after 13 1/2 years together. Because they're in tier four he wasn't allowed to be with him when it happened and he's wracked with guilt because of that. It's only the second time I've ever heard him cry and there's nothing that I can say or do to help him.

 

[under the ivy]

My moan is that is feel poorly today - like cold/flu poorly. Started yesterday with headache/lethargy but woke up this morning feeling fully wiped out I’m worried it’s Covid so I’ve ordered a test. I’ve already had Covid back in Summer, surely I can’t be unlucky to get it twice?!

 

[JLXRD]

Just a little whinge to get my feelings out today.

I feel a lot of pressure at the moment around having a baby.

I want to have children and had always planned to start around now, but then covid happened and I just haven’t done all the things I planned to.

I’m 27, my husband has just turned 32. I would happily wait a few more years but he ideally wants kids before 35, as he doesn’t want to feel like an old dad. I get that and before all this was on bowith it, so it’s me changing the plan, but I just don’t see myself wanting a baby within the next 2 years

He doesn’t pressure me, I just think about it a lot and worry about what will happen I spose.

SIL asks every time she sees me whether we will be having a baby, she’s started rolling her eyes if I say I want to travel first as though that is shallow and pathetic or something. She has 2 kids and is the same age as me.

I am just not ready to give up all the things I want to do, though I know life doesn’t end when you have a baby of course, things would different.

 

[Babyyoda88]

Mine is lighthearted I'm sorry. But I cannot for the life of me eat healthily. I need to lose weight but I just love "naughty" food too much. I never have the motivation to work out and I'm quite happy just doing nothing but then I hate how I look and how my friends are all lovely and beautiful and I'm just a big fat slob in comparison

Bless you!

This is me right now. I look at myself in the mirror and want to cry at my new additional chin and then I come into the living room eat a full share pack of crisps and a bunch of marzipan . Can’t have it both ways can I. I wish someone would sow my mouth shut. It was fine till I turned 30 then everything I ate went straight to my stomach and thighs and I just sob whilst chomping on another chocolate bar. I look like a round little pudding and it doesn’t help that I’m short with a pea head. As soon as all this Christmas junk has gone I’m going to have to be strict with myself like I use to be.