A place for ranting/whinging

[JLXRD]

So many people in my life have announced pregnancies in the week. I’m happy for them but it just makes me feel like I should be moving forward.

I feel like my priorities are wrong or something is wrong with me

 

[Bobbleowl90]

Out of nowhere my best friend has completely taken a turn on me. We used to text loads and she never replies anymore. She doesn’t like my social media. It’s all very petty.

She makes me feel like absolute shit.

It’s like everything is a competition. I introduced her to another friend and she might as well take a mortgage up her backside. It’s like she doesn’t have to be honest with her. She’s taken a volunteer role on but told my friend that it’s an actual job that’s paid. It’s not up to me to tell her otherwise but it makes me so mad when she’s asking about her salary and how does she juggle two jobs etc when I know she doesn’t.

I’ve booked in for my covid vaccine tomorrow and rather than say “yay!” She just said “I wouldn’t have it.” And downplays everything that I do. I know she’s jealous of my job within the NHS - she works in a call centre for a health company and she hates it but again, lies to my other friend and basically makes out she’s a nurse.

I have been tempted many times to ask if I’ve done something wrong and why doesn’t she bother talking to me anymore but I can’t be arsed with it. It’s made me cry some evenings as I’m so down about it all. I’ve probably not explained it properly here as I really am just ranting but meh.

 

[Pinkblush]

My moan is that all my friends (so many of them) who felt it was their right to visit family for Xmas and mix and are now all testing positive for covid
One friend went up north mixed with her family with various households now the whole family have got covid and she's back in the south ...great and that is how the virus spreads
She now moaning about being stuck self isolating with the kids. Another friend mixed with extended family and moaning that her friend is finding it 'tricky' to get out of London to visit her ...ffs we're in tier 4 here and so is London and she thinks it's the lack of trains.
Entitled and ignorant.
Can't people just accept this year is gonna be shit.

Also the burden on the nhs, bed spaces and over worked staff. My sisters who is a nurse has been doing a 45 hour week since march. She even treated a protester with a sprained ankle who was loudly complaining about having to wait four hours to be seen

 

[leviosa]

TW for being sick in case anyone doesn’t like that.

As I said in my opening post, I have a bad back and cannot move very much. This morning it is horrendous however I have also managed to be up throughout the night with what now seems to be a sickness bug.

But because I can’t walk very well I can’t get to the bathroom very quickly to be sick, que being sick getting out of bed, on the floor (sorry if I’m grossing you all out.)

The pressure from the act of being sick is also super painful for my back so essentially I am having a fucking great time.

Unsure if I have ever been more miserable to be honest, I have had the thing where I wish I appreciated not being ill meant to have ten days holiday from work after today so I also have so much work to finish off and I just cba entirely

Urgh, you poor thing. I have a bit of a phobia about being sick, and the thought of this just sounds like the worst thing in the world. I hope you feel better soon!!

I have had honestly a really crappy year. Quite apart from COVID. I got furloughed (I know that sounds like a luxury but due to my brain being how it is, the routine of work was keeping me sane-ish) and then unfurloughed couple months later but put onto night shifts. My nan died earlier in the year which was horrible as it was, but then I had to see my mum at her funeral who doesn't talk to me so that was awful. My marriage nearly split up due to my husband chatting to other women. I've struggled with agoraphobia for years now and getting my job was the one thing that really pushed me out the door - working from home now terrifies me that once all this is over I won't be able to go out again.

Oh well! Roll on 2021. It certainly can't be as horrid as this year, I should hope!

 

[hashbrown123]

Hi first time poster on this thread but I love a good whinge. Mine is pretty much nothing but in September I stepped down from my ‘career’ that I did not enjoy and was basically ruining my personal life because of the stress and anxiety it caused and I’ve gone back to uni to do a masters in a completely different industry, to facilitate this I sold my car and luckily was able to step into a part time role with the same company which i enjoy a lot more because it has no management responsibility or any responsibility really it’s literally turn up do the job go home 20 hours, 3 days a week (it is dealing with the public which is a downside for me but for 20 hours it’s fine). The whinge is, I have now become very accustomed to living somewhat a life of doing mostly what I want, only having to work 3 days a week and the rest after uni are mine to do as I wish. The career in entering into (if I can get a job and if I graduate with a decent mark) will require hard work and commitment like any career does. I’m really tied - I can’t foresee myself being able to adjust to doing the career thing again. Albeit hopefully won’t be as bad as my previous role.. it will still require time that I’ve become accustomed to having to myself. I can’t imagine working 5 days now. But if I don’t how will I afford a house one day or holidays etc? My wage at the min allows me to cover my bills and that’s about it.

I’m aware this is a first world problem and I need to just get a grip of myself and I hope that this doesn’t annoy anybody. I just wanted towrite It down because it’s been in my head the past few weeks.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Me again
Just made some cheese on toast for me & my fella
Was halfway through eating it, scrolling through Tattle, loving life, babies an hour into his 2 hour nap when my fellas Mum facetimes
She only facetimes to see the baby
My fella always has his phone up the highest volume
Whenever she facetimes when we answer she also goes 'HEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOO' dead loud. My fella knows this
2 seconds later.. waaaaaaaahhh. Babies crying
Why couldn't he have not answered and just text her saying 'babies asleep'
Had to go leave my cheese on toast and cuddle the baby to sleep. I'll be nap trapped for ages now! Arseholes

 

[Inforapenny]

My moan is that all my friends (so many of them) who felt it was their right to visit family for Xmas and mix and are now all testing positive for covid
One friend went up north mixed with her family with various households now the whole family have got covid and she's back in the south ...great and that is how the virus spreads
She now moaning about being stuck self isolating with the kids. Another friend mixed with extended family and moaning that her friend is finding it 'tricky' to get out of London to visit her ...ffs we're in tier 4 here and so is London and she thinks it's the lack of trains.
Entitled and ignorant.
Can't people just accept this year is gonna be shit.

 

[Pinkblush]

My cousin. Her local airport in county kerry is shut so she travelled from kerry to dublin and met two friends one from galway the other from limerick. From dublin the three of them travelled to stanstead and then from stanstead to gatwick where they took a flight to jersey for xmas. She is now back in kerry and her town is on full lockdown as is ireland and she's ranting on facebook that its the uk's fault that ireland is in the state it in This is in spite of their being the same guidance in ireland and uk that its essential travel only

I feel pretty bleak at the moment. It is not anything to do with my last whinge, it is just the way I'm feeling at the moment. My mood hasn't been helped, by the drunken ramblings of a friend of ours who phoned earlier. I have compassion for his situation, but not on New Years Day, when you are trying to focus on being positive! I have managed to chase my long suffering partner, out of HIS own home, because of the way I am feeling.
Cold miserable weather outside, no places to go, not much of a bus service today (to travel back to my own place, which I haven't been to in over a week).
Whinge, whinge whinge!

You sound like a nice friend to have but don't feel bad about putting your own needs first. Even if its a little white lie, say you have to get off the phone because of blah blah blah. Its really difficult when you're already low to be dragged down further. I find walking helps. I did two hours yesterday and picked out five front doors I liked, five cars, five houses and counted how many cats I met on the way. I also try and guss the colour of the car I can hear coming from behind. I feel stupid revealing all that but strangely it helps and I feel better when i get back. I'm glad you've got this place to offload at least.

 

[1001 others]

Our ungrateful house guest ... instead of sitting in the lounge watching TV with a lovely hot cup of tea and something sweet, I'm in my bedroom, snuggled under my doona pretending to be 'sick'. Absolutely nothing we do is right, and they invited some friends around today - to our house! without asking first! - not cool.

 

[lemonlime]

Not exactly a rant but for a long time now (like a couple years or so) I've been feeling like I am no longer in "friend love" with my close friends any more, if that makes sense? Almost all get togethers feel like a chore, I participate in conversations and want to share but either end up feeling alienated or irritated by things that never used to bother me. Pre-covid get togethers could be fun but I still left feeling a bit out of sorts. Seems like nobody else in our groups feels this way and I find myself wondering wtf is my problem, whether it's just outgrowing an old relationship or me being a cunt but it stresses me out and I am just not enjoying myself. I sometimes think if we'd become just as close if we had met now instead of like a decade or more ago.

 

[derbyshiregirl]

My whinge is about my friend. We rarely see each other but speak often, however she’s very self absorbed and will talk for hours about herself but isn’t so interested in me.

When she occasionally asks about my baby she won’t use her name she’ll say ‘the tot’ which really angers me. I’ve told her how I felt before but not a lot changed. I don’t get it because I’m on the other end of the scale, wanting to know all the latest gossip, my friends opinions on things, how they are etc

Makes me sad because she’s actually a fun, good person

 

[TeaNoSugar]

Why are boyfriends so totally 1 dimensional?

Always the same old crap - football, getting pissed with their mates, playing computer game till 2 in the morning; farting and belching all over the place; expecting a quick shag after trying the sweet talk; never understanding why women get moody; and how they're always right and never wrong, even though they really are in the wrong!

Never admit its their fault either.

They really are hard work at times

 

[idk2]

I seem to cry about small things completely unrelated to myself recently.
Thankfully it only happens when I'm by myself but things like watching old videos and seeing how life was before covid, reading peoples tweets about parents/family dying and not being able to go to funerals, etc. Normally I would find it sad but I wouldn't shed tears over it. Now they don't seem to stop

 

[Inforapenny]

My colleague openly telling us how great her Christmas was...she left tier 4 with her boyfriend and stayed up north with his family for 5 days and then from there they travelled to Scotland to stay with her family for 10 days and laughing that she was a criminal.
Her and all her family then visited her nan who is in her 80s. But then on the call she was moaning about how upset she is about lockdown not realising that not everyone got to see their families and it's because of people like her that we're in this position.
In my head I've cut ties with her. We were work friends but I can't cope with selfish, entitled people.
Ive decided I want nothing to do with her.

 

[JLXRD]

Hope I didn't kill this thread with my depressing post!

You didn’t, you are very strong to have kept going through what has been a tough year without the help you need and deserve.

I can’t offer any advice but I hope things start to improve for you soon and MH services can offer you some help.

Please chase them about it if you haven’t because even with covid happening you absolutely should be getting to speak to someone

 

[littlepup]

This will be long. But I’m just going to say it and leave it here to get it off my chest. I’ll probably sound like the asshole.

Fucking Covid is an absolute cunt. My friend in their 30s is dying, end of life, trying to complete their bucket list. They can’t do anything or go anywhere because of Covid.

My Nan is nearly 90, bed bound and incontinent, doesn’t know here own name and she’s been give the vaccine. I get tht my aunt who cares for her doesn’t want to get it and kill nan but give it to my aunt then. Vaccinate the younger people who need to get back to work and support themselves, if they’re vaccinated they can go see their mum at the care home and do a load of other stuff. What is the mum in the care home going to do?
Also, and obviously I love my Nan dearly it’s just an example, but she gets all these NHS services going in, carrier bags full of medications at god know what cost but as a pregnant lady maternity services have been cut right back, baby checks reduced and no one can do home visits. Surely this is going to cost so much more in the long run, things being missed in babies?! I totally understand the older generation are entitled and have paid for all of this but it just seems mad to keep everyone alive for ever with drastic measures when they are totally physically and mentally gone but the new lives are pretty much just told to get on with it.
Lastly, I’m about ready to drop and if my OH, who has to go into people’s houses to work, gets symptoms of Covid, he won’t be able to attend his first child’s birth.... But it’d be pretty safe for baby to see Nan, who doesn’t know who I am.

Finally, you go out of your way to be kind to people, introduce them to friends and involve them, support & encourage them to develop and thrive even at detriment to yourself then they are flying so high they decide they don’t need you anymore and shit on you. Only then do you realise that’s why they had no one in the first place.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Pure speculation of course, but when this Pandemic is officially declared "over", I will be waiting for the usual New Years' Honours announcements for high ranking "experts" and advisors to the government, along with high-ranking faceless suits in the NHS, the Civil Service and SAGE.

While the people who really matter; the people on the front-line in the NHS, the carers, the shop staff, the utilities people.... basically the ordinary people who haven't been able to work from home, who haven't been on furlough, but have had to go to work in order to keep the country moving - these people will be forgotten about other than for a few meaningless platitudes and false praise from those very same people who will probably get nice little bonuses along with a nice shiny gong from the Queen!

Speculation, but probably not far from the truth when it finally does materialize!

 

[petitspois]

Yes, whinge away everyone - this is the place for a grumble.

 

[ChunkyDunk]

My turn! I’m fed up. I’m a first year nursing student and on placement in a team which is lovely, but as it’s a community team and due to COVID all face to face clinics, appointments, visits etc are cancelled. I haven’t met a single patient since October and it doesn’t look like I will be any time soon. I’ve spent a lot of the placement “working from home” and just joining clinics and meetings online. We are still expected to get our competencies signed off, but I worry that I’ll end up being a terrible nurse and I’ll know nothing when I qualify. My mentor is great but sometimes I don’t see her in person for 3-4 weeks. I know I have many more placements to learn, but I don’t feel I’ve learnt very much so far. I’ve worked as a HCA for several years and I don’t feel I’ve experienced anything new, as the placement area is in an area I know well and have worked in for a long time.
All the theory is online and I’m so unmotivated to do it. I need to do things to learn them, just reading about it online doesn’t sink in. I’m supposed to be studying today but the uni system has crashed and I can’t get into anything so I’m giving up for the day.
I know I’m lucky really as so many nursing students are working tirelessly in the hospitals
and I’m safe at home. I just feel a bit useless and like my placement has been wasted.

 

[lemonlime]

I so wanted to slap my friend who clearly thinks hypochondriasis has an on/off switch and one can simply "stop worrying" as they please. I am not thinking the way I do because I enjoy it. These past couple of months had me unravel and lose my routine and my control. I drive myself sick with anxiety over my personal concerns on top of Covid and everything else, I do not need to hear a condescending laugh and snide comments because I can't control the way my brain is functioning at the moment. I am not an idiot, logically I know that my concerns are unlikely to be the actual case but knowing things and actually being able to accept those things don't necessarily come easily to me. Next time she bangs on about her phobia, I so want to say something bitchy right back but unfortunately I was raised better than that. /rant