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Astonishing said:

It would be interesting to know what actually happened. She says it’s because it’s painful but does she know deep down it will open up a can of worms for herself.
It’s horrible but I know deep down if I knew I had given my all to my sick child and posted their life across social media to so many. If I truly knew I hadn’t exploited them. I would give my “followers” the truth of what happened so they could understand why I was grieving so much.

Ashley Cain and Saffiya for example grieve online and share their grief, but I feel it’s more tasteful than kaytee/Kathleen/nursey.

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Sorry I have to disagree with you, ashley and safiya gave that poor baby the worst ending to her short life. No part of the circus they performed has been tasteful, they like kath stripped the baby of her dignity and instead of a peaceful passing she was bounced about, with loud music and large amounts of people. They took her outside into the bright sun with her eyes bleeding, they shared this with the world. They have turned the whole passing into a new influencer lifestyle just like kath. The amount of pages for that baby, selling tat is disgusting. Both these sets of parents need to look at their consciences because if they feel guilt it’s because they should

lou36 said:

I do feel so sorry for her and the loss of her beautiful boy but a part of me feels like she is playing a game to gain financially from the awful awful situation

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A part of me feels the same. She keeps talking about wanting to set up an online shop up to sell some kind of Jaxon themed products. She did say she’d donate ‘some’ of the proceeds to charity, but presumably she’s going to keep the rest. I just think it’s a bit off to be setting up a business off the back of your child’s tragic death. I don’t know if I’m being really harsh here, but the other day when she was saying setting the shop up was the only thing keeping her going, it came across as a bit guilt trippy ‘so you all better buy something’ ish to me.

I noticed this too. Hes absolutely thriving since hes gone

I am serevely deaf in 1 ear and profound in the other. I dont sign, i can comminicate as anyonr else but rely on lip reading. As soon as i got my diagnosis. My mum went all blazing. Got the DLA, a helper at school, speech therapy, she made me join a deaf group, eventually she pushed for me going to a proper deaf school.

By the time i was 14, i was sucidal and depressed. Mother loved the attention from medical professionals, pushed me for to get a bone anchored hearing aid (i didnt want it, i was happy with a normal hearing aid). She would cry to them and shed get her own way. All i wanted to do was be a typical teenager, i didnt fit in with deaf people as i didnt sign and i didnt know any hearing people. i learnt how to play a piano and done exams for them, i ADORED music. But mum kept pushing the disability thing.
Eventually i met a girl at college at 16, who treated me as any other teenager. she invited me to go clubbing (back in the day!) Amd i went...and omg....i felt so alive after that. I was thriving at college, meeting lots of people, had a amazing social life. They all knew i was hard of hearing but no problem. Eventually i met someone who was at uni but my mum hated him and hated my life. She made my life so difficult. So...at 17 i moved in with him 200 miles away. I got a full time job as a laboratory technician. Ok i got pregnant at 18 but i managed to go back to work when my baby was 6 months old and support my partner who was at uni... and i havr supported myself for 17 years and i have always done absolutely fine with no help.

Moral of the story is. My mother LOVED the disability side. She adored the attention she got from medical professionals, she loved having a 'special needs'child. But she was stopping me reaching my full potential, which can be incredibly damaging. So its clear at school, he is pushed and encoruaged. And its fantastic xx

Kaytee, if you do happen to read here, then so many of us are wishing your little boy well.

Sendparent said:

I want to know what her reason is for not visiting J before last night. A month is a long time to not visit your boy's grave who has only recently passed away. When she was in Morocco at the end of her stay she said the lights coming on at the house was a sign she needed to come back to J. She came back, I think she stayed a couple of days in London, came back to Nottingham for a 2 or 3 days then went back to london. She was back a day before she finally went to his grave. She had time to go last week and Monday. She could have gone over the weekend too if she didn't prioritise a few days in London over him and she could have come straight back to nottingham when she flew back from Morocco instead of staying down there for a few days. What's the reason for her not going up until last night? He should be the first you make time for. Her friend shared the photos of her playing with her children and it made me sad to see she had time for them but J has been left for a month.

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With the greatest respect, J hasn’t been left at all. J is dead.

Sorry, but I completely disagree with the idea that bereaved parents should be shackled to their child’s grave. I have lost significant family members and I have only visited their graves a handful of times. I miss my family members greatly but I don’t need to be beside their grave to feel that I am with them, and they are with me.

Kaytee is many things: narcissist, liar, possible sociopath, but don’t paint people as unnatural for not wanting to be close to graves. To some people graves are not significant.

And Jaxon hasn’t been left or abandoned. You can’t abandon someone who has died.

What makes me mad is how she hasn't helped the SEN community at all, she has made people think they have learnt about our life and none of them realise they have just become more ableist. People watched J for 56 days on the feeding programme, they were congratulating her and praising her on how well he was doing.

Looking back at those 56 days and there is a dramatic decline in his visible health, he was skeletal, they didn't notice him, they were too busy praising Kathleen. Praising her for feeding him junk food despite knowing he had complex medical needs. Praising her for giving him frazzles that he never ate. His love of frazzles is fake, he did not love them, he didn't eat them and they were probably the only option he was being given each day alongside the brownies he never ate.

J has lost his life and it is still all about Kathleen, supporting her, praising her as the best mum in the world. If MrsHinch put her boy onto a diet for 56 days where he lost all his body weight dramatically as he was only licking frazzles and not eating them, would people be praising her? Because J was disabled people weren't even paying attention to him and his dramatic decline, if somebody did that to a neurotypical child there would have been uproar, people would have noticed the child and that the parent was neglecting them, but they didn't notice J, they just heaped praise onto her for it. None of them have become more aware of disabled people, just aware of parenting a disabled child but all that was a lie too and not the reality of parenting a disabled child because none of us are like her.

If a parent who had neglected their neurotypical child, made money off them but then later lost that child would people support that parent if they decided to sell shirts and stickers to make themselves more money? There would be disgust. But J was disabled so the focus is on poor Kathleen and not him. Nobody is supporting or spreading Js message around the world. What is there to support now he has passed away? They are supporting Kathleen to travel around the world whilst J is forgot once again.

In life he was with carers for 60 hours a week, school for 35, with transport for 5 and with his nan and dad at weekends, hospices when she wanted a holiday. In death her naive friend is sitting at his grave whilst she is prancing around Morocco because she couldnt bring herself back? She should want to be back here and sitting there herself.

She is 'managing the launch' and working remotely. This isn't working, theres nothing to do on the online store, Teemill takes orders, process them, supply, prints and dispatches the orders. All she has to do is spend the profits from each order. I bet she is planning a launch party for when she is back, invite all her insta chums hoping they will story it and tag her. She will spend a bomb on trying to do a gram worthy event that will still look tacky and cheap in the end. To launch what too? She is hardly fashion designer of the year with a new brand, it's not a new Prada collection being launched. Its stickers and a tote bags. She is acting like she has just launched the next brand on the scale of Armani.

As someone who is in the LGBTQ+ community this has made me absolutely rage - those wipes were being sold in that packaging for Pride, to raise funds and awareness for the LGBTQ+ community, and for Switchboard which has been a lifesaver for many people. Fair enough if you want to pretend that J’s colours are a thing, but do not for one single second think that it is okay to take this from a marginalised minority group. No way.

I’ve never posted here before but I’ve been reading the past couple of days. her behaviour since the sad death of Jaxon has confirmed what I suspected all along. He was £££ signs to her and I feel so so sad for that poor boy.

when I first followed her I thought she was incredible. Then the more she posted the more I started to go off her.

the whole carers situation: why did she need carers? I have a 2 year old and a baby and no they aren’t disabled in any way, but I’ve noticed some differences:

when my 2 year old is poorly I have him in my room with me, even if it’s a mild cold just so I can keep close enough to be alerted if he got worse. If jaxons vomiting was so bad at night why was he in a separate room? She worried that she would sleep through him vomiting. Any mother whose that worried would have their child sleep in her room with her to at-least lower the risk.

she had some good nights with plenty of sleep and some bad nights with barely any. It’s the same with babies and young children. On our bad nights we just write the next day off and chill.Why couldn’t she just do that? She also had the option of respite centres, jaxon being at school and from what I’ve seen which wasn’t made obvious on her account - jaxons dad taking care of him, so she could catch up on sleep, housework, life admin etc. I don’t have any of that and manage just fine. I also found it odd that despite so many terrible sleepless nights, jaxon seemed very alert and full of life everyday.

she went to the gym often, lunch/dinner in fancy restaurants, weekends away, without jaxon. I don’t have the time or childcare for any of that.

jaxon was a bright kid. His speech and communication was amazing, he could walk with his frame - on his way to walking unsupported. He was smart. He wasn’t deaf, blind, paralysed. And why was it he only vomited when it could be dangerous, ie in the car and at night when kaytee slept? Or was this to make it look that carers were vitally needed?

how can a mother who has so much free time to shop, eat out, have weekends away, go the gym etc.. demand carers? When most mothers don’t have any time for that. When did she actually look after her child herself?

she used the respite centre so she could go on holiday without her child. She used jaxons school time to go the gym, shopping and for lunch. She used the time jaxon spent with his dad to go on nights out, dinners out and weekends away. She wanted the carers so she could have a good nights sleep so that she wouldn’t have to spend any of her free time catching up on it. Because you know, she deserved it. Unlike us mere mortals who dedicate every minute of our lives to our children. But she was the dedicated mother who deserved so much

now jaxons sadly passed she can’t use him to make money anymore. She can’t exploit and humiliate him publicly to rake the cash in to fund her extravagant lifestyle and that’s all that’s been on her mind. It shows so clearly. It’s ‘their space’ she said, so she has to carry it on. Really she means she needs to cash in on her new follower count. Jaxon made her money in life, now he’s gone she’s had to find a way for him to continue to make her money.

this is long i know but I had to get my thoughts out because I’ve never felt so angry for a little boy who I didn’t even know. He was so precious but was treated as a commodity and he continues to be in death. It’s so so sad and shouldn’t be allowed. The shop needs shutting down. Anything like that should be done for charity not to fund her materialistic lifestyle. All profits should go to children like jaxon, paying it forward for all the help she’s received. It’s what normal people do. Instead she’s continuing to exploit him for her materialistic gain. Distraction she says… oh please. Seeing your sons face with angel wings on a T-shirt is not distracting you from it. It’s the opposite. Seeing your dead sons face on a strangers clothing in the supermarket is not going to distract you from it is it? Ffs.

He was human. He was a little boy who deserved so much love, care, privacy and protection. I’m just glad he got that from his dad

When you say “ made mistakes “ your right but you fail to mention she continues the circus . you Have no idea the pain she has caused those around her and those who cared for jaxon more . I really want to not comment but when this women causes so much hurt to those you love with her constant lies and behaviour I feel I need to get it out . Everybody told her not to stop jaxons peg feed and start the feeding school program but she went ahead and did it anyway even when his father did not want that . Nobody wanted her to change his medications her reason for that was to make her day easier which was Odd because her day consisted of doing nothing . Everybody but her was wrong . The carers the doctors the paediatricions . I don’t think anybody really knows the pain on here of jaxons father sharing a child with her . When he just wants to visit his sons resting place and strangers are going l when he just wants to grieve but he can’t because she’s selling merchandise with his son on to total strangers .when she Has support from women on social media feeling sorry for her and funding her lifestyle when he can see she’s still profiting from they’re son . Her own family are disgusted with her . You think the things you read on here are bad you have no idea this women is poison absolute poison

Sorry, a long one - didnt realise there was a thread for her.
I found it really uncomfortable when she tagged ash & saf in her stories the other day… like she desperately wants to be noticed by them. And then someone mentioned her in Safs live yesterday and Saf was like “yeah Iv heard of TNM, I was so sorry to hear about her boy” like damn… its like she wants more followers and is using them to get it.. Same when she used to tag hinch hoping that hinch would share her posts for the followers… it’s so beggy its unreal, especially so soon after J has passed...! I would slightly understand if she was dirt poor, selling her furniture to pay her rent - hoping followers would get her an income but she's literally had about 4 gofundme's now. She's got a 5k+ hot tub in her back garden - She's not hard done by.

I remember her saying she left her job because she got in trouble for talking about it on social media. She also said she was worried about being on a ward full of covid & then coming back to care for J who had a weak immune system. She used covid as an excuse and then a bit further down said it was because she spoke about it on social media. Honestly I just don’t think she wants to work and she never has done. Everything seems to be for likes. She went back to finish uni for the likes. Remember when she was gonna do a masters in health psychology? That never happened. But she took a pic for the gram like “woo look at me, going back to uni”…

J’s funeral… she wanted everyone to line the streets and wave J off. She had a few cars considering she had zero support (apparently) and they were Bentley’s. When my daughter died, I had the bog standard funeral car that you get free with package the government give you & it was 1 car because I’m an actual single parent with no partner, her dad genuinely wasn’t interested & zero support.

She wants to buy the house with zero income. Yes she’s a qualified nurse. But she’s an unemployed nurse & it’s gonna take her a while to get a steady income in from the little shop she’s setting up. Don’t all new businesses start in the red for the first year until they start making a profit? The swipe ups and affiliated links will be another source of income for her – not sure what she’ll promote now though. She’s gonna have to rebrand herself. Remember when she said she was bisexual? She could jump on the LGBTQ but never has. Honestly I think she just uses key words for likes and followers.

Also, absolutely hate it when people cry in the phone. Like "oh my god i'm so upset, where's my phone so i can record it and put it on insta"...

mrslh said:

It’s staged a chapel of rest is no place for bloody pictures I hope none of you ever have to but I have and let me tell you the last thing I wanted to do was pose for photos holding my dead baby why someone photographs I’m sorry I said it but she’s sick and using that photo to gain sympathy and people to buy her merch is worst . I think if many people reported her and the things we have in these threads they most definitely would look into it because it is child neglect and I have never come across thread as bad as this for obvious child neglect it’s so sad poor j

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Ok, I might sound awful but i've been in that situation. Myself and my husband have photos holding our baby in the chapel of rest but in our defence they are for us and will NEVER be put online for everyone to see.
Our son died when he was 3 days old. I only held him twice when was alive (once when he was covered in wires to try and help him and once when he died) He was 2 days old the first time I held him.

I wish I had never had to see or feel my child like that.

But there is one thing taking photos and another plastering them online.

REEECAPPPP

THENURSEMUM AKA KAYTEE JONES REAL NAME IS KATHLEEN PHILLIPS.

She has had OVER £80K in gofundmes in the last 3 years 9 months and 8 days.

Constantly filming J at his worst moments, his doctors ect were never good enough or right in her eyes. She changed his medication and stopped some completely to suit her needs.

J was at school full time and at his dads a lot of the time but she still wanted 60 hours of carers who she was also abusive to at times.

Kaytee got a big posh Mercedes’ for a mobility car worth about 50k then moaned when Js wheelchair wouldn’t go in the boot so she stuffed him in a little pushchair when she took him out.

She put J on a feeding school AGAINST advice of his doctors and he became emaciated in front of everybodys eyes.

In may J was very poorly. kAytee got him discharged from Hosptial because it was her 30th birthday week and she went to altern towers and to London. A few days later J took a turn.
Now poor J has lost his life WE ON THIS THREAD HAVE NEVER SAID IT WAS KAYTEES FAULT. Just that we had some concerns and that she could have made better choices.

After Js death Kaytee has very quickly opened a merch store selling T-shirts with Js face and Angel wings which us on this thread believe to be in poor taste. She then invited her 100k followers to visit Js resting place like a theme park attraction.

Pls do add on if I’ve missed anything important

You know what’s weird as fuck, selling t shirts with your dead child on.
I’d be mortified to be in Tesco and see someone wearing my kid.
weird

Craftyh said:

All the nhs staff and nurses I know are
Dodgy asf - she’ll fit right in (they aren’t saints)

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Maybe you should report them to their governing bodies if you feel so strongly that their conduct is untoward but do not generalise an entire workforce across the U.K.

If you know jaxons father or know his family you will know the hell that kaytee has put him through . And until today I kept quiet about certain things . many wanted to go to jaxons funeral but did not go because biting your tongue is really hard given the circumstances. everybody who DID look after jaxon was gaslighted by kaytee and abused . She was NOT a single mother she was co parenting and jaxons father had jaxon more than she did . Jaxons father paid a substantial amount in maintenance also and rightly so he was his father . But she was far from the single mother she portrayed. We all expected this shit show to stop after jaxon passed but sadly it has carried on and the things she does hurts those around her but she cannot see it all she can see is pound signs . I only made myself known on here today because I know your all thinking wow she seems overly invested and yes I am because I am sick of jaxons father and all of us being made the bad ones when in reality he was better off with anybody but HER ! everything the last month has been shocking but the worst for us that knew them was when she invited strangers to his resting place without even asking how his father would feel . he was not just her son !!!

Maybe it’s AJ…..

Jumpindesia said:

Does she still have her cats?

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Who knows, maybe not if shes realised the rspca dont pay single cat parent keiras an allowance to look after them.

HOW does she never open any messages sent to her…. but is always able to open ‘troll’ messages almost as soon as they come through …..

That poor boy had no peace in life. Constantly paraded online for likes, comments, shares, adverts, sponsorship, freebies. His every vomit, tear, cry, admission shared online for exposure and a following. Now he's passed his mother Instagrams from the luxury pool of her luxury hotel in Morocco to emotionally blackmail us all into keeping j's memory alive by buying merch featuring him. And she can't get that shop open quick enough. Let him rest in peace. Stop monetizing him. Your followers have donated to 3 separate and high earning gofundme campaigns now. They've also sent you hundreds in costa and supermarket vouchers (That she begged for from his hospital bed). Where will it all end? If it was just her storying her grief I'd understand but every story is about monetizing his death.

Its coming across as very 'I'm missing the influencing gigs I got because i exploited my son'. Hence the new shop.

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