Glortard

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Longtime lurker and fence sitter here. Firstly - and I'm not saying this to stir up an argument - I believe trans women are women (and trans men are men etc). And I want equal rights for trans people. I'm fine with shared spaces, I think. But I'm really struggling to get my head around the constant tellings off for using the word "woman" when talking about... women's things. Birth, pregnancy. I believe men can be pregnant, in the case of trans men. So I'm pretty pro trans rights, but even I'm being told that I'm not pro trans rights enough.

I got told that "breastfeeding" should be referred to as breast/chestfeeding. I work in the pregnancy and breastfeeding world and I know how little support there is already. I don't know how to word this properly, but I feel like not calling it breastfeeding does a disservice to women. And breasts are female AND male. Men can get breast cancer.

I don't know how to articulate myself well on this (was up most of last night feeding my twins) but being told to use "they" instead of he or she really annoys me too. I'll call a trans woman "she" and a trans man "he" each and every time. I have no issue with that and never will. But things like the photos I'll add below are starting to really grate. They're from a dungaree group that I was in (and have now left). Someone posted referring to the model in the photo, who is clearly a woman as "she", and they got told to change the post to say "they". I've added the edit history of the post. I would personally be offended if I was referred to as "they". Women are still very much a marginalised group. I don't know what I'm getting at really. Just thinking out loud.

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I am a man and it’s a biological fact that men cannot get pregnant even if they work for the guardian. Saying that is not breaching anyone’s human rights it’s just shattering some people’s mental delusions.

Woman have breasts and they breastfeed which is not possible for a man to do naturally as the production of milk is triggered by hormones produced during pregnancy. Using words like chest feeding is just another example of slowly eroding woman’s rights. Whilst you are correct that in rare occasions men can get breast cancer this is due to them having a small amount of breast tissue located behind the nipple. Woman on the other hand cannot get testicular cancer as woman do not have testicles.
 
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SqualorVictoria

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Someone posted this on that Gabby thread

It does because women are needed for research and it halts access to care too.

Using inclusive language is great but not when it prevents access to the care from people who aren’t educated above a certain level, who have learning difficulties, who have English as a second language, who are prevented by males in the home/in abusing situations, who have no idea about the political ways language is changing. Not everyone is hyper aware of the evolution of language regards trans/non binary as not everyone has access to the internet where most of the conversation is happening.
This then becomes a socioeconomic problem too and means health care then starts preventing or scaring women away from sex specific care because they don’t have the internet, aren’t on Twitter or don’t read The Guardian.

Many women, for instance (if we extrapolate here to cervical screening) don’t know what a cervix is, nor that they have one and yes that’s sad, and yes there should be better education. But that is centuries down the line because of course woman are deep root shamed about their bodies and we are still seen as dirty and shameful by many. Education, healthcare and society will need centuries to evolve and move away from the Abrahamic degradation of the female sex before every woman is aware that she has a cervix, what it is, and what it does - let alone further details about the female body.

If “woman” becomes replaced by “cervix havers” and similar, as it has in many trusts, then it rather precludes women from taking part in research or having appropriate screening, testing and help.

Edited to add: It should go without saying that TM and NB people should of course receive all the help they need and should be sign posted appropriately. There needs to be an overhaul in the way trans people are dealt with in medical care. But sadly, knowing how long it takes for women to be seen as something other that “other” in medical care, I can’t see it happening in any useful way in my lifetime.
Just changing medical and patient literature to exclude/dilute the world “woman” from a primarily female or solely female health problem is unhelpful and causes more issues than it solves. It see why it is done, I see the insistence of people to say “we must include trans people too” and that it is helpful in other areas but the rather bullish ways non-medical people have tried to apply it to medical settings is very, very unhelpful.
 
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Bitofthebubbly

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Now some parts of the Harry Potter fandom are calling for Daniel Radcliffe to be named author of the Harry Potter series.

That’s not just plagerism that’s fucking insulting. What ever her views, she wrote those books. Nothing will ever change that. How many male authors over the years have been complete weirdos or have even done bad shit themselves, no ones calling for their names to be taken off their work.
 
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A place to discuss the author, JK Rowling.

I just wanted to say how brave I think she is posting tweets saying she believes sex is real. I am aware that as a rich, white author she doesn't have a lot to lose, but still.
 
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neo_wales

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Looking at the child actors from the HP films and their reaction to JKR's comments made me realise that being a 'film star' does not mean your the sharpest pencil in the box.
 
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Expelliarmus

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The thing is, I’m pretty privileged, I could do a great line on virtue signalling on this. I could put my pronouns in email, stick a few rainbow stickers up, shame a few women for not being ‘kind’ and wrong think. I could cheer along the Richard Madeley’s who can act liberal while having zero skin in the game.

I’m at the age of invisibility to men, as long as I don’t ask for the manager within their earshot and remember to move out of their way on the pavement. My career already took the female hit so that’s a sunk cost. I could avoid public toilets. Just a few more common or (lady) garden sacrifices on top of the rest. But.. what about the women in prison though or being searched by the police? Or the female athletes, or the vulnerable woman in the hospital bed; what about the woman avoiding her smear test because it was hard enough when you knew who would be performing it? How about the child who might be autistic, or gay, or just feeling fucking awkward in their teenage body - and takes what seems like a solution before realising they’ve taken an irreversible path while the well meaning adults cheered them on. What about them? So no. I’m a woman, there was no identifying out of what came along with that, and I’ll stand for the other women and girls.

I’m also very sorry about your trauma but women need sex based spaces because of the trauma they may have experienced, and because of the trauma they may experience perpetrated by men in those very spaces. VAWG is overwhelmingly perpetrated by men. No matter what they wear or say or feel. I do not believe that women and girls need to manage their own trauma and triggers, related to men, in what should be a female space.

Perhaps the men that feel they’re entitled to access women’s spaces need to be the ones responsible for their own trauma. In their own sex based spaces.
 
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hannah123

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God I wish more people stuck up for her. She is really getting such a beating and I am so sick of people who haven’t even read her fucking essay screeching about transphobia. Dicks.
I imagine she’s aware outside of the echo chamber of twitter most people still think of her in very high regard. The Harry Potter books continue to be the most read books on Amazon week in week out through Amazon audible, Kindle unlimited and book sales. The Harry Potter franchise merchandise continues to sell insane amounts, and her newly published books are also selling very well and reaching book charts. If she dropped a new Harry Potter book this year people would be queuing at midnight all over again and there’s nothing people on Twitter can do about that.

Even this rhetoric circling about the goblins being symbols of anti-semitism just shows a lot of the Twitter hate mob to be the ones that have the problem. I saw one tweet claim all the characters of colour had stereotypical names, we’re now disregarding Dean Thomas, Lee Jordan, Angela Johnson, Kingsley Shacklebolt and many more to fit their hatred for her.

The reality is, for a school in the 1990s set in Scotland it was actually overly representative of the ethnic makeup of the UK at that point in time, Dumbledore would never have disclosed to a pupil his sexuality and the characters feature a plethora of fantasy folklore examples. No one had a problem with this for 20 years, she makes a few comments about gender and people start creating their own narrative of the series, it’s absolutely absurd.
 
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Glaschelle

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I'm a bit late to the thread, but if have to say I've found it very informative and interesting and apart from some name calling, at least there is debate.

I was appalled at the abuse JK got on Twitter. There's no debate, no dialogue, just she's a homophobic TERF!!!

That's the thing that's really bothering me - there's no debate - it's just shut up and f*** off.

I think we all agree that everybody should live how they wish, dress how they wish and be addressed how they wish. That doesn't mean I'm comfortable with the erosion of female only spaces and would like some discussion about this issue.

I'm particularly worried about kids and the fact that nobody nowadays seems to be allowed to be 'odd'. As a child, I wasn't particular feminine, was a bit of tomboy and because of family dynamics always felt like an outsider. Now, 40 years on, I love pink and glitter but also love my football team and am rarely out of jeans/trousers. In terms of gender stereotypes, I'm still odd. Or unique!!!

I found the interview with Rachel Doelzal really interesting and thought provoking. I do wonder if her idea that race is a social concept will pick up followers. Because I can see the parallels between this and gender concepts.

As i said, I've found this a really interesting thread and even if I don't agree with people, they have the right to state their point of view. Just wish they would also let JK express her point of view.
 
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LittleMy

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She should be allowed to post whatever she wants as long as it’s not hate speech (which it wasn’t despite what people are saying), it’s her Twitter. The backlash of abuse she has received for it is disgusting imo. Far worse than anything she’s ever tweeted.
 
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MotherofDragons

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I need to vent here as I don't want to derail another thread by replying to the post, but this has really fucked me off.

"Also, Gabby, don't fall into the JK Rowling trap of saying "women". There are trans men and non-binary folk with endo too."

This was someones comment on the Gabriella Lindley thread re. her endometriosis diagnosis. Now i'm not saying that Gabby isn't problematic, but she has done absolutely nothing wrong by talking about endometriosis as a womens health condition.

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amethyst_unicorn

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Summary of previous thread

Many contributors acknowledged their thanks and support of JK Rowling speaking up for women, standing up for women's rights and particularly raising concerns about the current political and social trend to promote extreme trans-activism at the expense of the safety of women and girls by allowing a biologically determined male (i.e. someone with intact male genitalia) to self identify as female and enter female designated places, such as toilets and changing rooms.

There has been much discussion with occasional contributors making statements that to not accept the current trend was transphobic, making comments about supportive opinions of JK Rowling were being made by "Karen's", "TERFs" or "cis" (usually) older females (definitions at end of post).

On the whole, intelligent arguments were made to counter these allegations. JK Rowling continues to be lambasted by extremists and there is a campaign to "cancel" her and her contribution to literature, culture and society. Some of the excellent arguments I copied and saved, but to my shame forgot to save the names of the contributors so please, if this was your contribution, acknowledge it and thank you 🤗 💗

" I have no issues whatsoever with trans people. I do however have issues with men who still have penises and have no intention of undergoing genital surgery but still identify as women. Some insist that they should be allowed into women only spaces such as changing rooms and public toilets, and that if they go to prison they should go to a women’s prison. Several self-identified trans women have sexually assaulted or raped women prisoners whilst in jail.
They also believe that lesbians who won’t sleep with them are transphobic and have attacked and harassed women who don‘t agree with them.
These are the types that JK Rowling has issues with."


"The trans sense of entitlement really reminds me of er...male entitlement actually. Entitled to women’s spaces and women’s bodies.
Fuck off with that shit."


"The trans lobby is inherently anti women. Look at the comments on this thread. If they were supportive of gays and lesbians why have they alienated lesbians by arguing that they are homophobic for refusing to sleep with trans women. Leave women alone. Leave us be. And stop calling us cis. We are not a sub set of woman. We are women. Not cis, not bleeders, not menstruators, not cervix holders. Women. Adult female human. Woman."


"They can do what the fuck they want. Just keep their male bodies and male pattern criminality AWAY from women and children.
Yaniv is NOT an isolated incident. That is an utter lie. There is an entire subreddit, r/thisneverhappens , dedicated to recording such crimes.
One that springs to mind is Karen White, a convicted bepenised rapist and paedophile who was put in a women’s prison, and who, surprise surprise, sexually assaulted his fellow inmates.
Another is teenage transgenderist Katie Dolatowski, who attempted to sexually assault a 10 year old girl in a women’s public toilet."


"Trans women’s rights are directly taking away women’s rights.
The entire reason that women’s spaces are separate from men’s is that men are a risk to women. This risk is due to male-bodied strength relative to females, and male pattern criminality.
Since transwomen retain both male-bodied strength and the same tendency to commit male-pattern criminality, admitting transwomen into women’s safe spaces is the same risk as admitting men into these spaces. It is therefore the same as taking away women’s right to safe spaces.
This is proven by the fact that transwomen make up 0.5% of women’s prison oppositions but commit 11% of rapes. This number is conservative because transwomen with gender recognition certificates are counted as female.
As for transwomen being unwelcome in male toilets due to the threat of male violence, firstly there is no evidence that this is the case, unlike the countless crimes committed by transwomen in women’s toilets. Drag queens have been using men’s toilets for decades with few issues.
Men should be educated to not attack violent males in different clothing. Women's and children’s safety should not be sacrificed for issues that are not our fault.
Black women have spoken up about historic US toilet segregation being compared trans women’s invasive demands. You are an ignorant racist. Firstly it is racist because you are comparing black women to biological males, and because you are misrepresenting their historic struggles to use them as props in arguments.
Secondly it’s not a valid comparison; blacks were segregated in many areas of life including even water fountains and bus seats, not just private safe spaces. The toilets were extensions of general segregation, not due to particular concerns about black womens’ anatomy, strength, or sex crime risk, as you imply with these irrelevant comparisons.
Please state exactly what JK Rowling has said that “fuels hatred”.
My last thought is that it’s ironic that you are accusing this thread of being an “echo chamber”, when you are so enraged by JK Rowling gentle disagreeing with an echo chamber, that you want to boycott her."


"The majority of transgender women retain their male genitalia. So, the point is, people with penises will be using female spaces - not just toilets (which aren’t really the issue) but open changing rooms, women’s only wards in hospitals, women’s prisons, domestic abuse shelters etc. The fact is that there will be vulnerable women, victims of rape and abuse, who will have significant trauma, and should not be forced to share these spaces with people with penises, just because those people feel like women.
It’s a further problem when you realise that most transgender ideology and charities now believe that transgender does not mean you have gender dysphoria or even have to attempt to present as the opposite sex. If you say you are, you are. So a bearded, male-looking person can say he’s a woman and that’s that. Isn’t that troubling?
Then we get to the fact that self ID laws and this idea of “everyone is what they say they are” can be exploited by male predators. It is being exploited already, there are numerous examples of this. This is without getting into the fact that some transwomen (emphasis on some) are predators themselves. Plenty of examples out there."


"(It would have prevented) Katie Dolatowski (being) in the ladies toilets in the Morrisons in Kirkcaldy when, on two separate occasions, Katie filmed a 12-year-old girl over the cubicle wall and sexually assaulted a 10one-year-old girl while her father waited for her outside. Katie was convicted of voyeurism and sexual assault."


"For me it’s not just about toilets.
I, of course, do believe trans people have rights. I recognise they are a marginalised group. I believe that gender is a social construct.
i will also say this; women have difficulty entering public spaces. From catcalling, to being groped, to being abused - all of this behaviour stems from the public sphere historically being the Male domain, something that is still present in the psyche of people today. We have had to fight and negotiate for our place in this public sphere - to be able to walk down the street in a skirt and not have it be commented upon. To be able to walk alone at night. By virtue of being born with a specific set of genitalia, women have been removed from certain privileges. We continue to fight for these.
There is also the fact that, statistically, the vast vast majority of women have been sexually harassed or assaulted in the UK. I’d go so far to say that every single woman in the U.K. has experienced a form of harassment or assault at some point, ranging from unwanted advances in a pub, to someone grabbing your bum, to full on attacks. It is prevalent. I include myself among this statistic, as does JK.
I also do not see trans women as being a threat or as being perpetrators of this abuse at all. Most I’ve known are gentle souls with more empathy than most. This isn’t about these people being abusive.
for me the issue is this; women have carefully negotiated their place in the public sphere. If we - as a society - deem any people who are biologically Male AND decide they identify as the gender female, should have access to these spaces, it removes arenas that have been ringfenced for biological/cis women and it opens our public spheres to anyone who claims they are a woman. It’s opens our protected rights and spaces to exploitation.
we have had the vote for just a hundred years, compared to thousands of years of oppression. Until relatively recently, a woman was property of her male relatives or husband with few legal rights. It is mind numbing, just how recent this state of affairs was.
it isn’t about if I mind a trans woman in a bathroom; it’s about minding if a trans woman can use female only gym areas, women’s only swimming sessions, designated women’s sporting events, women’s changing rooms, women’s domestic abuse facilities, women’s health facilities and so on.
in worst case scenarios, women who have been subject to abuse from men (I volunteered in a charity supporting these women) sometimes find they cannot feel safe or secure in the presence of men. To state that any biological Male should have access to these women’s spaces based on their gender identity alone, is an idea worthy of discussion at the very least. No one should have TERF yelled at them over it."



The following definitions are from dictionary.com

"Cancel Culture" - Canceling, today, is used like a massive, informal boycott when someone or something in the public eye offends … or when we’re just over them. Justified or not, canceling someone sounds harsh. Synonyms for cancel are similarly severe: abort, wipe out, squash, trash, and repudiate.
"What happens when someone gets canceled?"
There are varying degrees of cancelation. Sometimes, it’s just a general declaration via the media or by social-media users. In other cases, however, cancelations are accompanied by mass unfollowings on social media, declines in sales and subscriptions, lost contracts, and more. While canceling can also be used with benign or humorous intent, such as with love, in other cases, canceling someone can have a very real impact on their livelihood.


"Karen" is a pejorative slang term for an obnoxious, angry, entitled, and often racist middle-aged white woman who uses her privilege to get her way or police other people's behaviours.
In 2020, Karen spread as a label used to call out white women who were in viral videos engaging in what are widely seen as racist acts.


"TERF" is an acronym for "trans-exclusionary radical feminism" or "trans-exclusionary radical feminist."
TERF is used to describe cisgender women who self-identify as feminist but who are opposed to including transgender women in spaces they reserve for people who were assigned female at birth. This is because they believe trans women are men and since men cannot coexist with their feminist ideologies, they exclude them from their beliefs and support. In fact, they often believe they should be denied rights and sometimes advocate for harm against trans people.


"Gender" is sometimes confused with “sex.” “Sex” is biological; gender is complex and somewhat amorphous, and relates to behavioral and psychological traits. Gender is primarily applied to human beings.


"Sex assignment" is the determination of an infant’s sex at birth. Generally, it’s unambiguous, but there may be complications in making that assignment if a baby is intersex. (People born with genital ambiguity were previously referred to as “hermaphrodites,” but that term is considered outdated and “intersex” is now preferred.) On occasion the sex that a child is assigned at birth doesn’t conform with that person’s innate gender identity.

"Cisgender", or just "cis", is a term for a person whose gender identity corresponds with their biological sex assigned at birth. It’s the opposite of transgender. The prefix cis is Latin for “on this side of,” whereas trans means “on the other side of.”Cisgender is favored over another term, gender-normative, which can be seen to imply that transgender identities are not “normal.”

"Transgender" has long applied to people whose gender identities do not correspond to the sex they were assigned at birth. It can be used for those who have sex reassignment surgery, or for those who present and live publicly as a different gender than they were assigned at birth.
Transgender is the “T” in the acronym LGBTQ.

"Gender identity" is a person’s self-perception of their gender as male, female, a mix of male and female, or as something else beyond the gender binary. It may differ from their sex assigned at birth. A range of identities are now being recognized.

"Binary", in the context of the gender lexicon, refers to the view of gender as consisting of only two identities: man or woman, male or female.
Nonbinary refers to a gender identity outside of those two categories: not exclusively male or female, perhaps both, neither, or something else entirely.

"Gender Neutrality" - In addition to gender neutral words and restrooms, gender neutrality can refer to the concept of ending the branding and discrimination related to gender and sex in society. Gender neutrality also encourages the idea that we should end the practice of giving roles or making rules based on sex or gender.
 

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Lanavalentine

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That has nothing to do with transgender rights? also that happens regardless of gender and sexuality.
with respect, I think you have missed the point here.

The majority of transgender women retain their male genitalia. So, the point is, people with penises will be using female spaces - not just toilets (which aren’t really the issue) but open changing rooms, women’s only wards in hospitals, women’s prisons, domestic abuse shelters etc. The fact is that there will be vulnerable women, victims of rape and abuse, who will have significant trauma, and should not be forced to share these spaces with people with penises, just because those people feel like women.

It’s a further problem when you realise that most transgender ideology and charities now believe that transgender does not mean you have gender dysphoria or even have to attempt to present as the opposite sex. If you say you are, you are. So a bearded, male-looking person can say he’s a woman and that’s that. Isn’t that troubling?

Then we get to the fact that self ID laws and this idea of “everyone is what they say they are” can be exploited by male predators. It is being exploited already, there are numerous examples of this. This is without getting into the fact that some transwomen (emphasis on some) are predators themselves. Plenty of examples out there.
 
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bubbletea123

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Biological sex isn't binary either. It's not xy or xx, there can be all sorts of combinations, xxy, xyy, x etc alll of which can result in a variety of sex characteristics,. So saying all those that menstruate are women is very ignorant

And reading back through the comments can people please stop saying gender dysphoria is a mental illness. It makes it sound as though a few pills and some counselling is all that is needed. It can be the cause of mental health issues
Nah, I am sorry people BORN a woman with a vagina, cervix, womb, ovaries, etc are the ones who menstruate. No one else. This mentality is getting too far and radical now.
 
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Vanillaco

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It's also things like going into a gynae exam or any medical where we can ask for a female doctor. If that female doctor comes in with a full beard, we cant say anything to object. Or turning up to report a rape, and a male bodied police officer comes in. Or going into a rape crisis centre and having to share a space with a male bodied person. Or being a teenage girl having to change in front of a naked girl who happens to have a penis and balls. Or going on scouts camp and sharing a tent with a 14 year old girl with a penis and balls. Or never ever having a chance to win a gold medal in your chosen sport because a person whose physical body has been enhanced by huge amounts of testosterone has decided they want to compete against you.Or for example an adult who has been a woman for about a year getting the job of women's officer in the Labour Party over women who have been women their whole lives.
 
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sheleg

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When provision did become available, after many years of women’s organisations campaigning for it, some men were so incensed that they destroyed the toilet blocks by arson

I’m highlighting this again just to make sure it doesn’t get lost in the thread.

Think about this for a minute.

Some men hated and disregarded women so much that they didn’t want there to be public facilities for them to go to the toilet.

Let that sink in.

And then think about the men who physically stopped the woman running in the Boston marathon when it was still men only.

This is how much men hate women.

They now have a different disguise.
 
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