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The wave of light as just reeks of upper class. The average person cannot afford a £30 candle. It gets my back up so much! Like someone commented further up, light a tea light for about 10p, and donate £5 or whatever to tommys. Surely as one of the voices of baby loss on social media she should be so careful about the vulnerabilities of families that have lost babies.

Everyone may as well just donate the £11.95 directly to Tommy’s and just read her blog instead. Miss out the patronising middle man. It’s not even as though she wrote the whole book, there’s 4 other people who helped her out on this one.

aliceband said:

She has well and truly stuck two fingers up at the thousands of people who have backed her for a long time. Her instagram doesn’t even have a photo of herself as the profile photo or even her own name!! Last attempt to get a few pennies from this book and she’s off.

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I would have respected her SO much if she’d put that latest blog post out, put up a nice photo on her grid of herself (maybe even the back of O’s head ) and said (in a fancier way) “since baby was born I don’t want to do Instagram anymore, I did write a book when I was pregnant though and I really hope it helps other women who are going through what I went through - here’s how to buy it. I’m going to leave my page active and my blog too so that if anyone wants to read through it they can but from now on I won’t be active. Thankyou for the support, well wishes and love you’ve all shown.”

If I’d seen that I’d have been like “wow respect to you, you go and enjoy your baby you deserve it.”

But the half arsed attempt/blatant disregard for her followers has sooo put me off!

I don't think any of these instagrammers realise that they wouldn't even get one book deal let alone several without their following on IG. Part time working mummy, Hinch, Anna Mathur. Who would give them a book deal if they were Jane Bloggs down the road. Yet they talk about SM being just an unpaid hobby that they could leave at any time. Nope it's a way of lining their own pockets.

MrsHater said:

Absolutely! He was constant.. “Look at us, we are considerably richer than yooooooou”. I actually think she tries to appeal to the upper class followers; she wants to form relationships with celebs etc.

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OMG you are so right . I’m convinced the reason she was horrible to me was that I am a small account with a small number of followers and I am certainly not upper class or a celeb. You have hit the nail right on the head . People like me are of no use to her, I don’t know influential people or can’t get her any freebies or new followers. All I know is that I followed her for a number of years, donated to Tedicated Cycle, donated many times for the NICU etc and when I reached out she slapped me right back down and made me feel, quite frankly, like . I had sent her so many positive messages on many occasions, only receiving the in response, if that. One time, I messaged her with reference to my own heartbreak and immediately she shut me down. So long as you’re talking about her and supporting her that’s fine. As soon as you might want to mention you also have she shows her true colours. That is why I say that Eleanor is fake. I know this is harsh but I do actually believe she has monetised the loss of her son. I didn’t used to think that, I thought her page was all to do with her healing. Maybe she started out that way but the book and the celebs and the big following has truly gone to her head. She does think she is above most people and she judges people by their wealth and ‘status’. She’s only being nicey nicey now because she has a book to sell. Eleanor Wright is not the only person who has suffered the loss of a precious baby but she acts like she is . #allthatglittersisntgold

She hasn’t changed one bit. I went to upper school with her. Other than her fake posh accent she is still someone that thinks she is above people. She comes from a working class back ground & went to a main stream school. She wasn’t liked much at school & hasn’t keep in contact with anyone. She only had a handful of friends & not actually sure why her friends could tolerate her. It is so terrible all she has be through not one should go through a lost of a child. But that doesn’t give her the right to dismiss people.
It’s all about her & her grief - she needs validation from hundreds of people, it’s actually extremely sad. Just shows she hasn’t evolved & most likely never will. If you put yourself out there publicly to raise awareness for a worthy cause then you have to expect for women that have lost to reach out to her. For heaven sake she was doing paid talks to women, magazines & even tv pushing for people to talk about their lost. It’s absolutely disgraceful the way she has behaved towards some of her audience. She should be ashamed of herself. I hope she sets a better example to her daughter. Don’t even get me started on her book (what a piece of p**!!) She is completely out of her mind with her advice) I know many people that have lost babies & they all said it was terrible. Can you image being a friend to her, those poor women. Needless to say I will not be purchasing her new book. In a years time she will be irrelevant & the next insta hun will arrive. (I’m writing this to you Eleanor as we all know you read this) Enjoy your long awaited daughter, be kind to others & treat them how you clearly expect to be treated. Keep on fundraising (as you have made an impact) but not to benefit yourself. Give up the Instagram it is looking desperate now to sale your book. Remember people keep receipts, it only takes one to post their receipts for your image to be crumbed like the other Instagramers.

He will pay 20% tax on the first 50k, 40% tax on the 50k- 125k and 45k on the remaining 125k plus. He’s probably on approx £9-10k per month before pension contributions.
He obviously works hard and earns well, I don’t have any issue with that. Selling your dead child for fame and being a braggy, nasty mannered, passive aggressive Botoxed up prick I do judge.

I find the whole insta infertility/ baby loss world is just the same old people. It’s boring to be honest, a load of privileged, mainly white women telling the same old stories again and again. The plum and Ashby wave of light campaign didn’t move me at all, just made me think here are 4 middle class women on a day out! They only have time for each other, or other people who are useful to them. I’m
Sorry for anyone who has reached out to Elle or others and not been treated with kindness.

Trickywoo said:

What's a risotto stirrer ? Wooden spoon ?

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With a hole in it though so I'm going to call it "O"

I have followed her for a while but I was always thinking at the back of my head that she has profited off a baby’s death. It didn’t sit right but I thought I was the only one who saw it like that. Thanks tattle!

Now her posts stink of ‘I got what I wanted’, it gave her something to do while waiting for a baby plus support when SHE needed it but now can’t be bothered anymoreand finds all her followers annoying and an inconvenience.

I feel like she wants to scream ‘leave me alone’ but also buy my book. Unfortunately she created this monster and now she must slay it. Once the book has sold a decent amount (I won’t be buying it) she will do another announcement saying that she is leaving Insta to bring up her daughter in private oh but I’ll leave this page for you poor people who haven’t crossed over to the other side yet

Nellyboy said:

This is so well worded and exactly how I feel about her. What I saw in her was the first time I encountered somebody on Insta who was fake.

As I said over on the RVK loves thread, all that glistens isn’t gold. She was v abrasive/rude to me and imo it was v unnecessary. I had been nothing but kind and supportive to her with any comments or dms I had sent her. I can’t help that think because I’m a private account with not a lot of followers, I was of no interest to her or importance. That’s fine I know people irl are like that too, I just detest the way she tries to come across as so saccarine sweet when she definitely has an edge to her

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I have been blocked by Elle on my personal account. As I mentioned on the rave thread. I also followed her on my business account (over 50k followers) and personal account (200 followers). I’ve never commented negatively on her posts. But I’ve been blocked! I have no idea why. I’ve also now unfollowed from my business account.

I reviewed and promoted her first book for her, but won’t be bothering with this book. Don’t get me wrong, I am so pleased they have their baby at home with them and hope all goes well for them.

But as someone else has pointed out, she has in the past accepted free stuff for advertising - she also had I believe the washing machine for the new kitchenand has been on trips with Joules (with the other insta huns) to name but a few.

I’ve also been blocked by a few others - Cara Suthers for one and I’ve never followed her!

To block anyone who hasn’t done anything but liked, commented and hoped she would get her baby is beyond me.....

Shaunaftw said:

At the risk of sounding awful (I'll never be in the situation of wanting children but never being able to have them as I've never wanted kids) Is it really worth all of the heartache trying and trying when she now has a daughter? Does that make sense? Yes I know it must be absolutely horrific losing a child at any stage or being told it will probably never happen for you if you do want children but knowing the pain and sadness of it why would you keep putting yourself through it? Especially when you can adopt or foster? It's difficult for me to understand it as someone who has zero desire to ever have kids myself.

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Adoption/fostering isn’t the responsibility of infertile couples/individuals though. I honestly hate the fact everybody uses it as a response to people struggling to conceive through any route. Nobody ever suggests it to people with seem to have an easy time bringing a baby home. Please don’t take that as me being rude, as I don’t intend to be. But adoption/fostering isn’t the answer to her secondary infertility.

Pointless coming on here and saying you have gossip about someones husband then leaving everyone hanging. If you have then say it, if not then shut up.

Did she seriously just hashtag #oopsididitagain??

1%?! So if the book made her...say... £10,000 that's £100 for Tommy's

QuirkyFlamingo said:

Lots of people asking about my dress so here’s the link. But you can’t afford it, so….

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Because you’re poor #povo

I think it is ok not to have headspace and hold boundaries, the way in which you deliver that information is what is important. For example she could have a stock message that goes out yet feels personal. Could say something like, 'I am so sorry for what you are going through, unfortunately I too am struggling and therefore feel like I'm not well placed to help you at the moment for your own mental health as well as my own. I'm so sorry. I have found these organisations really useful *signpost* and recommend you get in touch with them. I hope they are useful for you too. I hope we may be able to connect in the future when I am feeling in a better place. Love Elle.'

It isn't that difficult if I can write it in 30 seconds it can be done. She could also have a similar post to give people a heads up. Ultimately most people are understanding. The coldness of replies and the direction to her books is what is off putting.

It may even help those that are struggling find more appropriate care and/or community of support. Which could make, I'm sure, the world of difference.

For balance I have had quite thoughtful replies from her. But am sorry for those that haven't xx

Candycrush said:

Elle is donating 1% according to this post. Also came across these comments. Sounds as though she'll do the audio book and then go back to mum life. The page and blog will stay. Wonder if this means stay as is, as in she won't be updating them further and they will just exist as a reference point.

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Thank you for sharing this . So Eleanor is donating a big fat 1% to Tommy’s. Well it’s great she is donating to them but bearing in mind the promo she gets from them 1% ain’t them much imo . Glad it’s out in the open because as far as I am aware she’s often referenced that percentage of profits goes to Tommy’s but at least we all know now it’s 1%. Hope the people who have kissed her over on the rave thread are aware of this because they sure as hell thinks she ’s ’s and ’s . Bearing in mind the Tommy’s logo is so prominently placed on the book cover, I don’t think 1% is much for her to donate. I know zero about the logistics of publishing but I would have thought she would have been donating at least 10% to them. Oh well at least we all know now your generosity knows no bounds Eleanor #onepercent #coulditbeanyless #cheapskate
#fake #dontaskmehername #ibetsheslivid #outed

The equivalent of people who write ‘so glad everyone knows, really pleased for you!’ When someone posts their pregnancy / engagement news.

Homesweethomesweethome said:

I’m sure she’d give it all back and more to have him. This feels a bit too harsh.

A lot of us were invested in Elle, rooting for her and her happy ending. It’s hurts to not be included on the journey after, of course we have no right and I’m sure there’s an element of self preservation from Elle. But even just a touch of her normal insta- the interiors, fashion, Boris content, would be nice.

personally I feel better equipped (though I hope never to need to) to support a friend/ loved one through baby loss by understanding elle’s pain from losing teddy. I’m sure that was her end goal really and she’s achieved that.

It is a bit like being ghosted by a friend however, but calling things vile and sick and she used her dead baby are pretty horrid things to say and it may be worth taking a step back and thinking about what she actually went through and how you would feel if god forbid that was you.

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I completely understand what you're saying but it was Elle herself who blurred the lines.

By accepting stuff like a washing machine and a huge chunk of the White Company catalogue (on the premise of calling it "work" - what a joke) not to mention numerous gifted stays, wine, clothes, candles, jewellery, Chelsea Flower Show and Wimbledon tickets - all of which she can more than afford to pay for herself - she monetised her account, an account primarily about baby loss awareness.

It never sat right with me. Ever.

And I fucking hate pugs! They are gross.