Everyone has made such great points on here. Even though she wasn't very nice to me, I am really pleased that she has her rainbow baby. I have suffered as she has, so I can understand the pain she gone through. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, ever, and it's really nice that she has gotten to bring home a baby, finally.
BUT I also think she isn't a saint. It's unfair for people to invalidate how she has treated others because they think she is just the best ever and untouchable because she lost a baby. Nope. You don't get to treat people poorly because you lost a baby. And that was happening all over the Rave thread. "Sorry you PERCEIVED the way she treated you as rude." Fuck right off.
I had quite a few pleasant interactions with her over the years, both on Instagram and on her blog so I had no reason to think that when I messaged her she would be anything other than kind and gracious. I looked forward to reading her book because I enjoyed her writing on her blog and on instagram, I bought both a physical copy and the audible version, and later bought several additional copies to give to friends. I loved her book, so much of what she said and experienced resonated with me. I wrote positive, thoughtful reviews across all reading platforms. I sent her a loving and thoughtful message several months after I had read the book, I was careful in my wording and what I shared so as not to do anything that could potentially trigger her or upset her, but I did share some personal things and I felt like a right fool afterwards. I received a really unpleasant response of how she didn't have time for this and wouldn't be responding (it was bizarre to reply to let someone know you weren't worth their time and wouldn't be responding - you just responded, you idiot), I can't remember the exact wording now and I have since deleted her messages from my Instagram, I wish I had had the forethought to take a screenshot, but I'm a novice in dealing with the huns. All prior interactions with big accounts has been pleasant. It was so jarring and hurtful, especially after having had pleasant exchanges. It was unexpected. I thought of her as a kindhearted person, doing good things in the world. I do think she has done some good things and perhaps she still does with her charity work, but that doesn't excuse her from being unkind to people who are grieving. I kept following her, though, because I'm a nosy cow.
As an aside, I hadn't really paid much attention to Tattle. I was still in the instagram bubble of thinking all of these larger accounts were really lovely. Elle was the first of the lot that I had an unpleasant interaction with.
I recently realized she had blocked me from seeing her stories, but not her grid and I felt irritated about it. It was like she was saying, "you're a twit who I only want to give access to my grid so I can sell you some shit, like my new book or my $400 sheets". I cannot for the life of me understand why SHE would block ME. As I said already, I have always been kind and supportive to her. I do know that I'm blacklisted by a number of other instahuns (Cunty Suthers, THTMM, Martha YAWN Lewis, Blossoming BirdTurd, Anna Look at ME Mathur, Intellectually and emotionally stunted RVK, Laura-Ad, Sally Heel Lady {who I never even followed} and there's a few more - I can't even remember them all because it's been quite a while since I was blocked). Why was I blacklisted you ask? Did I post something nasty about any of them on Instagram? Call someone out for their dubious behavior? Leave a negative comment? Nope, it's because I FOLLOWED the RVK Tweets instagram account that put all of Grabecca's disgusting tweets that were racist, classist, and pretty big on fat shaming and mom shaming, online for all to see. Did I then do anything else? Share that account? Call people out on supporting Grabecca after finding out she is legitimately a racist and generally just a piece of trash? Nope, nothing else. Just kept on minding my own business. The funny thing is, they all drone on and on about Tattle and how it affects their mental health (wah wah wah), but people wouldn't come here and bitch about them if they didn't have a reason to. Sure there will always be haters, but most people aren't going to take the time to create an account and write about other people unless they've been pushed to a point to do so. For some people it's constant undeclared ads, for some people it's a rotten interaction, or for some people, like me, it's being blocked for no good reason by a dozen narcissistic assholes on a Tuesday. I never would have created a Tattle account or come on here to post about them if they hadn't all been epic assholes.
I finally unfollowed and blocked Feathers. I wrote about it on the Rave thread because there wasn't anywhere else to write about it on here and the insane ass kissing over there made me want to vom. Finally! A non-Rave thread! Hoorah!
When people defend these women, it's often a "they didn't ask for this" defense. Are you fucking kidding me? These women CHOOSE to put their lives on the internet, they're ordinary women who have CHOSEN to blast their whole lives into our faces on social media. We gossip non-stop (as a society) about people in the spotlight from royals to movie stars to politicians. These bitches are often being pretty damned smug about their faux perfect little lives, did they really think 50,000 or 100,000 (or more) people would all be ok with how sneaky and manipulative they are? AND since the majority of them are proper assholes who refuse to follow the rules of declaring items as gifts and ads and then they go on wild blocking binges if there's a whiff of threat to their pretend lives, it shouldn't be surprising at all that people are itching to talk about them. Can you really expect people not to be irritated that every other post on your grid and stories is a freebie/ad that you have only received because you've managed to manipulate people and claw your way to "popularity" on the internet? People are not going to like it when a few dozen people get all the free shit all the time and are smug little cunts about it. I personally don't care all that much about that stuff, but I can fully appreciate that a lot of people do care about it and it upsets them, especially if they're working their asses off every day and can't afford half of what these women get for staying home and watching Netflix while dicking around on their phones. They can, of course, set 'boundaries', but no one is holding a gun to their heads saying, be an influencer!! They could also bow out gracefully if things are a bit too much and get a real job, but that would require them to actually work so, probably not likely. And they wouldn't be able to get the constant ego boost of thousands of strangers on the internet telling you you're great.
If Elle didn't want to respond to messages from people who want to tell her how much her writing has meant in their life, then she should craft a professional, gracious auto-response style message. OR she could just not respond at all. She doesn't have to be a dick to people. Like plastering your life all over the internet, you have a CHOICE. And, did no one tell her that she was writing a book about losing a baby? Not only is she now an author, and newsflash people like to contact authors of books they like, but she has a massive following on a really popular platform - people will contact her and they're often contacting her to thank her. Absolutely mental that she's decided to be mean to them. She should at least realize that these are vulnerable women contacting her, just be nice. It's pretty simple and not at all difficult to be nice to people who are hurting. If you can't be nice to people who are vulnerable and in pain, you're not actually a nice person.
I would have probably bought her next book. I gave her first book as Christmas gifts to a number of women in my support group, and probably would have done the same with her second. Her loss, I guess. It's too bad because if charity is her true goal, you'd think she'd care about being a nasty slag to grieving women on the internet, as it might affect the bottom line for charities that benefit from the selling of her books and her campaigns on insta. Makes me wonder, is she a good person? Or is she a bit vain and wants the attention being a pretend goodie two shoes brings? As my Nan used to say, only the Lord knows.
). I do like the style of her home too. She's odd though, you start to feel like she's genuine and nice but then at the same time complains a lot about people getting in touch with her.
