Exactly this. I don’t want to offend anyone in saying this as £70k is double the median salary, but even so because of the UK’s unhinged housing market and current inflation being what it is it’s just not enough as a single income in London to have 2 kids, a car, 2 dogs, an aesthetic house/wardrobe, and holidays on. Something would have to give and for her it’s her solvency and likely house.yes
I honestly think she has been living beyond her means for years. She’s always been in debt, manageable when she had another income coming in and when the husband and her split she never adjusted to having one income and carried on spending.
someone doesn’t duck off on holiday for weeks at a time if they are trying to get out of debt, she’s a joke!
There’s no awareness from her that her fixed living costs are a choice rather than something that has happened to her. If she can’t work full time or can’t work for months at a time then she needs to reconfigure her life to be able to support that, if you max out your affordability as many are forced to sadly then you cut everything else to bare bones to get that down by overpaying the mortgage, not by going on 3 holidays and getting your eyebrows microbladed (in the same moment you owe AMEX of all people £9k?!).