Where have all the manners gone??

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I hardly ever go out alone now because I’ve so many horrible experiences with people being rude! And I’ll never work in any job ever again that requires me to speak to a member of the public!

 

[Quokka]

I don't understand the bus driver thank you debate. If we thank our waitresses and service staff and store assistants then surely we should also be thanking our bus drivers who are also providing us with a service. We'd thank taxi drivers too right? What's the difference?

At least say "have a nice day" when leaving?

 

[Notworthy]

We all work hard for our money and if I am going to spend money in a shop/cafe/restaurant, I, at least expect a smile. Thank you etc when dealing with you.

If they are busy, a nod of the head to acknowledge you is the least that they can do when dealing with other customers.

Some people on the tills, will only say 'the cost of the purchase' not a smile, please or thank you. My pet hate.

If not, I leave the shop etc and go elsewhere

I owned a coffee shop and my poor staff would get an absolute rocket if customers weren't acknowledged within 30 seconds. No one got in my shop without me seeing them. Even if I had my back to the door I'd be checking the reflection in the window.

 

[Pinkii]

Oh no so we all have to speak English all the he timeon the continent different languages are acceptable but in the UK we are expected to speak English all the time. I live in Wales and Welsh is my mother tongue and according to some(not all) English people the reason we speak Welsh is too annoy the English and bitch about them behind their backs. Utter nonsense we have a right to speak out own language in our own country and besides how are we supposed to know who is English and who isn't? Another thing we have been accused of is that we never actually speak Welsh in Wales but switch to Welsh if English people walk into a pub/shop/cafe total paranoia!!!

it has nothing to do with speaking your own language in your own time. I speak another language too but if im at work, i wouldn’t a) ignore a customer im serving b) ignore them and then have a conversation with my colleague in my own language whilst on duty.. its very rude

if im in a different country then its understandable, im not one of those who thinks if i go spain everyone should speak english.

 

[Jellybean093]

My brother pulled me up a couple of weeks ago for not saying thank you at a restaurant. I think he completely ignored my 4 other pleas and thank yous when ordering
I always say thank you, please etc. like a lot have said, old people are the worst! They never say thank you for pulling over when driving, moving out of their way on the path…
What really gets to me, is on the school run it’s always me and the kids walking on the outside by the road or stopping. No one batters an eyelid. Especially when they’re walking 3/4 people wide
My kids have really god manners. Always say please and thank you when we’re out or even to me and dad. My 2 year old makes me die when he says ‘thank you mummy’ I’m literally left in A puddle! He says thank you to the cars when they let us go also. Just hope everything I’ve taught my daughter she does when she goes to school on her own!
I am also one that says thank you when (very rarely) getting off the bus. Either say it or put my hand up. Not sure why. They’re going that way anyway

 

[Casperoo2]

I'm in Ireland and work on retail. I find people in their mid 50s to late 60s very rude. Especially women. There's also one guy that comes in with earpods in his ears. He asks for something at the counter. then when I ask him something he can't hear me. So fucking rude. If someone doesn't say thanks I always say you are welcome out loud

 

[Messychaotic - one word]

It must be very hard for old people as the rules of life changed so drastically in one generation

Once it was very ok to chat to other people's children, to talk to a pregnant lady about her pregnancy ( and yes even to touch her bump) , to go sit on a bench and chat to whomever is sitting there. to be able to sit and watch children play without parents looking at them as if they are child molesters.

Today's society is a unfriendly unforgiving one, we are naturally social creatures but are very fast becoming unsociable and it seems that is now the more prevalent. whereas before the unsociable were looked at as unusual.

So true ...

I was having coffee with a good friend at a park a few years back and there was a lovely friendly old gentleman talking to the kids; he picked her daughter up and popped her onto his knee which sent my friend sprinting over there to read him the riot act. He could have been just a lovely old man, but he also could've been sinister - times have changed and that sort of thing just isn't okay anymore (with strangers' kids anyway).

 

[House of Tea]

COVID was an infection, but its lasting legacy is that bad manners and sheer nastiness is now the norm.

 

[Mrs Moon]

My son (about to go into year 8) has just had his friend over for the day. I've fed him lunch - homemade pizza where they chose the topping, then homemade waffles where they chose the topping too. I reckon that's a pretty fun / nice day? But no "thanks for having me" when he left? Do parents not teach their children to say this any more?? Even if you don't mean it, you say it automatically don't you? My kid knows this! He was even trying to get his friend to say it, but he didn't get the hint.

I like homemade pizza and waffles and I would thank you profusely if I came to tea

 

[roarke]

My niece and nephew are so rude it’s shocking. we were brought up to say please and thank you at every opportunity and it’s completely drummed into us that it costs nothing to be polite.
People are lazy and with helicopter parenting, it’s not surprising this has happened.

 

[Pinkii]

I can’t stand rudeness!!

im trying to raise my children to be polite but then I think, would it harm them in the way this world is going and make them Seem weak or a walk over? Still trying to work on being assertive as i still have trouble myself in that dept.

it doesn’t take much to say please/thank you

One of my major pet peeves in manners is when you’re getting served somewhere and 2 staff members are having a full on conversation in a different language, utter rudeness.

 

[Veronica]

I think thanking the driver is a fairly recent thing, as he does get paid for it he is not volunteering.

Well I'm 45 and we've done it since childhood...

 

[Sibz]

I don't really stress about it and let it fly over my head mostly. There's so many reasons for impoliteness, they could be really busy, running late, having a bad day, stressed, anxious, shy, grieving (esp older people, we tend to underestimate how much loss they've experienced by that age, no wonder the poor buggers are miserable) it doesn't always mean people are being deliberately rude to you or that they're like it all the time. Plus it makes life more interesting, it would feel a bit stepford housewives if we were all perfectly good mannered at all times

 

[Purrrrrrr]

I find older people to be the rudest of the lot

Rude young people grow up to be rude old people.

I can say people are ruder than when I was younger but is it rudeness or for many a different culture. When I was young people just didn't jump the queue young or old everyone waited their turn .. but that went by the wayside when so many from other cultures come here and didn't wait their turn. is it rudeness or just that they were brought up with a different way?

Younger people are very much engrossed in their phones and bash into people, walk in front of cars. pick up their phone when you are talking to them. You see a whole table of people out socialising all on their phones is it rudeness or just the way life is these days,


I went to support classes and have never felt so lonely in my life, during breaks, everyone -including those giving the classes - didn't chat and ice break like they would have a few years back. Everyone picked up their phones and stayed on them until the classes restarted. That was for 6 weeks.

I find it very sad if I'm honest. How do the young make new friends these days?

 

[EleanorRigby]

COVID was an infection, but its lasting legacy is that bad manners and sheer nastiness is now the norm.

I don't recall people being particularly well mannered pre-Covid either. But I agree that the level of entitlement on display grows daily. There's absolutely no consideration for others, it's all about me, me, me. It's draining having to negotiate public transport because people are so incredibly selfish these days.

 

[Messychaotic - one word]

I was listening to talkback on the radio before, while cleaning the kitchen.

There is a guy who does weeknights who seems to be a bit Jekyll and Hyde-ish in nature. Some nights, he starts (at 8pm) with a hiss and a roar and is entertaining; on other nights, he sounds like he should be somewhere else (or rather wishes he was somewhere else). As the night goes on - he works until midnight - he loses interest in the callers and can be quite rude.

I was in the kitchen at 9pm and every person who called in while I was listening (about 10 or so), would say, "Gidday X, how are you?" to which he'd either say, "Good," "Yeah," or let out a yawn or sigh ... a bit rude really (doesn't take much to say, "Good thanks Bob; how are you?") but then after a few calls when someone asked there was a very awkward pause. I thought my radio had cut out so I started fiddling with the knob, only for him to nastily shout, "Why do you people call me and the first thing you ask is how I am? It's boring. I'm bored. You're boring. I'm sick of it. Say whatever you have to say and make sure you're on topic." I couldn't believe it! The caller sounded a bit taken aback but then carried on with what they were going to say.

I appreciate it must be hard to sit there and talk for four hours, but he has a lot of breaks during that time (news and weather, advertisements ...), plus I'm sure he's not up at 6am to get to another job (so over-tired), so there really isn't an excuse for the rudeness. Perhaps he needs to pass his mic to someone who wants to do that job.

 

[Rosie glow]

I get really stressed at the supermarket checkout when people get too close and start unpacking their stuff, especially when they lean over me or push my shopping forward.
I do the polite look and hope they get the hint but have on occasion had to ask them to step back.
The worst was when there was a couple behind me and they started putting their stuff on the belt.
My stuff was going through and the wife walked in front and started putting her bags at the end. I asked her not to do it and she did that stupid don’t be silly shrug.
I nearly had a meltdown. Told the operator not to do anything else but could she call security because I thought this woman was trying to steal my shopping and I felt trapped and was scared to take my purse out of my handbag.
She then started giving off about me being stupid, the supervisor arrived, made her move, her husband stand two trolley lengths away.
I was so embarrassed

When I'm serving on the till I still remind people to keep a distance if they appear to get to close to the customer in front, I had a guy the other day put his basket on my till before my customer had finished so I politely asked him to take his basket back and stand back until I had finished he didn't like it but its the way I work I will not start serving the next customer until my current customer has walked away no matter how impatient they are.

 

[Moonflower]

People are getting so short tempered and ignorant.
I went for an oncologist appointment the other day and even he was quite rude to me. My hubby was quietly fuming.
Don't get me started on doctor's receptionists

I've noticed this a lot recently. I'm absolutely convinced it is because of covid/lockdowns and people forgetting how to be around each other and losing any sort of tolerance and patience.

I am a right mardy cow but god I cannot bear a lack of manners. I was on holiday recently and the amount of people who never said please or thank you. Disgusting.

 

[Piff paff puff]

I was parked next to another car today and we arrived back at our car at the same time. An elderly couple, and as I was walking around to my door he opened it for me! I told his wife he's a keeper

 

[Lalla]

Office teams calls is one that really grates on me.
Pre Covid we never had teams calls, it was phone conference calls or face to face meetings.
Nothing against Teams calls per se, when WFH they're great but it's when people conduct them at full volume in the middle of a busy office that it really annoys me. Book a meeting room or just, speak more quietly? It's always men as well and they're always pontificating about something like they're the world expert. Twats.