He wasn't called Oedipus by any chance?also hate mummy’s boys. i swear my ex wanted to finger his mum
I may get no replies im abit late to the threadwhat does gaslight mean? Or an exmaple of it?
Yesss. I discovered a YouTube channel called ‘surviving narcissism’ run by two professionals and it’s very enlightening. I had always thought of my ex as a narcissist, but defined that by the more well known traits - self centred, entitlement, no interest in others etc But some of these videos described things my ex would do I had always thought of as a specific personality trait of his, rather than a typical trait of narcissists. It blew my mind how accurate it was, honestly.The inability to sincerely say sorry and take responsibility for a situation. Look out for a half hearted, sarcastic ‘I apologise...’ or ‘I’m sorry, BUT...’ or just no apology at all.
I spent 6 years apologising on my ex’s behalf because it made life easier. This gave him the ammo to gaslight me and make me out to be in the wrong all the time.
Avoid these types like the plague.
While it wasn't a romantic relationship, I experienced gaslighting quite a bit in what I came to realise was a really toxic friend group. For instance, if I ever remembered something that the other girls didn't, it was never 'oh, I don't remember that, sorry' but always "that didn't happen" and/or "you're making that up"(mostly from the 'queen bee' of the group). Even if it was something as innocuous as just mentioning something from a conversation we'd had previously - even when I could remember it clearly and was so sure that pinpoint exactly where we were when it happened - I had to be lying about it because they were always rightI may get no replies im abit late to the threadwhat does gaslight mean? Or an exmaple of it?
I have a list as long as my arm I was with my ex for over a year, the red flags where there and I chose not to see them but I found some of it awfully weird. I questioned it until it got dangerous.I answered a question in another thread and mentioned an ex who to me gave off major red flags, one of the things was being really clingy and over the top to me but for some that's endearing. Just wondered what people consider red flags in a new relationship?
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