What makes someone posh?

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I think of posh as an English thing. I hear posh I immediately think of fancy English accents and big houses in the country.
 
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My brother seems "posh". Yet we are from a very underprivileged family. We often joke he was born into the wrong family, so I am not specifically talking wealth.

He was the first to go through university in our family. He has a very high paid job but his wardrobe is very modest. He will buy a few expensive, well made clothes which you will see on his back for years to come. He hates to part with money at all and has savings coming out of his ears. Although being mid 30s having no issue affording buying his own property perhaps 4 or 5 times over, he has never moved out of my fathers from his very modest bedroom - 90s threadbare carpet, single bed. His tech isn't flashy either. He has almost no desire to keep up with anybody and is super conscious of the environment, he doesn't preach but likes to do what he can and takes good care of his body - resulting in very clear, young looking, blemish free skin and good teeth. He has always listened to classical music since a child and has always been super well spoken - he was always a well behaved lad, he didn't hang round us street kids like me and my other sibling, so picked up very little local dialect and slang. He talks from the base of his stomach rather than from throat, so he has a plumy, rich, strong voice. - I see this on alot of "posh" people and I am not sure why this is. He also crosses his legs and sits down like a posh man. As someone who is from the underclass, very often someone who has a whiter than white, goody two shoes image can also fall under the "posh" bracket.

I also find the more posh somebody is the more they adhere to their stereotypical gender roles.
 
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I think it's relative really. I know people who own horses but I'd never in a million years call them posh. It's really hard to actually say what I think is posh as everytime I think of something I think "oh no, so and so does that and they're not posh" etc
A lot of scruffy people have horses up our way , particularly in certain villages. They pull little carts or ride them bare back, whereas the posh people have fancy bridle for their horses.

Anyone else noticed that horses are a female hobby, rather than a male one?
 
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A lot of scruffy people have horses up our way , particularly in certain villages. They pull little carts or ride them bare back, whereas the posh people have fancy bridle for their horses.

Anyone else noticed that horses are a female hobby, rather than a male one?
I've known plenty of women horse enthusiasts. The only male one I have known was from the Traveller community, where I think it appears to be more of a male hobby.
 
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I get called posh purely based on where I’m originally from! I live in a city now, about half hour away but everyone who knows where I’m originally from thinks I’m posh and I’m bloody not 🤣
 
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I think posh people are generally a bit more formal and have a kind of unspoken code that divides them from us more uncouth folk. It’s in their behaviour, their taste, their approach to things.

You know the older couple on Gogglebox? They’re posh. The ones who sit up rod straight on their small, antique looking sofa, compared to most of them stretching or slobbing out on corner sofas or leather sofas, often nibbling on takeaway or drinking big mugs of tea. You can see the difference immediately! I guess Giles & Mary are a bit posh too, like bohemian posh, with their matching William Morris wallpaper and upholstered chair.
 
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Interesting! I ride horses (too poor to own one of my own, it's a dream though) and I wouldn't consider someone who owns a horse posh, but some people definitely are!

Well spoken and someone with a lot of money, who lives in a big house is what I'd consider posh
 
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Tendacy to take up certain sports. My brother for instance took up the very niche, Fencing. He was once heavily involved with it and it seemed full of upper crust, posh people.
 
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My idea of posh is Audrey Forbes Hamilton (To the Manor Born) Sensible tweed skirt, green barbour, golden lab and a LANDrover and a headscarf.

Names such as Jonty, Perdita (any character name out of a Jilly Cooper novel)
 
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For me titled aristocracy or landed gentry with a stately home or country pile that’s been passed down through the generations. Boarding school education, yes to hunting and shooting as well. It’s something you are born into and can’t buy, having loads of money doesn’t make you posh (and certainly can’t buy you class either).
 
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I have owned horses before ( an ex race horse at that) and I can assure you I’m not posh. However growing up and even at work when I was 21 my co workers used to call me posh because my mum and dad have a detached house with a drive and a gate 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

A lot of scruffy people have horses up our way , particularly in certain villages. They pull little carts or ride them bare back, whereas the posh people have fancy bridle for their horses.

Anyone else noticed that horses are a female hobby, rather than a male one?
Maybe for a hobby but a lot of professional show jumpers are male as well as jockers. Not sure why that is. Maybe men are more competitive and want to get to a professional level but growing up there was only 1 or 2 boys with horses on the yards