What makes someone posh?

[Wishwash]

I always find the poshest people can sometimes be the most frugal. As in they wear designer gear but wear it to death until it's covered in holes so battered gilets, flat caps and riding boots drive a range rover but it's filthy and never valeted. Also weird nicknames like "Bunty."
New money is more about fast fashion, or at least purchasing a lot and flashing the cash. The truly rich and posh are more subtle.

 

[Tilly Kister]

You're not proper posh unless you were born with your own hyphenated surname, have no discernible chin, were breastfed by a wet nurse not your mother, stepped straight out of the school where you've just spent 12 years being relentlessly bummed by the rugger captain into a City job that you're manifestly unqualified to do, people around you regard your cocaine addiction and sexual predation as amusing quirks, you inherited all your furniture and when you marry your cousin it gets a two page spread in Tatler, not an outraged headline in The Sun.

 

[AlanBanan]

Owning a soda stream

 

[DCICassieStuart]

I think it’s getting harder to define. For me it’s voice, manners, inherited titles/property/jewellery amongst other things though.

Magazine appearances and schooling don’t tend to mean much to me on their own as they can all be bought.

Agree. I suppose I tend to think of 'old money' as posh, even though some people may have the house and the title but could actually be stony broke.

 

[bupbupamericano]

Appears in Tattler

 

[G2000]

Agree. I suppose I tend to think of 'old money' as posh, even though some people may have the house and the title but could actually be stony broke.

Exactly this. Posh has very little to do with money in my view. For instance Branson, loaded but deffo not posh.

 

[G2000]

I think it’s getting harder to define. For me it’s voice, manners, inherited titles/property/jewellery amongst other things though.

Magazine appearances and schooling don’t tend to mean much to me on their own as they can all be bought.

 

[lime]

When their house looks like a charity shop filled with old wood furniture, expensive rugs, traditional lamps, drapes, mirrors, etc. Sunken/built in shelves that go all the way around the room filled with books. Lots of tat and trinkets everywhere that probably have personal meaning. Likely to be extremely dusty because they don't have a cleaner/maid despite popular belief that posh people have staff. House is covered in pet hair. A dog or cat sleeping somewhere. No TV in the living room, or if they have a TV it's modest sized not these 50 inch cinema things.

Basically, this photo of Princess Anne's house which coincidentally was featured on Mail Online today:

https://i.archive.is/oldest/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2021/02/07/12/38985786-9233455-image-m-44_1612700075043.jpg

 

[Lanavalentine]

I think posh people are generally a bit more formal and have a kind of unspoken code that divides them from us more uncouth folk. It’s in their behaviour, their taste, their approach to things.

You know the older couple on Gogglebox? They’re posh. The ones who sit up rod straight on their small, antique looking sofa, compared to most of them stretching or slobbing out on corner sofas or leather sofas, often nibbling on takeaway or drinking big mugs of tea. You can see the difference immediately! I guess Giles & Mary are a bit posh too, like bohemian posh, with their matching William Morris wallpaper and upholstered chair.

 

[Mememe9]

It’s how you carry yourself. You could have all the money in the world and make a LV bag look like £10 off a market

 

[Wishiwasaninfluencer]

I work with a lot of posh clients! Here are some things I think make the super posh, posh. Like others have said it’s less to do with things they own but just how they act. Just in general being very well spoken, very very well mannered, polite and gracious.

- Private school/boarding school - bonus if it’s the same school that dad and grandfather went to
- Having a very grand family home/estate that’s passed down to the eldest son
- Also having a London family house/flat, usually South Ken or Marylebone area
- Artwork and jewellery being passed down
- Having a title
- Featuring in Debretts
- Skiing holidays, even better a chalet
- Several trust funds for the grandchildren
- Bright red/yellow trousers we always joke the brighter the trouser the more land owned!
- ‘Old money’ clients I find are much more likely to make sizeable charitable donations compared to ‘new money’!! Old money also never quibble our fees but new money will

I don’t think having money/assets automatically makes you posh though, likewise having a title. I have come across plenty of posh clients who actually don’t have that much cash.

 

[Ceelea]

Never mistake someone with genuine good manners, charm and who is well read for an upper class twit.

They are two very different animals.

 

[FishCustard]

I got called posh in school for knowing what marzipan was! I grew up in a particularly rough area though.

I'd say personally that someone is posh if they have grown up "old money"

 

[watermelon sugar]

What Per Cent Posh Are You?

Time to find out for real.

www.buzzfeed.com

I got 9%

 

[Meh]

RP accents
Owns horses
Trust fund recipient
Doesn’t need to ever consider or worry about money
Supports and engages in Fox hunting / shooting.
Has a “family ancestral seat/home”
Attends preparatory schooling
Attends private schools esp “known” ones
Oxford / Cambridge attendee
Has family connections and gets a leg up in the City/ media type roles etc.

Basically, most people who wouldn’t know what “quick! Get doon. It’s the provi” meant. And had never spent 45 mins behind the couch, in the dark on a Friday night. Ah, childhood memories

 

[Apple In My Pie]

Yes owns a horse!
Shops at Waitrose

 

[Pamellla]

The quote what’s poor to one is rich to another springs to mind !
but other than that I’m not really sure i went to school with the son of a pretty wealthy businessman ( worth over 13 million) and would never regard him as posh so I guess it is relative.
also used to work in my first job with a girl who went to one of the most expensive private schools . Being someone who has been to state school my whole life I really regarded private school kids as mega posh but she was so down to earth and lovely and we cleaned toilets together!

 

[Babyyoda88]

I got called posh for not having the heavy accent of were I was born and for called lunch dinner

my partner went to a private school and has a really nice accent and he always gets called posh. But if anyone could see how much he farts and burbs they’d think otherwise.

 

[StormSolitaire]

I got called posh in school for knowing what marzipan was! I grew up in a particularly rough area though.

I'd say personally that someone is posh if they have grown up "old money"

Haha I got called posh for eating couscous salads and hummus in 1997. Another girl got called a snob for eating M&S crisps by the same people who would take the piss out of someone for a Netto carrier bag

I would define posh as not wearing ones wealth but wearing a mix of high end yet practical brands they can get wear out of like Barbour combined with normal stuff like M&S. Posh men wear tweed and pocket squares and posh women kitten heels and muted colours with perhaps some Laura Ashley floral. They aren’t trendsetters nor fashion followers but classic. Frugal with wealth for certain things- the posh ones in my class would go on ‘boring’ holidays which sounded like roughing it to me- us ‘normal’ ones would go to Spain but they’d all rent cottages in Wales or go on a driving holiday of France and Belgium ok what else... I find posh people less bandwagony and more traditional than nouveau riche- posh are more likely to eat a proper full English but a posh one in a nice country house hotel with loose leaf teas whereas new rich will jump on the chia seeds and avocado toast bandwagon in somewhere ‘instagrammable’.
Hope my description isn’t offensive by any means

 

[Marie95]

I got 44%... I think mine got upped a lot when I said I've owned a lot of Hollister, Jack Wills and A+F... please tell me I'm not the only one who walked around school with my Hollister bag with the topless guy on

My dad's side is definitely under the bracket of 'posh' I think, we've got cousins that went to Eton, all have second homes etc. Yet my mum's side is from Bradford and when I tell you my wedding was a complete contrast. I didn't need any entertainment, just listening to my Northerner cousin trying to speak to my cousin who's lived in Clifton his whole life was enough for me.

No favouritism at all, but northerners definitely know how to have more fun