Huge incoming rant (sorry, but it feels good to get it out).
I have a darling friend whose mother is a narc. I've posted here (somewhere on these forums) before that until I read here, I never really knew what a narc was, but her mother absolutely ticks all the boxes.
Her mother is in her 80s and has always been a hypochondriac. Whenever the attention is off her, she'll create little medical dramas - "Oh the doctor is so worried about me," - which never turns out to be anything. A few months ago, she was telling a group of people (I was present) how she'd had a night-time prowler. "Oh my goodness - are you okay?!" someone asked - "Oh yes, I have more blood tests next week" she responded ... which made me doubt the whole prowler story. Strange she jumped straight into her health (non) issues. I wasn't the only one confused when she said that as we all knew that the person who asked if she was okay, meant in relation to the prowler.
My friend has just been diagnosed with cancer. She has been unwell for months, going to the doctor about strange pains in her legs and abdomen, lumps that appeared out of nowhere on places like her elbow and knee, and malaise. They kept fobbing her off with prescriptions for this, that, the other, and things have only worsened over time. She hasn't broadcast these doctor's visits, but I know that she's been uncomfortable and frustrated at not getting any answers. Anyway, she had a huge range of tests done last week and the results from her biopsy came in late yesterday and her doctor called her at home to say it is cancer and please come in first thing Monday with a support person so they can discuss where to from here.
My friend asked me if I thought she should tell her mother; I said yes - because if she held this back it would just be another perceived slight in her mother's view (my friend can't seem to do anything right when it comes to her mother). She called her, and - I shouldn't be surprised but at the same time I am, actually I'm bloody horrified - she started crying, saying how she (my friend's mother) doesn't need all this extra stress and pressure while she's battling her own health concerns. She couldn't get off the phone fast enough from my friend - she didn't even ask if there was anything she could do, or what the next steps are. Before the conversation ended, my friend asked her mother to keep this news private.
Later in the morning, my friend started getting calls from relatives concerned at what she'd done to upset her mother! One let slip that her mother had said she'd scared her with cancer talk - so again, making everything about herself but also divulging news that she was asked to keep to herself.
How on earth could someone's mother be so cruel?
I'm going with my friend on Monday, and I'm going to insist that she move in with me. I will be her family and support person!!
I was really holding on to getting some kind of decent justice and for him to be penalised in a way that would hopefully mean he'd never do anything like it again
. Take some responsibility for your poorly trained animal, if your dog is trying to dominate someone to the point that they physically kick it away in order to protect themself, that’s entirely your fault and you should be saying sorry lmao.
