Wedding Planning #4

[BerlinILoveYou]

I dont understand how some people operate at times.

Its so rude, everyone knows how much weddings cost and the amount of planning even the small ones take.

I didnt have any no shows, but saw some extremely poor behaviour of different levels, from sulking by some key people despite bending over backwards to meet their demands, to aggressive behavior towards other guests because they "just weren't feeling themselves that day", to absolute greed with regard to food and free (I.e. a bar tab paid for my us) drinks.

Its made me evaluate some relationships for sure

 

[FenellaTheWitch]

I dont understand how some people operate at times.

Its so rude, everyone knows how much weddings cost and the amount of planning even the small ones take.

I didnt have any no shows, but saw some extremely poor behaviour of different levels, from sulking by some key people despite bending over backwards to meet their demands, to aggressive behavior towards other guests because they "just weren't feeling themselves that day", to absolute greed with regard to food and free (I.e. a bar tab paid for my us) drinks.

Its made me evaluate some relationships for sure

My daughter made the decision not to have a free bar for several reasons but one was because some people always take the piss and end up getting absolutely smashed.

In the end we had a couple of extra bottles of wine on the tables and there was some money behind the bar but if people wanted to get wasted on shots and doubles then it was down to them to pay for it.

 

[jojida]

At what point is it socially acceptable to turn around to family members who haven't offered to contribute to your wedding and tell them that it's not their money so they don't need to worry about it?

 

[FenellaTheWitch]

At what point is it socially acceptable to turn around to family members who haven't offered to contribute to your wedding and tell them that it's not their money so they don't need to worry about it?

I've just your rant in the rant thread ... I'll assume this is about your FIL.

I can only suggest having a firm conversation with him to tell him it's sweet he's concerned but he needs to stop and trust that you both know what you're doing.

 

[jojida]

I've just your rant in the rant thread ... I'll assume this is about your FIL.

I can only suggest having a firm conversation with him to tell him it's sweet he's concerned but he needs to stop and trust that you both know what you're doing.

Yeah, it's definitely irked me today! I think we'll just have to do that

 

[kazizzle]

Hi all! I've just got engaged so at the very early stages of planning.

I've been having a look at venues and wedding packages and feeling quite tempted by a "twilight" package where you start at 4pm and don't have a formal sit down meal, just a buffet as part of the reception. Just wondering if anyone else has done something similar or what peoples thoughts are on not having the traditional full day. I think it will work for us as my OH has recently been diagnosed with autism and ADHD and it's just such a LONG day. He does love a wedding as he used to work in venues but I think I just want to make everything as easy and stress free for him as possible and as he gets older he finds it harder and harder to be sociable.

 

[jojida]

Hi all! I've just got engaged so at the very early stages of planning.

I've been having a look at venues and wedding packages and feeling quite tempted by a "twilight" package where you start at 4pm and don't have a formal sit down meal, just a buffet as part of the reception. Just wondering if anyone else has done something similar or what peoples thoughts are on not having the traditional full day. I think it will work for us as my OH has recently been diagnosed with autism and ADHD and it's just such a LONG day. He does love a wedding as he used to work in venues but I think I just want to make everything as easy and stress free for him as possible and as he gets older he finds it harder and harder to be sociable.

My sister is doing a twilight as she doesn't drink and hates drunk people, ergo less wedding time for everyone else to get smashed in. I liked the idea but my fiance is a lover of pomp and ceremony so we have gone for a full day with a meal and speeches etc.

Twilight does sound great as you can have a really relaxed morning and start a bit later than your usual 8am start for a 1/2pm ceremony which as an AudHD girly myself does sound like a dream! I think a lot more people are leaning towards twilight these days from a cost perspective alone, too, as it's such a good amount you'd save by cutting out that meal element.

 

[BerlinILoveYou]

I had a twilight and despite my recent bellyaching about people it worked well.

Plus you have longer to get ready!

 

[Hamburglar]

I’ve been a guest at a twilight wedding and I honestly had just as good a time as full day weddings. In fact probably better as more of the day to get ready, less hanging round waiting for photos etc.

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

One of my friends had a twilight wedding and it was fab Just a bit more of a chilled out morning which was ideal for getting my hair and makeup done!
Keep in mind though that just because its a bit later in the day doesn't mean people will wait until the wedding to start having drinks - for us we all got ready in the morning as normal and then all met up for lunch and drinks before our buses arrived to take us to the venue.
The majority of people are fine however there is always one..
one guy, not with us but one of those people you know to see showed up and he was very drunk to the point he had to leave and stand outside incase he was sick. He was also running around the dancefloor with no shirt on and tie round his head. His poor wife was mortified.

 

[ginamarcella]

Hi, I am recently engaged and new to this thread! We're planning an Autumn 2026 wedding and have really just started to look at venues etc. (FYI: not in the UK, I'm based in Germany). I was wondering if anyone had any experience or thoughts about doing your own makeup for the wedding? I will definitely get someone else to do my hair as I have no skills in that area, but I have been a lover of makeup since I was a young teen and think I could do it myself. Any recommendations for products, tools, tutorials? Thanks all! x

 

[charlie6578]

Hi, I am recently engaged and new to this thread! We're planning an Autumn 2026 wedding and have really just started to look at venues etc. (FYI: not in the UK, I'm based in Germany). I was wondering if anyone had any experience or thoughts about doing your own makeup for the wedding? I will definitely get someone else to do my hair as I have no skills in that area, but I have been a lover of makeup since I was a young teen and think I could do it myself. Any recommendations for products, tools, tutorials? Thanks all! x

I did think about doing my own makeup on the day, watched lots of TikTok’s for product inspo but Charlotte Tilbury has the perfect products for a bridal look in my opinion. I ended up getting my makeup done professionally to save some stress on the morning but I did trial a lot of products when I was thinking of doing my own. The top 3 I found which my makeup artist also used were the Nars natural radiant foundation, Bobby brown face base and Charlotte Tilbury setting spray.

I also stated using prescription skincare, I didn’t bother with facials etc but the consistency in the 6 months prior really helped with how my makeup looked and lasted over all.

 

[ginamarcella]

I did think about doing my own makeup on the day, watched lots of TikTok’s for product inspo but Charlotte Tilbury has the perfect products for a bridal look in my opinion. I ended up getting my makeup done professionally to save some stress on the morning but I did trial a lot of products when I was thinking of doing my own. The top 3 I found which my makeup artist also used were the Nars natural radiant foundation, Bobby brown face base and Charlotte Tilbury setting spray.

I also stated using prescription skincare, I didn’t bother with facials etc but the consistency in the 6 months prior really helped with how my makeup looked and lasted over all.

Thank you for the tips! I'm still debating whether it's going to be worth it since I would have to spend a bunch of money on more high-quality products (I usually only use drugstore makeup). Don't know if a makeup artist wouldn't be cheaper at the end of the day, but if I buy the products, I'll still have them after the wedding I guess? Lots to think about

 

[Mr Sparkle]

Hi, I am recently engaged and new to this thread! We're planning an Autumn 2026 wedding and have really just started to look at venues etc. (FYI: not in the UK, I'm based in Germany). I was wondering if anyone had any experience or thoughts about doing your own makeup for the wedding? I will definitely get someone else to do my hair as I have no skills in that area, but I have been a lover of makeup since I was a young teen and think I could do it myself. Any recommendations for products, tools, tutorials? Thanks all! x

I did my own makeup! Decided to after having my makeup professionally done for my sister's wedding but didn't feel like myself for the day.

Went for a makeup lesson at a Mac counter, which was £75 but essentially acted as a voucher to buy any of the products used. It was really helpful to get shade matched and get some tips on layering, application etc, and I used it towards some nice foundation, powder and blush. I'm really glad I did it as I then got to keep using that makeup and it reminded me of my wedding day every time

I got my hair done with my Mum and sister, and we did our makeup while that was being done. It was super chilled and I felt like a more glammed but still recognisable version of "myself".

I'd highly recommend the Neutrogena Hydro Boost moisturiser, chose it after lots of research and it's now my favourite moisturiser!!

 

[ginamarcella]

I did my own makeup! Decided to after having my makeup professionally done for my sister's wedding but didn't feel like myself for the day.

Went for a makeup lesson at a Mac counter, which was £75 but essentially acted as a voucher to buy any of the products used. It was really helpful to get shade matched and get some tips on layering, application etc, and I used it towards some nice foundation, powder and blush. I'm really glad I did it as I then got to keep using that makeup and it reminded me of my wedding day every time

I got my hair done with my Mum and sister, and we did our makeup while that was being done. It was super chilled and I felt like a more glammed but still recognisable version of "myself".

I'd highly recommend the Neutrogena Hydro Boost moisturiser, chose it after lots of research and it's now my favourite moisturiser!!

Thank you so much, that sounds great! Will look into makeup counters offering lessons like that!

 

[jojida]

Thank you so much, that sounds great! Will look into makeup counters offering lessons like that!

Charlotte Tilbury keep coming up at every wedding fair we've seen or been to, I think they're also offering bridal lessons like that if you have them in Germany x

 

[ginamarcella]

Charlotte Tilbury keep coming up at every wedding fair we've seen or been to, I think they're also offering bridal lessons like that if you have them in Germany x

I loooove the look of the Charlotte Tilbury stuff! The price? Not so much But I think I will bite the bullet and try out some of their stuff. Thanks for the suggestion x

 

[Strawberries and cream]

Hey

im massively overthinking what to give my bridesmaids as gifts. Does anyone have any inspiration?

I’ve very much been avoiding anything personalised or with ‘bride’ ‘hen’ ‘bridesmaid’ etc written on it, so was thinking of getting us all a nice set of Chelsea peers pyjamas for the morning of and then getting them a nice candle each. Is that normal/enough?

 

[Hamburglar]

Hey

im massively overthinking what to give my bridesmaids as gifts. Does anyone have any inspiration?

I’ve very much been avoiding anything personalised or with ‘bride’ ‘hen’ ‘bridesmaid’ etc written on it, so was thinking of getting us all a nice set of Chelsea peers pyjamas for the morning of and then getting them a nice candle each. Is that normal/enough?

Perfect!! I got mine pyjamas/slippers and paid for their hair doing so that was enough expense for me and they’ve all worn the pyjamas again.
Hard agree on avoiding the bride/hen/bridesmaid stuff, if I was a recipient I wouldn’t use it, so personally I wouldn’t gift it.

 

[kazizzle]

Went to view my first venue today and felt so overwhelmed that I had to lie down in a dark quiet room when I get home

I loved it though which I knew I would. Currently got a bit of a dilemma because it’s the dream style of venue but not the dream location. There’s nothing really of that same vibe in the location I’d prefer which is an important location to me and my partner. Hoping to see some venues there soon so fingers crossed they either tick all the right boxes and it’s a winner right away or they make the decision to go with the first venue in a different location easier I’m TERRIBLE with decisions.