TTC’ers #2

[Gizmo92]

Sorry to be a downer but just wanted somewhere to vent. Another month down and more negative tests I can feel my period coming . I honestly cannot imagine the feeling of getting a BFP and each month that goes by it feels less and less likely. I’m losing motivation at work as I just want to be a mum so bad don’t know if I can keep feeling like this month after month Sorry for the pity party guys but not sure who else would listen!

 

[CLittleworld]

Is anyone aware of a thread for TTC’ers that are single using iui ?

 

[Dipdab]

Sorry to be a downer but just wanted somewhere to vent. Another month down and more negative tests I can feel my period coming . I honestly cannot imagine the feeling of getting a BFP and each month that goes by it feels less and less likely. I’m losing motivation at work as I just want to be a mum so bad don’t know if I can keep feeling like this month after month Sorry for the pity party guys but not sure who else would listen!

It’s so tough and exhausting isn’t it I feel the same at the moment but no one else really understands (this has why I love this thread!). Sending you a big hug. Treat yourself to some nice chocolate or a huge wine when AF arrives!

 

[Belle Amie]

yeah same! Not dull but more crampy if you know what I mean
I’ve also got a bit of a headache and my mouth is SO DRY no matter how much water I drink. I haaaate waiting this last little bit, you read into everything!
Keep me posted how you get on

I’m one day after ovulation we had sex on my ovulation day for the first time and I’m already reading into the cramps I had this morning when I know it doesn’t work that quick!
Lord help me for the next 2 weeks honestly! I’ve tried not to drive myself mental for the last few weeks but this work I’ve done is 100% coming undone this month I can feel it!

Good luck and positive thoughts to you all!

 

[grumpycat]

I’m one day after ovulation we had sex on my ovulation day for the first time and I’m already reading into the cramps I had this morning when I know it doesn’t work that quick!
Lord help me for the next 2 weeks honestly! I’ve tried not to drive myself mental for the last few weeks but this work I’ve done is 100% coming undone this month I can feel it!

Good luck and positive thoughts to you all!

you say that but the days after I’m certain I Ovulated (no OPK’s but measuring CM) I had the worst cramps!
I swear it’s like a switch is flicked and you’re on hyper alert. Why is the two week wait so LONGGGG. I’ve still got til Friday or Saturday and I deliberately haven’t bought any more tests so I literally can’t

good luck!

 

[a.pain]

If anyone is up for trying a product, I highly recommend pre-seed! It’s a fertility lubricant. Loads of reviews on Amazon saying people got pregnant on the first try of using it. I can support these reviews as with my first pregnancy I tracked four cycles, three without using it and used it on the fourth and got pregnant. Second time round we were sort-of trying for a year with no cycle tracking, tracked one cycle then used it on the second tracked cycle and boom pregnant. Could be coincidence of course

 

[Dipdab]

If anyone is up for trying a product, I highly recommend pre-seed! It’s a fertility lubricant. Loads of reviews on Amazon saying people got pregnant on the first try of using it. I can support these reviews as with my first pregnancy I tracked four cycles, three without using it and used it on the fourth and got pregnant. Second time round we were sort-of trying for a year with no cycle tracking, tracked one cycle then used it on the second tracked cycle and boom pregnant. Could be coincidence of course

I’ve tried it for a couple of cycles but didn’t work for us unfortunately Heard lots of good reviews from others though too

 

[Belle Amie]

you say that but the days after I’m certain I Ovulated (no OPK’s but measuring CM) I had the worst cramps!
I swear it’s like a switch is flicked and you’re on hyper alert. Why is the two week wait so LONGGGG. I’ve still got til Friday or Saturday and I deliberately haven’t bought any more tests so I literally can’t

good luck!

It is isn’t it! It’s like your brain goes on a mad one for 2 weeks until AF shows up, is it just me that’s mental I immediately start thinking about my diary for the next 3 months like when would I tell people, what would I say when people realise I’m not drinking alcohol or coffee
I feel like I lose the plot every month!

 

[Neonmoon]

I’m really struggling ...
there’s pregnancy everywhere and here I am sat in my bathroom on the floor at 2:55am because even after YEARS of trying we still haven’t managed, we’ve had now 5 miscarriages...
just feels like it’s not meant to be..

doesn’t help that every night this week I’ve had a dream that I’ve given birth to a small foetus you make out every little body part and I hold them close until I wake up...

 

[Marymoo13]

I’m really struggling ...
there’s pregnancy everywhere and here I am sat in my bathroom on the floor at 2:55am because even after YEARS of trying we still haven’t managed, we’ve had now 5 miscarriages...
just feels like it’s not meant to be..

doesn’t help that every night this week I’ve had a dream that I’ve given birth to a small foetus you make out every little body part and I hold them close until I wake up...

It’s an incredibly tough experience when there are a lot of pregnancies around you either in person or online, especially after personal loss. I’m sure a few of us can relate to how you feel and offer you our love and support.

I’m really sorry about your loss’ if you’re interested in talking to somebody about your experiences and the dreams you’re having, Tommy’s the charity have a great team of people you can call or email for a chat

I’m sending you lots of love

 

[Sunshinegal]

If anyone is up for trying a product, I highly recommend pre-seed! It’s a fertility lubricant. Loads of reviews on Amazon saying people got pregnant on the first try of using it. I can support these reviews as with my first pregnancy I tracked four cycles, three without using it and used it on the fourth and got pregnant. Second time round we were sort-of trying for a year with no cycle tracking, tracked one cycle then used it on the second tracked cycle and boom pregnant. Could be coincidence of course

This is so good to read. I've literally been looking up reviews on pre seed this morning after using it this month. I actually thought about asking if anyone on this thread had used it with previous children. So strange! I'm on cycle 15 and finding it really hard so this is great. Im trying so hard not to let this get my hopes up though

I’m really struggling ...
there’s pregnancy everywhere and here I am sat in my bathroom on the floor at 2:55am because even after YEARS of trying we still haven’t managed, we’ve had now 5 miscarriages...
just feels like it’s not meant to be..

doesn’t help that every night this week I’ve had a dream that I’ve given birth to a small foetus you make out every little body part and I hold them close until I wake up...

I'm so so sorry for your losses. The dream sounds horrific too. TTC is so hard, so I can't imagine how you feel. And I agree, pregnancy is everywhere. My SIL said I just think that because I'm trying. I'm not at all, I have scans and newborns on my social media nearly every day, there really was a lockdown baby boom. Its so hard for those that are still trying, to see, even though I am happy for them.

 

[Dipdab]

This is so good to read. I've literally been looking up reviews on pre seed this morning after using it this month. I actually thought about asking if anyone on this thread had used it with previous children. So strange! I'm on cycle 15 and finding it really hard so this is great. Im trying so hard not to let this get my hopes up though


I'm so so sorry for your losses. The dream sounds horrific too. TTC is so hard, so I can't imagine how you feel. And I agree, pregnancy is everywhere. My SIL said I just think that because I'm trying. I'm not at all, I have scans and newborns on my social media nearly every day, there really was a lockdown baby boom. Its so hard for those that are still trying, to see, even though I am happy for them.

I feel like there’s also been a massive influx of influencers announcing pregnancies as it seems to be the new “in” thing to be a mummy blogger. I found Mother’s Day quite hard as there were a few of the inevitable influencer announcements. I also saw a post from an acquaintance referring to her newborn as the “happiest accident” ever. Don’t know why but that really bothered me

 

[MrsWolf]

Just received confirmation from my doctor that I’ve got PCOS. I’ve been off contraception for a year now. Haven’t been trying every month due to husbands job but also had months of no bleeding.. which I now have an answer for - after many negative tests and crushed hopes. I wish I didn’t wait so long to get checked, I put lack of periods down to stress etc.

I’m just a bit lost really... where do I go from here? TTC for my first child and I don’t really know what this means now, I feel a bit clueless.

My doctor explained that it can happen naturally but I also might need some help so just to keep trying... should I have asked any questions?

I don’t really know what I’m after from posting this.. does anyone have any advise of where to go from here?

 

[Householdmystery]

No sign of my period coming, now 3 days late. Took a test today BFN.

 

[Sunshinegal]

I feel like there’s also been a massive influx of influencers announcing pregnancies as it seems to be the new “in” thing to be a mummy blogger. I found Mother’s Day quite hard as there were a few of the inevitable influencer announcements. I also saw a post from an acquaintance referring to her newborn as the “happiest accident” ever. Don’t know why but that really bothered me

Yes! There's just announcements everywhere. I'm just like why is this still not happening for me?! I understand that too, it is so so hard to understand 'accidents' when you try for so long. Just how?! Or people that conceive first go, then tell you you need to relax and chill out. That winds me up . People just don't understand how draining and hard it is. I was also tearful mothers day morning. I just kept thinking that last year and the year before I'd have been sure I'd have a baby or be pregnant this mother's day. Praying we are all in a happier position for next mothers day

 

[fluffybaffling]

Just received confirmation from my doctor that I’ve got PCOS. I’ve been off contraception for a year now. Haven’t been trying every month due to husbands job but also had months of no bleeding.. which I now have an answer for - after many negative tests and crushed hopes. I wish I didn’t wait so long to get checked, I put lack of periods down to stress etc.

I’m just a bit lost really... where do I go from here? TTC for my first child and I don’t really know what this means now, I feel a bit clueless.

My doctor explained that it can happen naturally but I also might need some help so just to keep trying... should I have asked any questions?

I don’t really know what I’m after from posting this.. does anyone have any advise of where to go from here?

I’ve been off contraception for 4 or 5 years now with PCOS although not trying but if it happened it would have been fine and have now been trying since December. I was only diagnosed in 2019 but the doctors didn’t give me much advice either, ive had friends that have it and conceived naturally quite quickly. The doctor just told me about the risks of womb cancer if you don’t bleed enough and when I asked about children, said it may happen naturally. I wonder if they won’t want to scare us too much?

 

[a.pain]

Just received confirmation from my doctor that I’ve got PCOS. I’ve been off contraception for a year now. Haven’t been trying every month due to husbands job but also had months of no bleeding.. which I now have an answer for - after many negative tests and crushed hopes. I wish I didn’t wait so long to get checked, I put lack of periods down to stress etc.

I’m just a bit lost really... where do I go from here? TTC for my first child and I don’t really know what this means now, I feel a bit clueless.

My doctor explained that it can happen naturally but I also might need some help so just to keep trying... should I have asked any questions?

I don’t really know what I’m after from posting this.. does anyone have any advise of where to go from here?

I also got diagnosed with PCOS in July last year. My cycles were quite regular but long (62 days) and I was told by the doctor I almost definitely wasn’t ovulating with a cycle that long. They said they would refer me to sub fertility after six months of ‘proper’ trying (we hadn’t been using contraception for a year at that point). Anyway I pretty much thought the trying was a formality and I would need treatment but I got pregnant on my second tracked cycle. In my first one I ovulated on day 51, but on my second I ovulated on day 30 so I am assuming if I had not gotten pregnant that would have been a 42 day cycle not 62. Unless you can ovulate 30 days before a period I have been trying to lose some weight so maybe it was that. Anyway, my point is I thought it was impossible and we even decided to stop trying for a while then I found out I was pregnant. So absolutely possible to get pregnant naturally.
The thing that led to me being diagnosed was not getting a period in April last year, I went three months with no bleeding. They gave me a course of provera which seemed to start things off again but I still had the long cycles.
They say using OPKs isn’t accurate for PCOS but I would do it for a couple of cycles anyway and see what you’re working with- if you only get one peak per cycle then it can be a good indicator of when to have sex- my doctor told me to not bother and just have sex every other day No thanks lol
So my advice- tell the doctor you are trying and get them to confirm when they will refer you to fertility. Track your cycles and see what you can gleam from that- OPKs and bbt. And try the natural PCOS ‘remedy’ which is healthy eating and exercise if you have any weight to lose. It will be ok xx

 

[Gizmo92]

I also got diagnosed with PCOS in July last year. My cycles were quite regular but long (62 days) and I was told by the doctor I almost definitely wasn’t ovulating with a cycle that long. They said they would refer me to sub fertility after six months of ‘proper’ trying (we hadn’t been using contraception for a year at that point). Anyway I pretty much thought the trying was a formality and I would need treatment but I got pregnant on my second tracked cycle. In my first one I ovulated on day 51, but on my second I ovulated on day 30 so I am assuming if I had not gotten pregnant that would have been a 42 day cycle not 62. Unless you can ovulate 30 days before a period I have been trying to lose some weight so maybe it was that. Anyway, my point is I thought it was impossible and we even decided to stop trying for a while then I found out I was pregnant. So absolutely possible to get pregnant naturally.
The thing that led to me being diagnosed was not getting a period in April last year, I went three months with no bleeding. They gave me a course of provera which seemed to start things off again but I still had the long cycles.
They say using OPKs isn’t accurate for PCOS but I would do it for a couple of cycles anyway and see what you’re working with- if you only get one peak per cycle then it can be a good indicator of when to have sex- my doctor told me to not bother and just have sex every other day No thanks lol

I agree regarding the OPK’s. I was diagnosed with PCOS in December, have been TTC since July last year and I’ve used OPK’s each month. Only ever get 1 positive a month and my period comes 9 days after without fail. So I’m guessing somethings working but who knows

I’m still not pregnant but my GP has referred me to a specialist so I’m waiting for the letter to come through. From listening to other people’s experiences I’m guessing they will offer me Metformin. They’ve also booked my partner in for a semen analysis so they can have his results available by the time I get an appointment

 

[calmyourritas]

Hey guys! Hope it is okay if I join this thread?!

 

[Householdmystery]

What FRER tests does everyone buy?