TTC #4

[Spencerskates]

Hey everyone, hope you're all okay still no AF for me and another BFN this morning so having to presume that my covid jab has knocked me all out of sync or because I was particularly stressed last month that that has had a knock on effect

I thought I would maybe start properly tracking my ovulation rather than through an app, does anyone have any recommendations for ovulation kits / straps?

I use a combination of the Easy@Home ones and Clearblue Digital. The CB ones are more expensive and tend to give me a peak a day before E@H, but are much easier to read as there’s no room for interpretation with them.

 

[fishsticks]

I am feeling really torn today. I stopped tracking this month because my ovulation tests were just getting dark then light every couple of days with no actual ovulation and it’s exhausting. I’m guessing as it’s my first cycle after my loss that’s to be expected.

Now I just feel guilty for not trying this month, like well I clearly can’t want it that badly if I can’t be bothered to keep tracking. I’m CD 28 now and I don’t think I’ve ovulated yet but I really have no idea.

Did any of you stop tracking and then feel bad about it? It’s like I know I should just let myself relax but I feel so guilty for doing so.

Sorry for the ramble, just such an emotional rollercoaster.

This is currently me. I've not taken any opks this cycle and it's CD16.

We have been dtd and I've just been trying to listen to my body rather than opks,but I keep thinking 'what if my body is wrong' I've been struggling with trusting and loving my body since June. It really let me down and I've not forgiven it yet.

Going off cm I'm either ovulating or about to, but I don't really know for sure. Just trying to stay calm bcus it's 100% consumed my life now.

 

[moggie96]

Hoping that this link will work for any of us who are feeling guilty/ wondering if there are things we could or should be doing each month. Made me feel a lot better I know it says embryo transfer but it’s relevant for the ttc journey as a whole.

 

[Ilando]

Has anyone been invited to a baby shower while ttc? One of my friends has one in a couple of months time and I just can’t think of anything worse right now but I feel bad for bailing. She’s aware of my TTC struggles so I think she would understand but I just feel so bad! I missed her hen do a couple of weeks ago too but that was for other reasons (my MIL is very unwell). I just don’t know whether I need to suck it up and go or if I send her a message explaining how I feel. What would you guys do? Xx

I think during TTC/infertility, you need to do everything you can to protect your heart. I missed lots of ‘baby’ moments with friends and family. They understood my reasoning and if they didn’t then tough xx

 

[Sallycinnamon_]

I find it so frustrating when people who have never ttc add in their 2 pence. I saw a friend today who’s had 2 healthy pregnancies and has never even tried to get pregnant comment that people shouldn’t “ttc” and track as it causes the body stress and people should just enjoy it and let it happen. How can you really pass comment when you’ve never had to do it? It’s also stressful when you want to get pregnant and can’t, so it’s stressful either way!!

I agree. I once had someone tell me 13 months isn’t a long time to ttc. Said by a person who fell on the pill twice..

I am feeling really torn today. I stopped tracking this month because my ovulation tests were just getting dark then light every couple of days with no actual ovulation and it’s exhausting. I’m guessing as it’s my first cycle after my loss that’s to be expected.

Now I just feel guilty for not trying this month, like well I clearly can’t want it that badly if I can’t be bothered to keep tracking. I’m CD 28 now and I don’t think I’ve ovulated yet but I really have no idea.

Did any of you stop tracking and then feel bad about it? It’s like I know I should just let myself relax but I feel so guilty for doing so.

Sorry for the ramble, just such an emotional rollercoaster.

Don’t be too hard on yourself and put too much pressure on yourself. You’ve been through a lot, you have to do what’s right for you and if that’s not tracking then you do what’s right.
I didn’t track last month as it was becoming too stressful. It felt strange and I felt I was missing out the important days, but I went by ewcm and actually realised I was spot on with guessing ovulation just by that. If you get good amounts of ewcm that’s one way to track it, or just by regular BD.
Even if you have a complete month off, no tracking no regular BD, that’s okay too. We are people before we started ttc. It doesn’t mean you don’t want it, just means you are having a well needed break

 

[calmyourritas]

Hey guys, hope you’re all okay. Took a step back from this thread for a bit as just needed to stop obsessing.

My period was due today and nothing. My period last month was 2 days early. I’ve not had any cramps or pains which I normally do in the days before. So I just did a test. Obviously a BFN. Now I’m pissed off at myself for even bothering to do one.

 

[Clojo92]

Hey all, checking in! It’s been a while.

I’m currently in the TWW after going my 3rd round of ovulation induction (which was needles this time, not fun!) but I’m over the moon it has actually worked. Whether I’ll get pregnant I don’t know, but knowing this has worked for me makes me feel way more positive. I’m under strict instructions to test only on a certain date but the temptation is already there!! I’m only 3DPO

So good news, but not *the* news sending you all so much love and positivity

 

[Pumpkin Spice]

I'm getting so nervous, just hate that feeling of my period arriving and not being pregnant due on Sunday. Just ordered some tests, I'll take one on Saturday morning.

 

[GlennCoco]

I use a combination of the Easy@Home ones and Clearblue Digital. The CB ones are more expensive and tend to give me a peak a day before E@H, but are much easier to read as there’s no room for interpretation with them.

Thank you so much, ordered some of those so hopefully we will see where we are at x

 

[TapToBoreMeRigid]

Hey everyone. Tried off and on for 10y. I had PCOS diagnosed in 2013 but that was reversed in 2019 after more thorough bloods and a hysterosalpingogram. Just found out I don't ovulate. I'm so surprised because I have EWM and a 35 day cycle.

I start clomid in December. Until then I am trying to get stable on Sertraline after a relapse mentally.

Wishing you all all of the luck in the world. I will no doubt be back when December comes X

 

[calmyourritas]

Still no period - tested again (why do I do this?).

BFN. Now out of tests thankfully.

Friend has been for her 12 week scan today which really hurts. I cried so much when I saw her picture and then felt awful because I’m so happy for her.

 

[Pumpkin Spice]

Came home from work and my tests had arrived so of course I couldn't resist. BFN.
I am terrible for staring at tests until I think I can see a line. I know there will be no doubting it when it appears. I'm the same with covid lateral flows

 

[Lola UK]

Sorry for the BFNs grab yourself a Prosecco and have a bubble bath x

 

[Grigiogirls]

AF is a whole 5 days late, I haven’t actually tested since my last BFN, but I really don’t have the urge to as I kinda know that it will be another BFN and then it’s the whole issue of ‘well what’s wrong with my cycle then?’ I’ve had absolutely no symptoms of AF or pregnancy for around two weeks now. This has probably been the hardest month of my journey so far, really feel like next cycle I just need to take a step back and try the whatever will be approach but that’s always easier said than done.

 

[Pumpkin Spice]

I'm spotting already. Cycle 11 for me then.
Never in a million years thought it would take this long.
Sorry to anyone that's going through a much longer journey, I honestly can't imagine

 

[cecedoon]

Met some friends I haven’t seen in a few years & got asked “would I go again?” I ignored it the first time but got asked a second time so I just brushed it off to say “dunno, sure see what happens” as I didn’t want to ruin a nice lunch by telling to mind her own effing business

why do people think this is ok? Or is just the people who clearly never had any difficulty conceiving. So annoying!

 

[Pumpkin Spice]

Met some friends I haven’t seen in a few years & got asked “would I go again?” I ignored it the first time but got asked a second time so I just brushed it off to say “dunno, sure see what happens” as I didn’t want to ruin a nice lunch by telling to mind her own effing business

why do people think this is ok? Or is just the people who clearly never had any difficulty conceiving. So annoying!

I started my current job a few months ago. I work by myself but employed by an agency, I've met the person who runs the agency twice and the second time she asked me if I'd have more children! She then told me she wouldn't as she hates being pregnant. Do people actually think before they speak?

 

[TapToBoreMeRigid]

On occasion I have told people about our struggles to conceive and parents usually say things like, "Oh well it's very tiring anyway", or "it's expensive!". They're not the consolations you think they are.

 

[fishsticks]

Hello everyone, I have a question!

If you have an LH peak, does that mean you're guaranteed to ovulate or can you have an LH peak without ovulating??

 

[JLXRD]

Hello everyone, I have a question!

If you have an LH peak, does that mean you're guaranteed to ovulate or can you have an LH peak without ovulating??

Hey fish sticks, you can indeed peak without ovulating - the best way to confirm ovulation has happened is through temping as your temp rise confirms you have indeed ovulated.

Particularly with PCOS, some will see multiple peaks before they ovulate x