Nursery workers have a duty of care. Far better that everyone is reported and checked out by SS being over vigilant than they keep missing kids who end up dead.
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Yeah it must be difficult for nurseries as I’m sure every toddler is on and off covered in bruises and cuts but I’d imagine they have certain things they need to flag like bruises around the nappy area or ones that could potentially look like finger prints.
I’d be livid with my husband if he was biting or bruising my toddler himself tbh and I do completely see why that one would need a further investigation.
Hi everyone, I’m just here for a bit of a rant I guess. I’m really struggling with my three year old at the moment. He’s just started a new nursery which he loves but I know that could be the cause or it just be anything really. Everything is a battle just now, he gets choices where appropriate and he just doesn’t listen just now (I know it’s normal for his age) until I end up shouting after asking him fifty times. Then of course I’m the bad guy. If he gets told off for something e.g last night he was mucking about on the stairs and that’s a firm no he ended up screaming I WANT GRANNY! Which I know is him pushing boundaries and it’s normal for his age but my god it’s hard. Like just a minute ago I was emptying his lunchbox from yesterday (should have done it last night but honestly? I just couldn’t be bothered) and he seen me put some of it in the bin and he screamed the house down. He was screaming for his granny again. Yeah, he’s pushing boundaries but I just constantly feel like the baddie. My husband is away for work at the moment so it’s just me and mini bakewell so I’m just feeling sorry myself I guess. I tried talking to a pal about it who just laughed and said “wait until he’s x age and then you’ll know what hard is” and yeah every stage has it’s difficulties (personally I found the newborn stage HELL) but this has just been really hard for me just now. God I sound pathetic don’t I 
sorry for the ramble everyone, just feeling a bit sorry for myself this morning I guess. I just feel as though he wants everyone but his mum and it’s just a bit tit. Right, pity party over, time to get a grip now 
sorry for the ramble everyone, just feeling a bit sorry for myself this morning I guess. I just feel as though he wants everyone but his mum and it’s just a bit tit. Right, pity party over, time to get a grip now Also came here to rent. I realise we are very fortunate to be able to go abroad but my god my daughter is being hard work and I am not able to relax at all. She’s definitely over tired and hot and so am I and then I snap and feel like a horrible parent. We’re staying with family too and although they haven’t said anything and maybe it’s in my head, I do feel we’re being judged a bit. She’s just gone to bed with no dinner because she refused the two dinners that were offered to her. And we’re bed sharing because she refused to sleep in her cousins bunk beds so I might be in for a fun night of no sleep and then family want to take us to a theme park tomorrow 
Could’ve written it myself! No advice, just solidarity. My two year old seems to have fully embraced the terrible twos and every single thing is a battle and all she wants is her granny or aunty and never me, I know it’s nothing personal but it certainly feels it doesn’t it!!Hi everyone, I’m just here for a bit of a rant I guess. I’m really struggling with my three year old at the moment. He’s just started a new nursery which he loves but I know that could be the cause or it just be anything really. Everything is a battle just now, he gets choices where appropriate and he just doesn’t listen just now (I know it’s normal for his age) until I end up shouting after asking him fifty times. Then of course I’m the bad guy. If he gets told off for something e.g last night he was mucking about on the stairs and that’s a firm no he ended up screaming I WANT GRANNY! Which I know is him pushing boundaries and it’s normal for his age but my god it’s hard. Like just a minute ago I was emptying his lunchbox from yesterday (should have done it last night but honestly? I just couldn’t be bothered) and he seen me put some of it in the bin and he screamed the house down. He was screaming for his granny again. Yeah, he’s pushing boundaries but I just constantly feel like the baddie. My husband is away for work at the moment so it’s just me and mini bakewell so I’m just feeling sorry myself I guess. I tried talking to a pal about it who just laughed and said “wait until he’s x age and then you’ll know what hard is” and yeah every stage has it’s difficulties (personally I found the newborn stage HELL) but this has just been really hard for me just now. God I sound pathetic don’t I
Rant away. Doing it alone and not having anyone there at the minute to break things between you and 3yo is probably part of the issue. You’re rubbing one another yo the wrong way and there is nobody to diffuse the situation. Hopefully when your husband is home again that will help ease things. But you know yourself that sadly it’s all normal behaviour, and just keeping those boundaries there and trying to stay calm yourself are the key.Hi everyone, I’m just here for a bit of a rant I guess. I’m really struggling with my three year old at the moment. He’s just started a new nursery which he loves but I know that could be the cause or it just be anything really. Everything is a battle just now, he gets choices where appropriate and he just doesn’t listen just now (I know it’s normal for his age) until I end up shouting after asking him fifty times. Then of course I’m the bad guy. If he gets told off for something e.g last night he was mucking about on the stairs and that’s a firm no he ended up screaming I WANT GRANNY! Which I know is him pushing boundaries and it’s normal for his age but my god it’s hard. Like just a minute ago I was emptying his lunchbox from yesterday (should have done it last night but honestly? I just couldn’t be bothered) and he seen me put some of it in the bin and he screamed the house down. He was screaming for his granny again. Yeah, he’s pushing boundaries but I just constantly feel like the baddie. My husband is away for work at the moment so it’s just me and mini bakewell so I’m just feeling sorry myself I guess. I tried talking to a pal about it who just laughed and said “wait until he’s x age and then you’ll know what hard is” and yeah every stage has it’s difficulties (personally I found the newborn stage HELL) but this has just been really hard for me just now. God I sound pathetic don’t I
And your friend is a twit for saying that. How unhelpful.
It’s so draining isn’t it? Oh god, it really makes you feel tit! Like you say, it’s not personal but oooft, still hurts!
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Oh 100%! He’s definitely just pushing his luck and seeing what he gets away with but Jesus they know what buttons to press don’t they
That’s what I thought, very unhelpful comment 
the comment totally minimises your feelings about a stressful situation. If she ever says anything similar, or starts moaning herself, I’d be tempted to reply with “oh you think that’s bad? My other friend says wait until they get to xx, and that x age is one of the easiest”It’s so draining isn’t it? Oh god, it really makes you feel tit! Like you say, it’s not personal but oooft, still hurts!
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Oh 100%! He’s definitely just pushing his luck and seeing what he gets away with but Jesus they know what buttons to press don’t they
So draining! Everything is a battle and usually I realise about halfway through it’s a pointless battle anyway, I don’t seem to pick my battles well at the moment! But then don’t know whether to give in because I’ve thought about it and it genuinely doesn’t matter or whether to stick to my guns. Started to feel like I understood the toddler tantrums and knew how to avert them but this latest bout of tantrums has caught me off guard and I don’t seem to handle them wel at all.It’s so draining isn’t it? Oh god, it really makes you feel tit! Like you say, it’s not personal but oooft, still hurts!
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Oh 100%! He’s definitely just pushing his luck and seeing what he gets away with but Jesus they know what buttons to press don’t they
Sorry, turned your rant into my rant!!
Not sure if this is the right place to ask as my daughter is 4 so not really a toddler anymore but wondering if anyone had any advice all the same.
She’s just started putting everything in her mouth. She has a comforter that she’s constantly biting, and she sucks her thumb too, but she will bite and pull on sleeves and belts, put toys in her mouth and even yesterday we were at a cafe counter and she was mouthing the edge of the counter
she’s got a really good understanding of things and great speech so I’ve tried explaining to her about germs and being poorly but it’s like a compulsion/she almost doesn’t realise she’s doing it.
Anyone got any idea of the need that isn’t being met here? I’ve asked if anything’s hurting in her mouth and she said no.
She’s just started putting everything in her mouth. She has a comforter that she’s constantly biting, and she sucks her thumb too, but she will bite and pull on sleeves and belts, put toys in her mouth and even yesterday we were at a cafe counter and she was mouthing the edge of the counter
she’s got a really good understanding of things and great speech so I’ve tried explaining to her about germs and being poorly but it’s like a compulsion/she almost doesn’t realise she’s doing it. Anyone got any idea of the need that isn’t being met here? I’ve asked if anything’s hurting in her mouth and she said no.
It could be a sensory seeking behaviour- the jaw gives an incredibly high amount of feedback. You can get chewy necklaces with break clasps that are really good, they can wear them and pop them in their mouths. Kids at my school wear them while working/focusing, or when out and about. Other ways of meeting the need is very crunchy foods like breadsticks and carrots. I'd give one of the necklaces a go - it's saved so many parents I've worked with money on jumpers as it has stopped them chewing through them!Not sure if this is the right place to ask as my daughter is 4 so not really a toddler anymore but wondering if anyone had any advice all the same.
She’s just started putting everything in her mouth. She has a comforter that she’s constantly biting, and she sucks her thumb too, but she will bite and pull on sleeves and belts, put toys in her mouth and even yesterday we were at a cafe counter and she was mouthing the edge of the counter
Anyone got any idea of the need that isn’t being met here? I’ve asked if anything’s hurting in her mouth and she said no.
Yeah, like I get what she’s saying but every stage is hard tbh and what one person finds easy another might not, you know? It’s just a fool head thing to say tbh. I do agree with you though, I deffo should say something like that
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I swear by “pick your battles” but it’s easier said than done a lot of the time isn’t it? I swear as soon as you start to understand that’s when a new phase starts
I get you, I’m really struggling with the wanting anyone but me, even when he’s sad about something he’ll say he wants anyone but me and it’s tit. Don’t apologise! We’re all on the same boat here! Sending good vibes to you today
My almost 4 year old is similar. Has always sucked her thumb and still does it now. Sucks on the neck of her t shirts, puts toys in her mouth constantly. It's a bit grim because it means she dribbles loads and her clothes get wet around the neckNot sure if this is the right place to ask as my daughter is 4 so not really a toddler anymore but wondering if anyone had any advice all the same.
She’s just started putting everything in her mouth. She has a comforter that she’s constantly biting, and she sucks her thumb too, but she will bite and pull on sleeves and belts, put toys in her mouth and even yesterday we were at a cafe counter and she was mouthing the edge of the counter
Anyone got any idea of the need that isn’t being met here? I’ve asked if anything’s hurting in her mouth and she said no.
I think I'll check out those sensory necklaces as suggested above and see how it goes!
I need to rant! My toddler has decided to completely embrace the terrible twos and has turned into a totally different person, even to the point he has this weird angry voice when he's being especially naughty. He doesn't listen to anything, runs off and refuses to eat anything that isn't a potato or bread product. The other day I badly hurt my leg and have an enormous bruise and lump. My son's crowning moment was punching me directly on the lump in response to me telling him he needed to put his shorts on. He has been possessed by some demon or something, where has my sweet boy gone? 
Am currently pregnant with baby number 2 and have taken to locking myself in the toilet to cry because I just can't cope 
Am currently pregnant with baby number 2 and have taken to locking myself in the toilet to cry because I just can't cope 
Toddlers aren’t silly. When I worked in childcare, a parent pulled me aside as she was worried about her sons behaviour (he was about 16 months) and he started biting her and being horrible just to her. Anyway, turns out she was pregnant and it explained why he was acting up. It didn’t last long thoughI need to rant! My toddler has decided to completely embrace the terrible twos and has turned into a totally different person, even to the point he has this weird angry voice when he's being especially naughty. He doesn't listen to anything, runs off and refuses to eat anything that isn't a potato or bread product. The other day I badly hurt my leg and have an enormous bruise and lump. My son's crowning moment was punching me directly on the lump in response to me telling him he needed to put his shorts on. He has been possessed by some demon or something, where has my sweet boy gone?
It's weird because he said he was super excited about the baby, but only if he gets a sister
and now he's just being a right royal little mit. The violence towards me and my husband is new too and most of the time it's completely unprovoked as well, like he just punches me in the face when he asks for a cuddle 
We just came home from holiday so I'm hoping once he's back at nursery and back in his normal routine, that will help. If not, I'm not sure what I'm going to do Hey, posting for advice please. I think I posted a few weeks ago too and nothing has changed. My two year old daughter is hysterically crying at nursery drop off. No signs of anything improving no matter what we do, and believe me we have probably tried everything. She's been going to this nursery since she was 10 months old and until maybe about 2.5- 3 months ago she'd never cry going in, she'd be maybe a bit subdued but otherwise totally fine. Now it's heartbreaking tears. They say she's fine after about 10 mins but is definitely more emotional generally than she used to be. Still seems happy at pick up the way she's always been. I know separation anxiety is very common but this has been happening for so long now that I'm scared this is just how she'll be with everything from nursery to school. Really not sure what else to try. She really does try to hold it in and is usually fine on the drive to nursery and even on the walk to the door. Then as soon as the staff member comes out to take her in that's when she literally breaks down into tears. It's so so hard. Has anyone been through this for a long period of time and how did you eventually overcome it?
I don’t have any advice really but just a show of solidarity. My eldest son started preschool and cried every day from September to February (then schools stopped in March with Covid
) and my youngest daughter was the same. Both as you’ve described -fine On the way there, subdued going in, then very upset when I have to leave them. Always fine on pick up and never upset during the day. Granted it’s not quite the same as they would both have been older (3 then turned 4) and they’d never been at anything before so it was more expected. But just to say I’ve been there, when it goes on for months. It did resolve for both of them, in time.
My son is the same every Monday. Doesn't want to go in and is very subdued at home, quiet on the drive to nursery and then gets upset when the staff come to the door. We had been going in and sorting out his slippers and things but that just seemed to delay the inevitable. We've been assured he's fine after 5 minutes and he's even helped other little ones that have been upset. Unfortunately I don't have any suggestions that might help, I just walk away.
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