Oh no judgement if that's people's jam. I did question why I was doing it but wasn't brave enough to say nah it wasn't for me.I took my six week old to see Santa
Haha no I mean whyyy?! It was just the shopping centre Santa and admittedly it was to get me out of the house.
When my eldest was that age, a trip to Morrisons was the highlight of my week. The wee dobber only napped in the car so I'd get my cheeky bar of chocolate and copy of Heat as my treat.
) and that was both the first one with great weather and the second big school closure when it was mid winter. I’m with you. I pay enough to live here, so enjoy itAs someone who lived through the first lockdown with a then 7, 4 and 18mo, I can tell you kids don’t need to be out all the time doing stuff. Before lockdown I made sure we were out every weekend, I used to feel really bad if we stayed home. But it totally shifted my mindset when I saw how content the kids were staying at home (for months on end…
It definitely made me realise that the kids enjoy spending time in their space as much as being out.
I’m glad mines more laid back haha.My weekend, and the kids have loved it!In summer we love being in the garden
I used to go soft play when my eldest was younger because I nannied and took them out everyday. The poor following kids I’ve gone to have on barely see a park or soft play, because it’s too much hassle taking loads of kids out. They like being at home though, thankfully!
Sometimes I wonder if people like this have got themselves in to a situation where they almost don’t know what to do with their child at home? As if they are so used to being out that the idea of staying in fills them with dread and they dunno how to pass the time?
Funny a few years ago when I was a full time SAHM I remember getting cross at my husband for not wanting to make plans every Saturday. He then said “yeah but I’m at work every day, the [older] kids are at school every day, we like some quiet time at home at the weekends” and I’d never thought of it like that before, because I was home much of the time.My daughter is at preschool 3 mornings a week and with my parents for two so shes up and out early every weekday. We’ve stopped making plans on Saturdays and generally have a chill day then do a bit more on Sunday but still have a later start than in the week. They are people too, shattered after a long week just like us
I think a lot are the same with the eldest! With mine we did somteething every day, even if it was only seeing family/friends, she was out at classes etc all the time. With no2 that was harder as I had a toddler as well, then no3 was Covid era toddler, and no4 is just dragged about on all the school runs
Well this might be a reason … she has said that she doesn’t like her house being a mess so I think this is one of the reasons!!! Her bf doesn’t like toys in their living room their child is only allowed to play in their play room!!!! It’s so bad if you ask me. So I think that’s why she is always the out and aboutSometimes I wonder if people like this have got themselves in to a situation where they almost don’t know what to do with their child at home? As if they are so used to being out that the idea of staying in fills them with dread and they dunno how to pass the time?
I know one of my own friends (who is a super active human, she’s always on the go even on her own) has always had her kids busy busy busy, and admitted once years ago she didn’t know how to fill the time with them in the house.
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Funny a few years ago when I was a full time SAHM I remember getting cross at my husband for not wanting to make plans every Saturday. He then said “yeah but I’m at work every day, the [older] kids are at school every day, we like some quiet time at home at the weekends” and I’d never thought of it like that before, because I was home much of the time.
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I think a lot are the same with the eldest! With mine we did somteething every day, even if it was only seeing family/friends, she was out at classes etc all the time. With no2 that was harder as I had a toddler as well, then no3 was Covid era toddler, and no4 is just dragged about on all the school runs
Honestly, most 3 year olds go through this phase. You have to find a way to ride it out without her picking up that it's causing you stress, as it will cause her to do it more.
I just don’t get the meltdowns, she’s just over the top so so so much over nothing. I honestly think something is wrong with her sometimes.
Ok here is the thing, I’m going to put lay it out straight. You are not understanding 3yos at all. You say she’s getting upset over small things like the wrong ice cream.
Nothing like expecting a 3 year old to have an adult grasp of emotion.
I'll be honest, there isn't much your HV will be able to do. The most you could do is ask the nursery for better support if they are experiencing it too. But it sounds like typical 3yo behaviour to me. You're searching for answers you truly will never find.
