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This is really great when you get to the stage of one million birthday parties. 10 books, and then something else small (bubbles etc) to go with it and you have a whole load of gifts ready for parties.
Will stock up now then haha!! They also do 3 for £15 on bigger toys, so got a lot of new books and toys for her for not a lot of money! At this rate though I will need to lock my phone away overnight 🤣
 
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Really random but The Works do 10 for £10 on books, and it’s a decent selection, not just rit no one wants to read 😂 they also have very reasonably priced toys and arts/crafts. Thought I’d pass the recommendation on! Pregnancy insomnia causing me to late night shop 😂😂
I've bought several sets of 10 books, my son loves them. They also do a 24 book set as an advent calendar for Christmas. All the books are winter/Christmas themed, think it was £24. I wrapped them all up individually and then let my son choose one to open each evening, he loved it 😊 Popped them in storage and will do the same this year with the same set.
 
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I've bought several sets of 10 books, my son loves them. They also do a 24 book set as an advent calendar for Christmas. All the books are winter/Christmas themed, think it was £24. I wrapped them all up individually and then let my son choose one to open each evening, he loved it 😊 Popped them in storage and will do the same this year with the same set.
This is amazing, will keep an eye out thank you!
 
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Hi everyone am joining the thread - my little boy started nursery today but he was so upset when we got there and has barely eaten anything or left the workers’ laps. I’ve got the next 2 nursery days as leave in case it doesn’t improve but then I’m back at work. He will only be going 2 days a week… but I feel so bad for him.
Is this normal? 🥺
 
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Hi everyone am joining the thread - my little boy started nursery today but he was so upset when we got there and has barely eaten anything or left the workers’ laps. I’ve got the next 2 nursery days as leave in case it doesn’t improve but then I’m back at work. He will only be going 2 days a week… but I feel so bad for him.
Is this normal? 🥺
Yes, this is so normal. He may be like this for a little while, but he will eventually settle and will see how much fun nursery is x
 
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Thank you. I knew it would be hard but not this hard 😂 x
These kids know exactly where to get you 😂

In my experience, a child doing a couple of days a week will take slightly longer to settle than one that is doing more days, but as long as you are happy with the nursery, I wouldn’t worry x
 
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Hi everyone am joining the thread - my little boy started nursery today but he was so upset when we got there and has barely eaten anything or left the workers’ laps. I’ve got the next 2 nursery days as leave in case it doesn’t improve but then I’m back at work. He will only be going 2 days a week… but I feel so bad for him.
Is this normal? 🥺
I think it sounds normal, but it is tough! My personal opinion (for what it’s worth!) is that you shouldn’t go and get him though over the next 2 days, as he needs to get used to being there if you’re to go back to work. They’ll be used to dealing with children who are upset as they settle there, and will have distractions etc to help. It’s hard though!
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Developed a game called “baby naps” where the toddler reads her doll a book, then gives her a bottle and puts her in the toy car seat for a nap, and then for a blissful 5 minutes whispers stories to her other dolls and says “sssh mummy baby nap” if I make a noise. The best game ever 🤣🤣
 
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Much appreciated thank you. He’s eaten his tea and is playing and being his usual mischievous self since coming home 😂

Love the game 🤣 I’ll store that one for when mine is talking and can play the same thing 🤣
 
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“Mummy is there a baby in your tummy?” Cheers for that confidence boost kid 🤣

Thankfully I established she was asking because her friends mummy’s are pregnant.
 
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Hi everyone I’m after some advice. My 2 year old is constantly repeating bad words to us and her sister. She will constantly call us naughty and stupid (even though we have never used these words she has copied them from her sister) I’ve tried addressing it and saying these are unkind words etc I’ve tried ignoring it and neither are working. She is using these words constantly any advice on how to get her to stop? Are there any consequences I should be using. She is also constantly hitting us and the baby when she doesn’t get her own way. We validate her feelings but explain that behaviour is unacceptable but she is still doing it constantly. What consequences should I use because she isn’t stopping!
 
Hi everyone I’m after some advice. My 2 year old is constantly repeating bad words to us and her sister. She will constantly call us naughty and stupid (even though we have never used these words she has copied them from her sister) I’ve tried addressing it and saying these are unkind words etc I’ve tried ignoring it and neither are working. She is using these words constantly any advice on how to get her to stop? Are there any consequences I should be using. She is also constantly hitting us and the baby when she doesn’t get her own way. We validate her feelings but explain that behaviour is unacceptable but she is still doing it constantly. What consequences should I use because she isn’t stopping!
What “age” 2yo is she? Under 2.5, closer to 3? How is her understanding?
Tbh at this age consequences don’t do much, they can’t really marry their action and the consequence, then make a conscious decision not to do the behaviour next time. So much of their behaviour is reactionary, there is often little thought behind it.
With hitting, especially if she’s hitting a baby, I would immediately move her away, or get up and move yourself and baby. Remind her of gentle hands, remind her “I will not let you hurt me/baby” and say something like “we will be over here when you are ready to be gentle”

With the words, I would be addressing that at the source - her sister. Ask her sister to stop using the words, and when your 2yo does use them give her other words instead so if she says “you’re stupid” you could offer “I don’t like that choice” (because usually they say it when they aren’t getting their own way, rather than a comment on someone’s IQ!) Again maybe something like “those aren’t nice words. I don’t like it when you use them. I’m going to the kitchen now, you can join me when you’re ready to use kind words”
But it all is so dependent on her understanding, and what every situation is. Keep going with what you’re doing, the habits will break ❤
 
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What “age” 2yo is she? Under 2.5, closer to 3? How is her understanding?
Tbh at this age consequences don’t do much, they can’t really marry their action and the consequence, then make a conscious decision not to do the behaviour next time. So much of their behaviour is reactionary, there is often little thought behind it.
With hitting, especially if she’s hitting a baby, I would immediately move her away, or get up and move yourself and baby. Remind her of gentle hands, remind her “I will not let you hurt me/baby” and say something like “we will be over here when you are ready to be gentle”

With the words, I would be addressing that at the source - her sister. Ask her sister to stop using the words, and when your 2yo does use them give her other words instead so if she says “you’re stupid” you could offer “I don’t like that choice” (because usually they say it when they aren’t getting their own way, rather than a comment on someone’s IQ!) Again maybe something like “those aren’t nice words. I don’t like it when you use them. I’m going to the kitchen now, you can join me when you’re ready to use kind words”
But it all is so dependent on her understanding, and what every situation is. Keep going with what you’re doing, the habits will break ❤
Ah thank you for your response. Yeah I’m pretty much doing all of this really but nothing is working yet. She is 3 in November and her understanding is good and so is her speech. I have addressed it with her older sister (5 yo) but takes no notice either. I think they both get a thrill out of insulting each other. They will constantly tell tales too “she hit me” “no she hit me first” etc. I also think they are doing it for a reaction from me but I have to address it as it is unkind. Just don’t know how to keep responding to it as I feel like it’s just causing them to do it more
 
Ah thank you for your response. Yeah I’m pretty much doing all of this really but nothing is working yet. She is 3 in November and her understanding is good and so is her speech. I have addressed it with her older sister (5 yo) but takes no notice either. I think they both get a thrill out of insulting each other. They will constantly tell tales too “she hit me” “no she hit me first” etc. I also think they are doing it for a reaction from me but I have to address it as it is unkind. Just don’t know how to keep responding to it as I feel like it’s just causing them to do it more
It's so hard, because the dynamic in every home is so different. If she’s coming up to 3 she is definitely old enough to understand what she’s doing is wrong. I would sit both girls down and have a chat with them. Tell them their behaviours (be clear about exactly what) have not been great, and it’s making things difficult in the house. Then outline exactly what you expect of them. If you think it’d help, put a reward structure in place for them (personally I don’t do reward charts, but I know many do, and if you’ve not tried it yet it may be worth a go). Just be really clear about what’s not ok, and what you expect.
 
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Toddler is currently a bit of a nightmare at bedtime, wants to be cuddled to sleep again (fine) and I have to sit on the kids armchair next to her bed. She got a cuddly toy dog for Christmas that is larger than our actual dog (spaniel so not a small pug for context) that she also likes to cuddle to sleep. The upshot is that for the last few nights I have to cuddle her and a lifesize dog to sleep whilst sat on a kids armchair at 7months pregnant. Fml 😂
 
Nightmare bed times here too. Is the 18 month sleep regression an actual thing or a myth?

We’ve had terrible nights since he was born basically but at the moment he doesn’t want to be held and doesn’t want to lie on the bed either. Usually wakes after a few hours then is difficult to get back to sleep (Particularly a deep sleep). His eyes are closed but he thrashes around loads and when he’s in my bed it means no one is sleeping😣. He won’t go back in his own bed when he wakes up. Not sure if I need advice or just the rant🤣
 
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Toddler gravy has lasted a grand total of 4 days at nursery before having to be off sick 🙃
I've now got it and as far as I'm told this will be my life for the next 6 months, paying over 1k for a new big every week, great 😭
 
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Toddler gravy has lasted a grand total of 4 days at nursery before having to be off sick 🙃
I've now got it and as far as I'm told this will be my life for the next 6 months, paying over 1k for a new big every week, great 😭
If it makes you feel any better Toddler Rose had a day off in her second week, and hasn’t had a day off since for sickness (she’s had colds but nothing that stops her going in). I’ve not yet had to pick her up, and I’ve plenty of friends who have the same , although also friends whose kids do have to take time off regularly. Anyway my point is it’s definitely not a certainty that this is your life, but there will be a runny nose near constantly 😂
Before anyone thinks I send her in poorly, at ours they can go in with colds as long as they’re ok in themselves, but you’re not expected to keep them off for a standard cough or cold.
 
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If it makes you feel any better Toddler Rose had a day off in her second week, and hasn’t had a day off since for sickness (she’s had colds but nothing that stops her going in). I’ve not yet had to pick her up, and I’ve plenty of friends who have the same , although also friends whose kids do have to take time off regularly. Anyway my point is it’s definitely not a certainty that this is your life, but there will be a runny nose near constantly 😂
Before anyone thinks I send her in poorly, at ours they can go in with colds as long as they’re ok in themselves, but you’re not expected to keep them off for a standard cough or cold.
That's now almost a week she's been off and because she's not settled in a bet it's going to be carnage trying to get her back into the swing of things when she goes back 😭
Fully prepared for the runny nose constantly 😂
 
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Nightmare bed times here too. Is the 18 month sleep regression an actual thing or a myth?

We’ve had terrible nights since he was born basically but at the moment he doesn’t want to be held and doesn’t want to lie on the bed either. Usually wakes after a few hours then is difficult to get back to sleep (Particularly a deep sleep). His eyes are closed but he thrashes around loads and when he’s in my bed it means no one is sleeping😣. He won’t go back in his own bed when he wakes up. Not sure if I need advice or just the rant🤣
We definitely were hit hard at this age. Had 6 weeks of split nights, in the middle I nightweaned as I’d had enough of her being latched on all night. Didn’t stop the split nights, they stopped on their own.
 
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