Toddler advice thread #4

[WhatABore]

Ahh thank you! glad to know I don’t have the only foul mouthed child I’ll carry on correcting her and hope she gets bored of it soon!

I don't know if it's right but I've always explained they're adult words
I've not told them off, just calmly told them. And they've not repeated them.
We've only had it on a few occasions and me and my partner swear, him more than me

 

[Definitelyme]

I don't know if it's right but I've always explained they're adult words
I've not told them off, just calmly told them. And they've not repeated them.
We've only had it on a few occasions and me and my partner swear, him more than me

We do this as well. Just say it’s not a word for them to use, and that’s that.
I swear far too much. And my kids don’t at all. My 4yo did say “tough titties” the other week though, which is not something I ever say so I’ve no idea where she got it?!? It’s not a common phrase here at all.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

We do this as well. Just say it’s not a word for them to use, and that’s that.
I swear far too much. And my kids don’t at all. My 4yo did say “tough titties” the other week though, which is not something I ever say so I’ve no idea where she got it?!? It’s not a common phrase here at all.

God I’ve not heard tough titties in AGES

 

[al255]

Just wanted to come on and say thank you for all the advice about our routine needing to change!

So tonight I did bath etc , ipad as usual then books in my bed instead of hers. I made it very clear to her that at 7:30pm she had to say goodnight to the books and I put the books in the spare room & the door locks so there’s no way she’s getting them, she said goodnight to them and then I told her we had to be quiet or else the books would wake up.

She walked to her bedroom and kept telling me to shush then got in bed, we had cuddles and kisses and that was it..”Goodnight mummy I love you”.. no tears, no drama, no shouting..!

I hope it continues for us …!

 

[Megatron1298]

Hi everyone,
Looking for some advice please! My daughters 21 months and quite chatty, she’s copying everything atm and has picked up a new phrase she’s saying For ducks sake alot! I’ve been ignoring it and recently saying oh dear when she says it to try and get her to replace the phrase but it doesn’t seem to be working. Luckily she’s only been saying it when she’s home usually when she’s pretending on the phone or when she drops something. I feel so embarrassed as she’s obviously copying how we’ve used it.. I didn’t think we swore that much but it seems we must do!

Yup my son does this, we just didn’t react and moved on. I think one time we tried saying something similar to see if he would change the way he said it but no luck. I find it hilarious like they get the timing and everything

 

[LilyRose1234]

Hi everyone, I’m new to this thread, still lingering on the new baby/boddler thread (I’m in denial basically haha). Just wondering where do you even start with potty training?!

My 21 month old has started to show signs of needing the toilet (if she’s nappy free she’ll run and get a nappy for us to put on and then do a wee/poo) and I just have no idea where or when to start with it all?!

 

[al255]

Hi everyone, I’m new to this thread, still lingering on the new baby/boddler thread (I’m in denial basically haha). Just wondering where do you even start with potty training?!

My 21 month old has started to show signs of needing the toilet (if she’s nappy free she’ll run and get a nappy for us to put on and then do a wee/poo) and I just have no idea where or when to start with it all?!

For me - I knew mini A was ready when she would comfortably do a wee or a poo on the potty / toilet. I tried in august 2022 when she was 2.5 years old and it was a disaster, she kept weeing in her pants and it made her wee more! Anyway, I tried again in October and it was a breeze, I’ve found if it’s stressful they aren’t ready. She needed to understand fully that we do a wee and poo in potty and it’s taken till now for her to be consistently dry and use the toilet for a poo etc. Once they get used to the feeling of their bladder being full & the feeling of a poo that’s when it clicks properly and less accident occur.

We still use a pull up at night time though and she’s dry every morning, it hasn’t confused her in any way, I’d rather not just change sheets incase there the off chance she has a wee in her sleep!

I’d try her with some nappy free time and get her a potty and explain that we use potty for wee and poo and see how she gets on. Some people prefer to go straight to the toilet with a toddler seat and a step (we’ve got both as don’t have a downstairs toilet).

I wouldn’t rush it though or expect too much as in my eyes she’s still a baby and not even 2 years old yet. Mini A was confident at using her potty and I didn’t have to force it really, compared to in August when it was a disaster

 

[LilyRose1234]

For me - I knew mini A was ready when she would comfortably do a wee or a poo on the potty / toilet. I tried in august 2022 when she was 2.5 years old and it was a disaster, she kept weeing in her pants and it made her wee more! Anyway, I tried again in October and it was a breeze, I’ve found if it’s stressful they aren’t ready. She needed to understand fully that we do a wee and poo in potty and it’s taken till now for her to be consistently dry and use the toilet for a poo etc. Once they get used to the feeling of their bladder being full & the feeling of a poo that’s when it clicks properly and less accident occur.

We still use a pull up at night time though and she’s dry every morning, it hasn’t confused her in any way, I’d rather not just change sheets incase there the off chance she has a wee in her sleep!

I’d try her with some nappy free time and get her a potty and explain that we use potty for wee and poo and see how she gets on. Some people prefer to go straight to the toilet with a toddler seat and a step (we’ve got both as don’t have a downstairs toilet).

I wouldn’t rush it though or expect too much as in my eyes she’s still a baby and not even 2 years old yet. Mini A was confident at using her potty and I didn’t have to force it really, compared to in August when it was a disaster

Thank you! Oh I’m definitely not expecting it to click yet, she’s still a baby in my eyes too it just got me to thinking that now she’s starting to signal I had absolutely no idea how to even start!! I will probably start with a potty and nappy free time and go from there, if it works it works and if it doesn’t then we haven’t lost anything!

 

[Jellybean093]

Hi everyone, I’m new to this thread, still lingering on the new baby/boddler thread (I’m in denial basically haha). Just wondering where do you even start with potty training?!

My 21 month old has started to show signs of needing the toilet (if she’s nappy free she’ll run and get a nappy for us to put on and then do a wee/poo) and I just have no idea where or when to start with it all?!

My eldest I rushed at 2, and she wasn’t ready
My second told me he didn’t want to wear nappies any more. He was 2yrs 4mths
My third was literally naked the day he was born. Thanks to lockdowns, he spent a lot of his time nappy-less and I think he was about 2yrs 5mths when we finally ditched them in & out
The baby is obviously still in nappies, and I’m not in a rush. Although he has just been running around naked

 

[LilyRose1234]

My eldest I rushed at 2, and she wasn’t ready
My second told me he didn’t want to wear nappies any more. He was 2yrs 4mths
My third was literally naked the day he was born. Thanks to lockdowns, he spent a lot of his time nappy-less and I think he was about 2yrs 5mths when we finally ditched them in & out
The baby is obviously still in nappies, and I’m not in a rush. Although he has just been running around naked

Thank you! Glad to know I have some time before I need to deal with it, probably the milestone I’m looking forward to least

 

[Jellybean093]

Thank you! Glad to know I have some time before I need to deal with it, probably the milestone I’m looking forward to least

Yes. My middle 2 made potty training look easy, but it has always been my least favourite thing about these kids

 

[watermelon sugar]

Happy mother’s day toddler mums 🤍 did we get anything nice? I got an M&S box of chocs, a yankee candle set, some pj’s and a teddy bear that apparently my son picked himself and Dad took me out for breakie which was really nice

 

[ElektraWintour]

My husband is working and bought me a dress two sizes too big. I decided to take my daughter out which ended in meltdown (partly my thought as it was lunchtime and she was hangry)

Haha that aside I got a really cute gift she made with her childminder so I love that and my husband is ordering me a takeaway tonight so I don’t have to cook.

Hope everyone else had a better day!

 

[underwhelmed1985]

How’s everyone’s Mother’s Day going? I’m lead on my bed watching sex/life drinking wine whilst my kids create hell downstairs. This is no doubt something I’ll regret on Father’s Day

 

[watermelon sugar]

How’s everyone’s Mother’s Day going? I’m lead on my bed watching sex/life drinking wine whilst my kids create hell downstairs. This is no doubt something I’ll regret on Father’s Day

I’ve had quite a lazy day and my boyfriend has dealt with everything but he goes to work in a minute so
I’ll have to start doing stuff when it’s Father’s day i’ll remind him i didn’t have my full day

 

[al255]

Happy mother’s day toddler mums 🤍 did we get anything nice? I got an M&S box of chocs, a yankee candle set, some pj’s and a teddy bear that apparently my son picked himself and Dad took me out for breakie which was really nice

Happy Mothers Day everyone

My daughters Dad came round and I got a vase that says “special mum” on it, and some flowers. My two fave things! We went to Lidl and I got some bakery items and treated myself.

I’m also back at work tomorrow since my wrist accident and I’m glad to be back in our routine

 

[Definitelyme]

@LilyRose1234 every time I have moved to potty training I always feel absolutely clueless. I feel that way again this time and it will be the fourth time I’ve done it! It seems so daunting, but my advice is to go with the flow, don’t leave it too late, and don’t expect it to be over in a few days. We still ask our 4 and 7 yo if they need to wee before we go out somewhere, for example. A lot of people claim 3 days and it’s done, but that is (for most people) total balls! It’s a long process, and has ups and downs.
My starting points would be to start the conversation “oh I need a wee, I’m going to do that in the toilet”. “Oh you’ve done a poo. When you’re ready your poo goes in the toilet like mummy and daddy” Also allowing her in the bathroom with you while you use the toilet, narrating what’s happening (to an extent!) and showing the process of toilet, wipe, hands.
Oh Crap Potty Training has some good info in it. I don’t follow its method really, but it has good background about it which always helps me feel a bit more confident going in to PT.

Oh for reference their ages were 2y 3mo, 2y 1mo and 2y 2mo. TMe will be 2y 3mo in July and I will start with him then, as I’m off work all summer and it allows it to be less pressurised than if my parents also need to take an active role.

 

[Kim Mild]

Having a nightmare with my 3 year olds behaviour at the minute. We can't leave the house without him causing a scene and we can't get back in without him running of and climbing on the garden walls. I dread having to go anywhere. He is a nightmare in public and picking my 5 year old up from school is a nightmare as he just runs of and goes on the mud . My 5 year old misses out because of the 3 year olds behaviour.

 

[GlennCoco]

Having a nightmare with my 3 year olds behaviour at the minute. We can't leave the house without him causing a scene and we can't get back in without him running of and climbing on the garden walls. I dread having to go anywhere. He is a nightmare in public and picking my 5 year old up from school is a nightmare as he just runs of and goes on the mud . My 5 year old misses out because of the 3 year olds behaviour.

Have you tried those backpacks with the reigns in?

 

[disillusionedbythegram]

I know it’s not applicable for every situation (eg school run) but could you start planning daily activities around what he can do, so making a point of taking him somewhere where he can just run off? Putting him in a puddle suit so the mud doesn’t matter?