Toddler advice thread #3

[xKHx]

How do we transition from no pants to undies with potty training? My little boy is doing fab on the potty for wees and poos but only when he has no pants on. We tried undies today and he weed in them. We’ve explained you don’t wee with pants on, but do we need to give it a bit longer?

I’m looking for exactly the same advice, started potty training on Monday there with my daughter, done naked bottom half the last 2 days and she has done all pees & on the potty without prompting, so she knows when she needs and can do it but now I’m stuck on how to introduce clothes.. have bought her character pants and tried earlier with them on but she just ran to potty and tried to pee with them on. Have told her to tell me when she needs and I can help her get them off, have also took her to the loo with me and showed her me taking my pants down..
any advice?
Don’t want her to be potty trained only when naked lol

 

[WhatABore]

Any advice on potty training at night? My wee boy has been potty trained through the day for about 9 months now, still in a pull-up through the night. I know you can’t train them to go through the night, it’s about waiting for your hormone that regulates it to develop so I’m not stressing. He’s been dry in the morning every day for the past fortnight, bar one. Do I just bite the bullet and take the pull-up away completely? I have a waterproof mattress protector already. Was thinking of lifting him from bed when I’m going to bed, keeping the lights off and sitting him on the toilet for a half-asleep pee lol, do other people do that?

My 4yo was potty trained from just after 2.
She's only been dry at night for about 5 or 6 months and she's 5 next month.
We just put pull ups on her, pee before bed, and eventually she was dry over night.
No stress, so was nice and easy just waiting for her
Never woken them up to pee because I didn't want their body in the habit of needing to pee during the night if they didn't need to.

 

[Definitelyme]

My 4yo has been potty trained for over 2yrs, still wears a pull up at night.

 

[Buzzybee43]

Hi all, I’m a newly SAHM and wondered if anyone on here had any advice or routines they could share with me? My daughter goes to nursery five days a week full time and my son is 16 months so I am at home with him. I try to take him to a class every morning after school drop off, lunch then nap before collection. However there are a few hours between 3-7 pm where I’m not sure what to do with both of them. My daughter is wiped and would happily watch a tv programme. Today I left out a game and some writing activities and she refused! My son is completely different and still struggles to play independently so I am caught up with him (also doesn’t really understand playing rather than just throwing yet!)
Anyway just wondered if anyone had anything they do with two kids between school and bed time that suits both their needs? Thanks

 

[Definitelyme]

Hi all, I’m a newly SAHM and wondered if anyone on here had any advice or routines they could share with me? My daughter goes to nursery five days a week full time and my son is 16 months so I am at home with him. I try to take him to a class every morning after school drop off, lunch then nap before collection. However there are a few hours between 3-7 pm where I’m not sure what to do with both of them. My daughter is wiped and would happily watch a tv programme. Today I left out a game and some writing activities and she refused! My son is completely different and still struggles to play independently so I am caught up with him (also doesn’t really understand playing rather than just throwing yet!)
Anyway just wondered if anyone had anything they do with two kids between school and bed time that suits both their needs? Thanks

I’ve had similar age gaps between all mine, and have always found later afternoon a hard time. I would say try and get outside as much as possible. Even if it’s just for 30/45mins it’ll break the afternoon for you all. Then maybe when you get back in a bit of TV time for your eldest which might give you time to prep dinner as well?
I would also do a lot of book reading together when someone is tired in the afternoon.
Keep trying different activities to leave out. And if you sit and play with them then it might pique her interest.
My 4yo and 20mo both love playing with their play rice, lots of scooping and pouring (and dropping )
A bath would also be great fun, especially if moods aren’t great, or water play in general which suits both ages well.
All my kids have a snack at 3.30, that usually takes 15-20 mind.
If your son likes to throw have a basket of balls/bean bags available and simple things like throwing up the hallway, for your daughter maybe hitting a target.

 

[JH_CH]

I’m looking for exactly the same advice, started potty training on Monday there with my daughter, done naked bottom half the last 2 days and she has done all pees & on the potty without prompting, so she knows when she needs and can do it but now I’m stuck on how to introduce clothes.. have bought her character pants and tried earlier with them on but she just ran to potty and tried to pee with them on. Have told her to tell me when she needs and I can help her get them off, have also took her to the loo with me and showed her me taking my pants down..
any advice?
Don’t want her to be potty trained only when naked lol

My little boy was about 3 weeks with no pants on under his clothes. Worked perfectly. They say pants is too similar to wearing a nappy.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Does anyone else’s little one watch Morphle? it’s well good, i find myself just sitting and watching it when it’s on

 

[GlennCoco]

Does anyone else’s little one watch Morphle? it’s well good, i find myself just sitting and watching it when it’s on

MiniGlenCoco watches this but I think I prefer Bluey

 

[watermelon sugar]

MiniGlenCoco watches this but I think I prefer Bluey

Ooh yeah Bluey is good as well like, I think Morphle, Bluey and Duggee are my favourites

 

[squatternutbosh]

Does anyone else have severe anxiety about their child getting sick?
I don’t know what it is, but it’s something that is constant on my mind, and I go over and above the necessary preventions of my child getting sick.
So for background:
she is 5
She was a preemie baby who spent time in nicu, so she’s always been on the petite side growing up. She is visibly smaller than her peers but she is healthy. (I was also very sick as a child, and in hosp a lot. but this is due to a medical condition and not school bugs)

This anxiety about sickness didn’t kick in until She started daycare, then she started picking up nursery bugs literally every other day. It was nightmare fuel for me. She would lose weight, her appetite and it felt like recovery took ages. I was also working full time and this caused massive issues with work, I really struggled to cope, even considered taking her out of nursery due to the amount of times she picked up an illness. I didn’t though.

Now I’m in a WFH role and am a bit more relaxed, but I still get panicky if a friend or family is ill and will actively avoid going there if so.
my mates who have children of similar ages r like a free for all. They don’t understand my anxiety, they send their kids to school if they r sick and coughing and they always seem to have a bug, it’s resulted me in going over there less. They say to me ‘there’s nothing a good night sleep & calpol can’t fix’

But I go into military mode if I feel like she’s getting sick. Am prepared with towels/sick bucket/ calpol/cooling gels/ointments/humidifiers the lot. It’s a box I will pull out which is preprepprd in times of emergency. When I went abroad with her for the first time, an entire suitcase was just medical supplies (which were never used regardless)

Like tonight I can sense something is wrong as she was exhausted and crying complaining of body aches. She’s fast asleep in her bed now but I have a lamp on and am sitting next to her (with the intention of all night) with everything prepped incase she’s up with a fever or vomiting. I know this isn’t normal or healthy. And I know once the bug is over she’s back to her sprightly self. But I find myself mentally drained. How can I trick my mind to accept this is a normal part of growing up? Am I a total nutcase?
would really appreciate some advice/opinions

 

[WhatABore]

Does anyone else have severe anxiety about their child getting sick?
I don’t know what it is, but it’s something that is constant on my mind, and I go over and above the necessary preventions of my child getting sick.
So for background:
she is 5
She was a preemie baby who spent time in nicu, so she’s always been on the petite side growing up. She is visibly smaller than her peers but she is healthy. (I was also very sick as a child, and in hosp a lot. but this is due to a medical condition and not school bugs)

This anxiety about sickness didn’t kick in until She started daycare, then she started picking up nursery bugs literally every other day. It was nightmare fuel for me. She would lose weight, her appetite and it felt like recovery took ages. I was also working full time and this caused massive issues with work, I really struggled to cope, even considered taking her out of nursery due to the amount of times she picked up an illness. I didn’t though.

Now I’m in a WFH role and am a bit more relaxed, but I still get panicky if a friend or family is ill and will actively avoid going there if so.
my mates who have children of similar ages r like a free for all. They don’t understand my anxiety, they send their kids to school if they r sick and coughing and they always seem to have a bug, it’s resulted me in going over there less. They say to me ‘there’s nothing a good night sleep & calpol can’t fix’

But I go into military mode if I feel like she’s getting sick. Am prepared with towels/sick bucket/ calpol/cooling gels/ointments/humidifiers the lot. It’s a box I will pull out which is preprepprd in times of emergency. When I went abroad with her for the first time, an entire suitcase was just medical supplies (which were never used regardless)

Like tonight I can sense something is wrong as she was exhausted and crying complaining of body aches. She’s fast asleep in her bed now but I have a lamp on and am sitting next to her (with the intention of all night) with everything prepped incase she’s up with a fever or vomiting. I know this isn’t normal or healthy. And I know once the bug is over she’s back to her sprightly self. But I find myself mentally drained. How can I trick my mind to accept this is a normal part of growing up? Am I a total nutcase?
would really appreciate some advice/opinions

Can you speak to a GP, see if they can give you someone to talk to?
Some kind of counselling maybe?
It may all stem back from her being premature and being in nicu

 

[squatternutbosh]

Can you speak to a GP, see if they can give you someone to talk to?
Some kind of counselling maybe?
It may all stem back from her being premature and being in nicu

I do suspect it’s stemming from that. I dis contact a GP and they referred me to Talking therapies. It wasn’t a very good set up imo and I had a few group sessions which didn’t work for me 🥲

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Does anyone else have severe anxiety about their child getting sick?
I don’t know what it is, but it’s something that is constant on my mind, and I go over and above the necessary preventions of my child getting sick.
So for background:
she is 5
She was a preemie baby who spent time in nicu, so she’s always been on the petite side growing up. She is visibly smaller than her peers but she is healthy. (I was also very sick as a child, and in hosp a lot. but this is due to a medical condition and not school bugs)

This anxiety about sickness didn’t kick in until She started daycare, then she started picking up nursery bugs literally every other day. It was nightmare fuel for me. She would lose weight, her appetite and it felt like recovery took ages. I was also working full time and this caused massive issues with work, I really struggled to cope, even considered taking her out of nursery due to the amount of times she picked up an illness. I didn’t though.

Now I’m in a WFH role and am a bit more relaxed, but I still get panicky if a friend or family is ill and will actively avoid going there if so.
my mates who have children of similar ages r like a free for all. They don’t understand my anxiety, they send their kids to school if they r sick and coughing and they always seem to have a bug, it’s resulted me in going over there less. They say to me ‘there’s nothing a good night sleep & calpol can’t fix’

But I go into military mode if I feel like she’s getting sick. Am prepared with towels/sick bucket/ calpol/cooling gels/ointments/humidifiers the lot. It’s a box I will pull out which is preprepprd in times of emergency. When I went abroad with her for the first time, an entire suitcase was just medical supplies (which were never used regardless)

Like tonight I can sense something is wrong as she was exhausted and crying complaining of body aches. She’s fast asleep in her bed now but I have a lamp on and am sitting next to her (with the intention of all night) with everything prepped incase she’s up with a fever or vomiting. I know this isn’t normal or healthy. And I know once the bug is over she’s back to her sprightly self. But I find myself mentally drained. How can I trick my mind to accept this is a normal part of growing up? Am I a total nutcase?
would really appreciate some advice/opinions

I wouldn’t say you’re a nutcase. Oh my god sometimes at work I think to myself if I died on the way home my LO would be stuck at nursery cos my idiot fella never answers his phone . I worry about ALL sorts. Once mine had a bad chest and I was timing his breathing at 1 am . I laugh now but god I get worked up. He had a fit when he was 2 from a fever and now whenever he’s unwell I hardly sleep . When he has a temp I constantly stick the thermometer on him . I don’t know if I’d be like this if he hadn’t had a fit and go to hospital tho. But I am a natural worrier/ over thinker.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Does anyone else have severe anxiety about their child getting sick?
I don’t know what it is, but it’s something that is constant on my mind, and I go over and above the necessary preventions of my child getting sick.
So for background:
she is 5
She was a preemie baby who spent time in nicu, so she’s always been on the petite side growing up. She is visibly smaller than her peers but she is healthy. (I was also very sick as a child, and in hosp a lot. but this is due to a medical condition and not school bugs)

This anxiety about sickness didn’t kick in until She started daycare, then she started picking up nursery bugs literally every other day. It was nightmare fuel for me. She would lose weight, her appetite and it felt like recovery took ages. I was also working full time and this caused massive issues with work, I really struggled to cope, even considered taking her out of nursery due to the amount of times she picked up an illness. I didn’t though.

Now I’m in a WFH role and am a bit more relaxed, but I still get panicky if a friend or family is ill and will actively avoid going there if so.
my mates who have children of similar ages r like a free for all. They don’t understand my anxiety, they send their kids to school if they r sick and coughing and they always seem to have a bug, it’s resulted me in going over there less. They say to me ‘there’s nothing a good night sleep & calpol can’t fix’

But I go into military mode if I feel like she’s getting sick. Am prepared with towels/sick bucket/ calpol/cooling gels/ointments/humidifiers the lot. It’s a box I will pull out which is preprepprd in times of emergency. When I went abroad with her for the first time, an entire suitcase was just medical supplies (which were never used regardless)

Like tonight I can sense something is wrong as she was exhausted and crying complaining of body aches. She’s fast asleep in her bed now but I have a lamp on and am sitting next to her (with the intention of all night) with everything prepped incase she’s up with a fever or vomiting. I know this isn’t normal or healthy. And I know once the bug is over she’s back to her sprightly self. But I find myself mentally drained. How can I trick my mind to accept this is a normal part of growing up? Am I a total nutcase?
would really appreciate some advice/opinions

Hello!
You're not a total nutcase. I can totally relate to you.
I have 16 month old preemie twins, one who is also medically complex and is getting their monies worth of the NHS.
I feel exactly the same, the second my 10 year old shows signs of being unwell I go into panic mode worrying about them both catching it & how will it affect them as prematurity is still something that affects them daily especially my medically complex twin.
I spent around 5 months never sleeping because of fear, then we caught covid and honestly I was a nightmare, if anyone has a wiff of any form of illness they are banished, and we avoid alot of settings where we can to avoid germs.
Definitely reach out to your GP, see if they can do a IES-R screening for PTSD on you, along with anxiety.
I started talking therapy but found it didn't really work so I've started soke trauma based therapy and were working around why I have these anxieties, how can I control them and take back control so it doesn't consume us all as a family. X

 

[al255]

So one of my now New Year’s resolutions is that if A doesn’t eat her tea (that she’s asked for or that I know she likes and will eat) I’m not making her anything else apart from something small like cereal or toast before bed. I was at a kids party yesterday and a few parents said how their kid is fussy but they stick to safe meals, and if they don’t eat it then nothing else. I realise how much of a nightmare I’m creating for myself by making her something else.
Nursery said she eats really well there so I think have I made her fussy

 

[SwizzleMalarkey]

Need some potty training advice, please!
My son is 3 and for the past few weeks he has been refusing to wear his nappy and taking it off at every opportunity, at home and nursery. The nursery said this is usually a great sign they are ready to potty train so we’ve tried this weekend but it’s been awful. He is equally as annoyed with the potty as his nappies and whenever we mention the potty he shouts/screams and will knock it over.
He has a speech delay but his understanding is there and he can say potty/poo/wee - but just refuses to use the potty. I would have just waited a few months and tried again but it’s an absolute battle to get him in his nappies too so it’s a lose/lose situation.

 

[WhatABore]

Need some potty training advice, please!
My son is 3 and for the past few weeks he has been refusing to wear his nappy and taking it off at every opportunity, at home and nursery. The nursery said this is usually a great sign they are ready to potty train so we’ve tried this weekend but it’s been awful. He is equally as annoyed with the potty as his nappies and whenever we mention the potty he shouts/screams and will knock it over.
He has a speech delay but his understanding is there and he can say potty/poo/wee - but just refuses to use the potty. I would have just waited a few months and tried again but it’s an absolute battle to get him in his nappies too so it’s a lose/lose situation.

Will he wear pull ups?
If not, maybe get a steps and seat for the big toilet? See if that encourages him?
My kids loved it!

 

[squatternutbosh]

Need some potty training advice, please!
My son is 3 and for the past few weeks he has been refusing to wear his nappy and taking it off at every opportunity, at home and nursery. The nursery said this is usually a great sign they are ready to potty train so we’ve tried this weekend but it’s been awful. He is equally as annoyed with the potty as his nappies and whenever we mention the potty he shouts/screams and will knock it over.
He has a speech delay but his understanding is there and he can say potty/poo/wee - but just refuses to use the potty. I would have just waited a few months and tried again but it’s an absolute battle to get him in his nappies too so it’s a lose/lose situation.

I know each child is different, but here is what I did when potty training mine.
I waited for it to be a weekend/holiday, with no plans to go out anywhere.
I set an alarm on my phone for every 10 mins. Every 10 mins when the alarm went off I sat her on the toilet for 5 mins. After a few accidents on day 1 & day 2, she got used to it and started peeing and pooping on the toilet. Yes, it is exhausting and can be frustrating, but by day 3 she was fully potty training and on day 5 I didn’t even put a nappy on her in bed.

 

[Jellybean093]

So one of my now New Year’s resolutions is that if A doesn’t eat her tea (that she’s asked for or that I know she likes and will eat) I’m not making her anything else apart from something small like cereal or toast before bed. I was at a kids party yesterday and a few parents said how their kid is fussy but they stick to safe meals, and if they don’t eat it then nothing else. I realise how much of a nightmare I’m creating for myself by making her something else.
Nursery said she eats really well there so I think have I made her fussy

As I’ve said before, 3yo just won’t eat dinner. No matter what I give him. I thought he was getting better since being back at preschool, but now he hates everything. I hear his little tummy rumbling in the morning, and it breaks my heart. I’ve always had fussy toddlers, but not like this. At least the other 2 would eat pasta!! He has THREE breakfasts every morning. Arghhhh!!

 

[SwizzleMalarkey]

Will he wear pull ups?
If not, maybe get a steps and seat for the big toilet? See if that encourages him?
My kids loved it!

He’s in pull ups at the moment. We’ve got a seat for the toilet but not really tried it yet. Will have a go with the toilet tomorrow and see if he’s more open to that, thanks!