It's easier said than done, but you need to get out of that situation. He's manipulating you and it is emotional abuse.
I know what you are saying is right and if a friend was in my position I’d be horrified at what she was going through. I’m going to plan my next moves and how I will cope financially over the next couple of days then ask him to leave, if he doesn’t decide to go today. Thanks again.So sorry to read this. I don’t want to sound heartless but most ppl who kill themselves don’t go on about it all the time. Sounds like he’s just emotionally abusing you. You and your baby sound better off without him. Why does he stay in bed all day? I think at the very least you need to have some space. Hope you’re ok. Is it only recently he’s been like this. In what way does he think your aggressive
He’s got depression. Take his tablets and is ok then stops taking them and is vile. He says he can do what he wants when he wants. He says im aggressive in that I have a go at him for staying in bed all day and not doing anything around the house. He’s always been a bit snappy but this is probably a last few months thing.
Speak to the police. If you explain he’s abusing you (financially, emotionally) and you’re worried he will go mental when you ask him to leave they’ll be able to help. You aren’t a bad Mum, you’re an amazing Mum for knowing the situation you’re in is nothing less than dreadful and wanting it to change. XxThank you both
Thank you
I will speak to his mum first then have the police in mind too xDo you get on well with her. Who’s side do you think she will take. Tell him to piss off and change the locksThank you
. Hope you’re ok you and your daughter deserve better
so I’ve just made her sausages, veg and eggs .. i really hate the thought of her going hungry and if she wakes up at 4am wanting food im the only one up with her. I know I shouldn’t and im not teaching her anything by making her more food if she doesn’t eat the first lot but she really is so fussy 
I don't, personallyDoes anyone else make meal after meal if their child doesn’t eat much of the one they’ve had for tea? My daughters asked for a picky tea, ham, grapes, crackers and garlic bread. She ate 2 slices of garlic bread and spat the ham out
This is difficult cos I kinda do keep offering mine different things if he doesn’t eat. If she asked for it why doesn’t she wanna eat it. If mine doesn’t eat the first I’ll make him something Small like cheese sandwich. egg on toast or even just toast and a yoghurt. Or cereal. Occasionally I’ll make another hot meal but it’s rare I do that. If she’s hungry she’ll eat it. Does she like ham and usually eat it?Does anyone else make meal after meal if their child doesn’t eat much of the one they’ve had for tea? My daughters asked for a picky tea, ham, grapes, crackers and garlic bread. She ate 2 slices of garlic bread and spat the ham out
I’ve not a clue! It annoys me
She’s eating her tea now.. I think I also need to stop her snacking during the day as I don’t think she’s ever that hungry either lol. Yeah she loves ham usually. I’m just too soft I do, but if I have to make a second meal it’s going to be very low maintenance like toast and some thing quick I can put on the plate like fruit/cheese/pickles/yoghurt. I’m a total soft touch and I can’t snap myself out of it. Mine is really fussy and I like you can’t abide the idea of her going to be hungry and I can’t deal with tears at meal time so we just muddle through.Does anyone else make meal after meal if their child doesn’t eat much of the one they’ve had for tea? My daughters asked for a picky tea, ham, grapes, crackers and garlic bread. She ate 2 slices of garlic bread and spat the ham out
Nope no way, unless I’ve buggered up the meal and it actually tastes awful he has the choice to eat it or leave it. Solid starts have some good info on this as it can lead to picky eating. We decide what gets served, they decide whether to eat it (or not)Does anyone else make meal after meal if their child doesn’t eat much of the one they’ve had for tea? My daughters asked for a picky tea, ham, grapes, crackers and garlic bread. She ate 2 slices of garlic bread and spat the ham out
Some great words above from other ladies. But in my experience - sadly have lost one family member to suicide and another has attempted suicide on multiple occasions- people who genuinely feel suicidal do not use it as a threat to other people, because it isn’t about other people. He is manipulating you by doing so. People who are genuinely suicidal wouldn’t say to someone “I’ll do this if you don’t do xyz”. That’s blackmail. He isn’t genuinely suicidal given what you e said, he is an abusive piece of tit and my advice would be to leave and hope he never wants to see your little one and she has a life free from his emotional abuse and manipulation x100% this, the only exception I'll make is if I've made a whole all-in-one kind of meal that she's never had before, for example a new flavour of soup. Because you can't just pick out the bits you want I would offer something else to go with the toast to give some protein and nutrition but basically I never offer an alternative, just try to offer a safe food and not pressure to eat anything.
I would totally try going straight to toilet (with a kiddy toilet seat), we didn't and we now have a 3.5 year old who has been potty trained for 6 months, almost no accidents since the beginning and utterly refuses to use the toilet so we're still cleaning the bloody potty.
I ended up buying a potty purely as we don’t have a downstairs loo. If we are upstairs though she will use the toilet with a seat on and if we are downstairs it’s the potty. At nursery they use a kids toilet so she’s not missing out a toilet in that aspect, also when we are out and about she uses a normal toilet
it’s just convenience with the potty being downstairs and we don’t have a toilet there xWe have always used the toilet in the house, but we do also have a potty for use in the car. In my experience it’s not necessary to use a potty at all.
No way, literally never. I make dinner for us all, they eat it or they don’t. If I started making new meals for everyone that’d be New dinner x4, and when am I supposed to eat mine?Does anyone else make meal after meal if their child doesn’t eat much of the one they’ve had for tea? My daughters asked for a picky tea, ham, grapes, crackers and garlic bread. She ate 2 slices of garlic bread and spat the ham out
It’s just us two so I have time and unfortunately, I’m full of patience to make sure she eats something before bathtime/bedtime
it’s my own fault..!!
