Toddler advice thread #3

[TheBabeWithThePower]

Could I ask from which age more or less you started going out regularly? I have a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old - the oldest goes to nursery since I work full time (we live in Germany, I’m now on maternity leave though) but I always struggled to take the oldest out since as a baby she was essentially crying 24/7 which I think just caused extreme anxiety and I’m still traumatized the baby now is fortunately calmer, only cries when hungry. Issue is he’s *constantly* hungry, like nurses every half an hour (he’s 8kg at 3 month old ) which again stresses me out to no end going anywhere with him. Thinking I’m at the supermarket, then he screams for milk and I can’t give it to him straight away, then all hell breaks loose I’ve gone out with him before obviously but then there’s always a 15min screaming session in the middle of Aldi with everyone watching and I can’t handle it, would rather stay in (last time even the cashier was like “oh maybe he’s hungry”. No tit Sherlock ). Basically every outing has to be planned to the second and this honestly stresses me out so much that I end up just staying home. Goes without saying that then taking both out is also not exactly a relaxing situation. Any tips? Simultaneously I’d like to go out more since I feel my mental health also struggles being home all the time can never find a perfect balance, oh being a parent

I've kind of always gone out a lot (aside from Covid!) but the thing that has helped the most with getting out with both kids is mastering feeding baby in the sling, it takes a bit of trial and error but it's such a game changer as you can wander around a shop or the park or a soft play or something with your eldest and feed baby at the same time!

Hope things get easier, it can be really daunting.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Is anyone on here getting their kids the flu jabs!? My boyf heard on the radio hospitals are full of kids with flu etc. I didn’t have it last year but I don’t want him getting sick

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

Is anyone on here getting their kids the flu jabs!? My boyf heard on the radio hospitals are full of kids with flu etc. I didn’t have it last year but I don’t want him getting sick

Yes, but it's a nasal spray for kids, not a jab
They're eligible from age 2 unless they have certain conditions and I would always make sure my little one had hers, flu is no joke, anything that can protect them is brilliant!

 

[Jellybean093]

Is anyone on here getting their kids the flu jabs!? My boyf heard on the radio hospitals are full of kids with flu etc. I didn’t have it last year but I don’t want him getting sick

My big 2 (13&6) always have the sprays at school. 6yo missed it because he was ill, but I’ll be taking him docs. My 3yo also had it at the same time he had his polio vaccine. Flu is awful this year!

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Yes, but it's a nasal spray for kids, not a jab
They're eligible from age 2 unless they have certain conditions and I would always make sure my little one had hers, flu is no joke, anything that can protect them is brilliant!

My friend said her friend took hers and she was really unwell from it . Yeah sorry I meant the spray just easier to say jab haha

 

[WhatABore]

My friend said her friend took hers and she was really unwell from it . Yeah sorry I meant the spray just easier to say jab haha

They'd be more unwell from catching flu though

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

They'd be more unwell from catching flu though

Very true!! I think I’ll get him booked in

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

My friend said her friend took hers and she was really unwell from it . Yeah sorry I meant the spray just easier to say jab haha

My little one has been fine both times she's had it, maybe slightly tired for a day but not ill at all.
Kids can obviously feel ill after it but sometimes kids can get another viral illness at the same time but people think it's due to the immunisation.
And like @WhatABore said, flu would be so much worse!

 

[al255]

Is anyone on here getting their kids the flu jabs!? My boyf heard on the radio hospitals are full of kids with flu etc. I didn’t have it last year but I don’t want him getting sick

Mini A had it and she had awful side effects but like everyone said if they got flu they’d be so much worse. It was a nasal spray and over in 30 secs x

 

[Meg78]

Currently at a supermarket, young mum and older baby walk past, she’s holding the baby up like simba and kissing her every few seconds, part of me is going “n’awwwww” and the other part “give it a year and see how you feel about the tiny demon then”
Yes the potato with a tiny tuft of hair is cute, but that’s only as it cannot yet kick you in the face for daring to choose the wrong snack. Sometimes I just want to warn the first timers what they’re in for!

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

Has anyone had much success with a morning routine checklist type thing?
Mornings are ‍ with the 3yo and it's only going to get more chaotic when I go back to work soon! Thinking of a laminated checklist might motivate her, any thoughts?

 

[Jellybean093]

Currently at a supermarket, young mum and older baby walk past, she’s holding the baby up like simba and kissing her every few seconds, part of me is going “n’awwwww” and the other part “give it a year and see how you feel about the tiny demon then”
Yes the potato with a tiny tuft of hair is cute, but that’s only as it cannot yet kick you in the face for daring to choose the wrong snack. Sometimes I just want to warn the first timers what they’re in for!

Potato with tiny tuft of hair though

Has anyone had much success with a morning routine checklist type thing?
Mornings are ‍ with the 3yo and it's only going to get more chaotic when I go back to work soon! Thinking of a laminated checklist might motivate her, any thoughts?

My mornings are chaotic, but that’s because I can’t be arsed to sort things out the night before, and then regret it in the morning (this has been an ongoing battle for 9 years of school runs 🫠)
I don’t know how, but all of my 6yo school socks don’t match, and the 3yo apparently has 1 sock that gets rotated. I could easily sort the clothes the night before, but I’d rather be running around the house the next morning, looking for socks!!

 

[WhatABore]

Currently at a supermarket, young mum and older baby walk past, she’s holding the baby up like simba and kissing her every few seconds, part of me is going “n’awwwww” and the other part “give it a year and see how you feel about the tiny demon then”
Yes the potato with a tiny tuft of hair is cute, but that’s only as it cannot yet kick you in the face for daring to choose the wrong snack. Sometimes I just want to warn the first timers what they’re in for!

Tbh, I hate people saying stuff to me like that
Because I find everyone wants to make those comments. Just you wait until this.. Just you wait until that.

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

Potato with tiny tuft of hair though



My mornings are chaotic, but that’s because I can’t be arsed to sort things out the night before, and then regret it in the morning (this has been an ongoing battle for 9 years of school runs 🫠)
I don’t know how, but all of my 6yo school socks don’t match, and the 3yo apparently has 1 sock that gets rotated. I could easily sort the clothes the night before, but I’d rather be running around the house the next morning, looking for socks!!

Oh see it's mostly the 3yo's utter refusal to do anything that derails us!

 

[al255]

Has anyone had much success with a morning routine checklist type thing?
Mornings are ‍ with the 3yo and it's only going to get more chaotic when I go back to work soon! Thinking of a laminated checklist might motivate her, any thoughts?

Nanny Aimes on TikTok does one for morning / night , I’m sure you can find one on the internet and see how it works for you. My daughter works best on WHY we have to get dressed.

I am also V organised the night before. My bag for work, her nursery bag & my gym stuff is all in the car and I make sure I’ve got all mine and her clothes ready for the morning so the only thing I have to think about is literally getting her out the door, so if it takes 20 mins it’s fine. I don’t need to do anything else apart from get us ready, I’m usually up before her anyway so I have my brew /breakfast and get ready. (She has breakfast at nursery which helps)..the mornings I’m not organised I find myself so stressed out with rushing around, the hour and a half before work is choas & mini A can sense my stress

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

Nanny Aimes on TikTok does one for morning / night , I’m sure you can find one on the internet and see how it works for you. My daughter works best on WHY we have to get dressed.

I am also V organised the night before. My bag for work, her nursery bag & my gym stuff is all in the car and I make sure I’ve got all mine and her clothes ready for the morning so the only thing I have to think about is literally getting her out the door, so if it takes 20 mins it’s fine. I don’t need to do anything else apart from get us ready, I’m usually up before her anyway so I have my brew /breakfast and get ready. (She has breakfast at nursery which helps)..the mornings I’m not organised I find myself so stressed out with rushing around, the hour and a half before work is choas & mini A can sense my stress

Yeah it's so much worse on the days I've not been organised! But usually lunch is made, nursery bag is ready, I can't get clothes ready as she has such strong opinions that she rejects whatever I choose and I've tried to get her to choose the night before and she refuses
But we have to have breakfast (plus the weaning baby currently so that's extra mess and work), all get dressed and use the bathroom and out the door and it just always seems such hard work, we've tried swapping the order we do things etc but none of it makes much of a difference, she just wants to play at home for ideally about 3-4 hours before doing anything and obviously that's not possible

 

[Jellybean093]

I really like my 3yo pre school, and he loves it, but they have really pissed me off today. We had a termly review and she was all proud and said how he can say 2 words (big cup) together. But he says sentences at home? Not proper full on sentences, but can string more than 6 words together. They have referred him to speech and language, and while he is behind, I don’t think he needs it. They were shocked at some of the things he said at nursery this week, but he’s non stop talking at home. I don’t think he’s a big talker at school, but he’s a lot better than where he was even 3 months ago. And because I’m such a quiet person, I just nodded in agreement, but really should have stood my ground

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

I really like my 3yo pre school, and he loves it, but they have really pissed me off today. We had a termly review and she was all proud and said how he can say 2 words (big cup) together. But he says sentences at home? Not proper full on sentences, but can string more than 6 words together. They have referred him to speech and language, and while he is behind, I don’t think he needs it. They were shocked at some of the things he said at nursery this week, but he’s non stop talking at home. I don’t think he’s a big talker at school, but he’s a lot better than where he was even 3 months ago. And because I’m such a quiet person, I just nodded in agreement, but really should have stood my ground

They’ve referred him without talking to you first? I had a meeting with our preschool last week and filled in a questionnaire of how she is at home and they’re going to compare it to how she is there and then make suggestions. I think we both left the meeting on the same page that she is just a three year old finding it hard but I’m waiting for their feedback.

It can be so hard talking up in the moment, that would have blindsided me. Can you email them and ask for more clarification or to cancel the referral?

 

[SwizzleMalarkey]

I really like my 3yo pre school, and he loves it, but they have really pissed me off today. We had a termly review and she was all proud and said how he can say 2 words (big cup) together. But he says sentences at home? Not proper full on sentences, but can string more than 6 words together. They have referred him to speech and language, and while he is behind, I don’t think he needs it. They were shocked at some of the things he said at nursery this week, but he’s non stop talking at home. I don’t think he’s a big talker at school, but he’s a lot better than where he was even 3 months ago. And because I’m such a quiet person, I just nodded in agreement, but really should have stood my ground

I’m surprised they have referred him without your consent. My son has a speech delay and some social communication issues and we were very keen for the nursery to refer him and said so but we still had to sign a few forms first to say we agreed with their assessment.
If your son is a bit behind then the speech and language therapy can’t hurt? I know you said he’s quite chatty at home but the therapy might improve his confidence and get him talking more at pre school too.

 

[Jellybean093]

@jackieweaver’sauthority @SwizzleMalarkey sorry, no they spoke to me about referring him in October, which I was a bit shocked about as even in October his speech was so much better than when he started in January. I agreed to it, but how could I say no? I’d look like a neglectful parent, right?! I just don’t know what s&l will do for him. From what I gather it’s not a weekly thing, but every few months, and they give you tips/exercises at home? He’s the 4th child, and we have all talked for him. Especially during covid. He also had glue ear up until February when he got discharged. He is very quiet when we are around friends with children the same age, but he’s completely different at home and beating his 6yo brother up