Well, it was either her oncologist or some other doctor on her team who told her prior to starting chemoradiotherapy that if nothing was done, she would have 6 months to 1 year. Now, she has had chemoradiotherapy, and the tumor has not changed, but, rather, tumor deposits OUTSIDE the tumor are now there . (From T4bN1b before treatment to T4bN1c after treatment, the N1c designating tumor deposits.) This cannot be considered a success, and might even be worse because before she didn't have the tumor deposits. So, seeing as how the tumor is the same, living years with bleeding, discomfort, pain, and tumor growth and possibly even more tumor deposits does not really seem possible in her case. If she had been given 6-12 months before chemoradiotherapy, and the tumor is still cancerous and the same size after chemoradiotherapy, logic would have it that she would not have years left.
I wish her all the best, but one cannot live on illusions alone. The years of living with cancer have already been done in her case. From having no tumor to ending up with a locally advanced (T4b) tumor likely took years. How much time is left in her case if she doesn't have surgery and if the tumor is still cancerous?
That is concerning. If she were cancer-free, wouldn't she keep following them to support and encourage them? Or, if she were cancer-free, would she think "Hey, I don't need cancer-talk anymore. Bye to these folks!"