I think the parents need to be cruel to be kind and the next time she decides to leave and drive the long journey they should just say no. It’s like being parents of an addict, at some point they stop bailing their child out and say no and the same applies here. She’s addicted to being at her parents, the manic drives home, the high of being at mum and dads.
I don’t see why they can’t holiday together in a neutral location, start to wean her off, as it’s not about her her parents seeing their grandkids it’s all about getting to Aberdeen for Sarah, she’s obsessed. She only worked the first day she was there and the rest of the time she was fannying about, her last day her parents took the kids swimming while she met a friend and then packed. She could’ve left on Tuesday and either flown or got the train and came back home Saturday. The manic drives are part of this obsession, there is no need to be putting the kids through that journey and it ending with them arriving in the middle of the night, several times a year. It’s crazy and really unfair on the kids. But if she was to get the train or fly that would mean she’d have to engage with her kids, parent, driving takes the responsibility away as she’s occupied.
I really do hope someone steps in as this whole situation is very worrying for the kids and I’m starting to get a little concerned for them. It’s only going to be a short while and then she’ll be driving back up again at Easter. A lovely thing she could do for her kids is to go away a few days holiday just the 3 of them and not to bother going to her parents. I’m sure the kids would love this and remember the time spent doing something different. The kids will start resenting the trips to Aberdeen soon, they wouldn’t if they travelled like normal people and didn’t go so often, but soon the drive and disturbed sleep will not seem like an “exciting road trip” but more a total pain in the arse. And how is Sarah going to react when they don’t want to go to granny and grandads.
I can just imagine how low she is going to feel on Sunday night, the reality of back to work, school stuff to get ready, she’ll still be tired from the drive, the come down from Aberdeen. She needs to start making some serious decisions about moving, she keeps going on like this it’s not going to be pleasant for anyone close to her, especially the kids.
I don’t see why they can’t holiday together in a neutral location, start to wean her off, as it’s not about her her parents seeing their grandkids it’s all about getting to Aberdeen for Sarah, she’s obsessed. She only worked the first day she was there and the rest of the time she was fannying about, her last day her parents took the kids swimming while she met a friend and then packed. She could’ve left on Tuesday and either flown or got the train and came back home Saturday. The manic drives are part of this obsession, there is no need to be putting the kids through that journey and it ending with them arriving in the middle of the night, several times a year. It’s crazy and really unfair on the kids. But if she was to get the train or fly that would mean she’d have to engage with her kids, parent, driving takes the responsibility away as she’s occupied.
I really do hope someone steps in as this whole situation is very worrying for the kids and I’m starting to get a little concerned for them. It’s only going to be a short while and then she’ll be driving back up again at Easter. A lovely thing she could do for her kids is to go away a few days holiday just the 3 of them and not to bother going to her parents. I’m sure the kids would love this and remember the time spent doing something different. The kids will start resenting the trips to Aberdeen soon, they wouldn’t if they travelled like normal people and didn’t go so often, but soon the drive and disturbed sleep will not seem like an “exciting road trip” but more a total pain in the arse. And how is Sarah going to react when they don’t want to go to granny and grandads.
I can just imagine how low she is going to feel on Sunday night, the reality of back to work, school stuff to get ready, she’ll still be tired from the drive, the come down from Aberdeen. She needs to start making some serious decisions about moving, she keeps going on like this it’s not going to be pleasant for anyone close to her, especially the kids.