So interesting on the whole “Hair is a responsibility” post, she mentioned about J being in a hospice because her friend came and took the extensions out there. I may have missed it but I don’t remember J being in a hospice at the end - he was definitely in hospital but I assumed he’d died in hospital from what she said at the time?
When a child passes away usually you go then to the hospice to spend more time with the child. I visit a hospice for respite with my son and usually you can stay up to 2 weeks at the most for a bereavement but they encourage you to visit home, not just stay in the hospice as it can become a bubble... not reality. J sadly passed in hospital then he'll of been moved so family could spend more time to say goodbye, usually a hospice has a seperate garden, part of the hospice solely used for bereavement, away from the respite care they offer. The rooms they keep for a bereavement are often able to have pictures up, posters, music playing continuously, you can bring in teddies ... things to bring you a tiny bit of comfort.
The way Kathy has gone on since his passing material things she associates with her son arnt his most treasured Teddy... although that could of been placed with him. Its not his favourite toy, blanket, a outfit that brings so many memories for her. It's her hair extensions, clothing for her that's designer, the merc, holidays, jewellery....
I have never seen such bizarre behaviour from a grieving parent. I've seen a lot. I've had friends loose their children. Seen a lot when at respite with my son. I just cannot get my head around her. Openly displaying this disturbing behaviour too.