I get what you’re saying, but Kai was placed into foster care from a few weeks and then he went from them to Tom when he was adopted,
I’m not saying that doesn’t cause any sort of attachment issues, but it doesn’t explain or excuse a lot of the behaviours.
no one is blaming Kai or tearing him apart, personally I just find it sad that they can’t see how much they are ruining that child...it is the parents who are responsible for his behaviour and a lot of his behaviour couldn’t even be explained or excused by a diagnosis, a lot of his behaviour is rudeness and he is over indulged, they can’t go to the shops without him getting a toy, makeup or chocolate, if they give family members gifts he has to open them, the constant snatching, ignoring people when he’s being spoken to, even children with SEN would be taught that these behaviours are wrong, we can’t always make excuses, some children are just spoilt.
If you read Tom’s twitter you can see it all there, he even posts saying it’s easier to say yes and he does talk about his rudeness and hitting in one post...I think he needs some help with his parenting as I do really think he is struggling, he doesn’t help himself by being soft, but I think he does need some help to get out of this harmful habit of saying yes to everything.