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KyBourbon

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"Don’t ask yourself why children need to see drag queens, ask yourself why drag queens want an audience of children."
Exactly.
I was going to scroll and ignore, but I thought for a while and decided to comment. I was reminded of the phrase “Silence is complicity” so I think I should speak up. I don’t think anyone’s mind can be changed in a social media thread, but I hope people can at least listen and consider.

"Don’t ask yourself why children need to see drag queens, ask yourself why drag queens want an audience of children."

I’ve see this phrase used recently in the US as a way to justify or gain agreement on laws targeting LGBTQ+ people, specifically drag and transgender. The issue I have with the phrase is that it implies drag queens are groomers and pedophiles specifically targeting children. That same argument and fear was used for many years to discriminate against and target all homosexuals, especially gay men. “We must protect children” was a rallying cry, stoking fear and distrust of gay people.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t take a child to a drag show that’s intended specifically for adults… just like I wouldn’t take a child to see the show of a vulgar straight comedian… because it’s not appropriate for children. However, I don’t have an issue if a parent chooses to allow their child to go to a “Drag Queen Story Hour” in a public library where an age appropriate book is read to children. Some parents may believe it helps their child understand there are all kinds of people in the world and it’s ok to be different. I think a responsible parent knows their child and whether or not a “story hour” like this would be appropriate for them.

I’ve poked fun at Philip many times about his cross dressing. He’s not a drag queen or transgender (to my knowledge). But it’s not because he wears women’s clothes…I poke fun at him because I think he’s putting on a performance as “Stephanie’s boyfriend” for the camera, and I’m calling out what I think is a deception.

I’m really not trying to create drama or derail. All I’m asking is before quoting that phrase again, please think about the harm it could unfairly cause so many people. Variations of it has been used for years to marginalize, persecute, and demonize all gay people.
 
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Jules100

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Many of you have heard, my dad has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer. After specialists, PET scan & a biopsy, stage 3a. Perhaps people had concerns that Percy had cancer, but there is no diagnosis before the biopsy. I’m happy Percy doesn’t have cancer, Stephanie should throw him a garden party in his honor and not visit him in SA.❤
 
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KyBourbon

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An artist’s depiction of Dear Brenda exploring the depths of the $300,000 pond…


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Just Grift Wood

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His head is perfectly square. Why? Why is this?
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You made a clickbait video with a dramatic thumbnail for something that’s awful for Percy?! And you continued to advertise your channel and patron and giggle all the way through?! So in appropriate and not classy!! You could have just informed people in another video as he clearly wasn’t RUSHED to hospital and this happened over a period of time. Very strange Stephanie!!
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TorontoGWM

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It rained today and the lake restored itself.

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The $300K is no longer needed for the project, so the chatelaine will instead use this money to pay for new luggage to go with her carryon.
 
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Luna20

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Congratulations and wishing you all the future happiness in your new home. I can't believe you bought it yourself and didn't want others possibly strangers to buy it for you, can definitely tell you're not cut from the same cloth as Fanny. Enjoy your new pad xxxxxxxx
Thank you! I wouldn't have dreamed 7 years ago, after my divorce and consequently loosing my home and left with a serious debt that I would overcome it all fairly quickly. In all honesty it feels surreal (and a little scary)
 
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Here's what I think...

I think we should all wish Percy well and hope he gets better soon, but he and his family should also know that if Percy wants to get better and healthier, he should STAY AWAY as far as possible from that crumbling farmhouse and that pair of hags!

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KyBourbon

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Flaunt it Fanny
I don’t have a problem with anyone who buys luxury clothes and accessories if they can afford it and the enjoy them. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with traveling or dining out if that’s what you like to do. But to do those things while simultaneously holding your hand out and begging for money…crying because of how expensive your farmhouse, pond, and chapel renovations will be…is beyond disgusting and maddening. Totally selfish and self centered. What a joke. 😡 🤢
 
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Luna20

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My dearest Hags, Queens, Gays and members of the chateauverse circle witches,

It is my birthday month and I have been gifted (purchased by myself and gifted to myself)
A 4 bedroom house, with 399m2 of gardens.

I can't believe the over thinking where I should settle is over. I will no more be a nomad, going from country to country 🥳🥳
 
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KyBourbon

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Ironically, she was pretty tight-lipped about the reason for her own hospital stay
You’ve got that right! Seems Stephanie loves to be the bearer of bad news or announcements. Like when she made the special video about Annalise and Dan’s breakup…which was none of her business. Has no problem giving all the intimate details about Percy’s health. But when it comes to Fanny, we must respect the princess’ privacy. 😢 🙄
 
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CocktailGirl

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It's early morning here and this is a picture of my puddle today (I call it a loch):
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Have a great weekend everyone xx
 
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ComtesseRose

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So...
Have we come full circle? Remember, last year maybe, when the first peachick went missing, and Stephanie decided to cry on camera?
We all wondered, since she'd monetise the death of a peachick, what would she do when it were Percy or her mother...
I mean, what has she monetised since then...
- Death of the first peachick
- Death of Ian the Plasterer
- Death of Mmakhotso Moloi
- Death of the hedgehog, PhiPhimodo found
- Death of the white peachick
- Percy's illness.

I say we have [come full circle].
 
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Heathcliffe

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:confused: 🍸 In my opinion this is wrong: The con princess will probably spend an obscene amount of money on the puddle, but first milking patreons for a couple of years....when she ought to have paid the poor African girl she was supposed to help so she did not have to walk for hours, starve, and feel like such a failure that it lead to tragedy. This is where money should have been spent, but they went to fill a closet and pay for travel.
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Puddle Zombies...also known as Patreons.
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May I present, Caroline Goodier! Programmed to sprout crap.
 
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thatsrich

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I just went over to the Brenda's Facebook page to see if there were any Patron pictures and saw a rather large post from Brenda where she says she's explaining and answering questions she's received. According to her, she had to field a lot of messages about these topics. I love how she explains that she is NOT Lalande mastermind. Coulda fooled me, Brenda!

I'm just going to copy and paste what she wrote here, instead doing my usual screen shots, as it's long - I did do one screenshot so you can see it's legitimate.

Make of it what you will, but it's just more covering of Stephanie and her lies with regard to Patreon. Of course, she doesn't mention how Stephanie herself said she would provide accountability with regard to Patreon expenditures! I did find it interesting that at the end, she outlines what and in what order she would do the work required at the chateau and, for once, I agree with her.

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Good afternoon everyone.
There have been some posts over the last few days which have raised some questions, & created a lot of messages for me!
For those who are confused let me try to explain, but first I must say I am not a Lalande mastermind.
I will speak generally, for specific questions, if you are a Patron send a message via Patreon, if you are a follower here send an email to Natalia.
  1. Patreon is NOT a charity.
  2. Patreon is a platform where creators can upload their work, in Stephanie's case a video based on her life & living at Lalande.
  3. People can subscribe, there is a charge for the subscription which has various tiers, to her channel & receive video content each week. There is a choice of tiers, some come with more than the video content.
  4. Stephanie receives the subscription revenue from Patreon, less their commission.
  5. The money Stephanie receives from Patreon, is hers, it is her income/proceeds from her business, that business is the production of a weekly video made available to her subscribers.
  6. No Stephanie legally does not have to provide ANY information on her finances relating to Patreon or any other income source to Patrons.
  7. Stephanie, like every other tax payer will have to provide an income & expenditure detail to revenue.
  8. A non-profit organisation was set up for Chateau de Lalande & the estate. This covers the restoration & maintenance. As a NP organisation they will benefit from attractive rates relating to revenue charges on eligible expenditure. It does NOT mean Stephanie will not being tax, it means certain aspects of her interests will have lower rates.
  9. The B& B is exempt from the non profit, and will be accounted for as a stand alone business requiring full accounts to be presented, showing income & expenditure. Natalia, Maria & the housekeeping staff will come under this umbrella.
  10. I would assume that the non profit accounts will include capital expenditure, that is, any works done to the building & estate, to ensure its survival.
  11. However, it would not include improvements which would increase the value of the asset, such as internal renovations. It would not include running costs incurred in the day to day management of the business, the B&B.
  12. The same rule of thumb as above would apply to Stephanie's You Tube Channel, this will also be dealt with as an independent business & have no preferential rates applied.
  13. There will also be consideration for personal use within the accounts.
  14. The You Tube channel will provide a salary for Philip & will be Stephanie's main source of personal income.
  15. How she spends that income is a matter for herself.
  16. Stephanie, made a personal decision to use her income from Patreon to carry out restoration & refurbishments to Lalande. Not all projects will fall under the umbrella of non-profit, & will be subject to full rates within the taxing system.
  17. So when remarks are made that patrons are paying for Stephanie to own a chateau, that is a twisted concept. If I worked for tesco or walmart, I would receive a monthly salary, just as Stephanie does from Patreon. If I use that income to pay my mortgage buy a new car & go on an exotic holiday...would you say tesco or walmart paid for it? No, my job with them enabled me to do those things. Just as Stephanie's Patreon account, her video creation & her popularity have enabled Stephanie to improve Lalande.
  18. Does Stephanie have to tell us how she spends her money, no absolutely not. It is her personal income, if she files tax returns & some elements of those are available to the public you can view away at them. But Stephanie does not legally, have to provide her Patrons or followers with forensic details of any elements of her accounts. I am sure anything that is available to the public will be on the relevant government site. That said, Stephanie may choose to say what she has spent or is going to spend etc...that is her choice, not an obligation.
  19. If Stephanie was a Billionaire, & still had her Patreon account, with 4000 subscribers who she continued to create a weekly video for, she would be doing nothing wrong, she is not taking money for nothing.
  20. Amaury, Nick, maintenance staff, garden staff would fall under the non-profit remit & may carry preferential employers rates...I am unsure.
  21. Employment taxation rates are high in France, mainly in relation to health I believe. It is therefore easier in some instances to employ registered self employed/business to carry out work as there will be less red tape & long term commitment.
  22. For me personally, I would tackle the main building 1st, roof, windows, heating, dry lining etc. A room at a time until every room was finished. Then I would do the terrace, followed by the chapel & my very last priority would be the lake. I could live without a jaunt on a boat....but not with a cold home. But, everyone is different, we all have our own ideas & thoughts about how we would do something....& we all think our idea is better.....but is it really....probably not.
Brenda attempting to rewrite history….not so fast Brenda!

1. Fanny promised on multiple occasions to be transparent with the accounts….after dozens of delays and more promises and assurances, she never mentioned it again. She did say, at one point, that the accountant needed to hide some info on individual salaries, as Fanny felt it wouldn't be right to share that info publicly. Then, nothing ever again!

2. Fanny changed the terms on Patreon without notifying patrons. Patrons were named members of the association. Not sure what wording she now uses, as im no longer a patron.

3. it‘s absolutely correct that Fanny can spend her income as she chooses, however, this does not mean she cannot be criticised for her personal spending habits, when she continually asks for help to save the chateau. She is a public figure by her own choosing.

4. Fanny, friends and her most loyal fanatics censor, delete, ban and block any and all legitimate questions and concerns, using fake aliases and proxies like Brenda and Gooder, among others to control the narrative, and in some cases, lie, in her favour. If shes doing nothing wrong, then why the need for an arsenal of brand defenders?

5. Lalande is just another large old rural property in France, not protected, and has very little to offer in terms of significant history, architecture or features (staircase, paneling, painted frescos, grand ballrooms or original historical features, other than the defences) which brings us to the biggest lie…Patrons are saving what exactly? Why? And for whom?

As far as I‘m concerned any registered business (she likely draws an income from a corporation) pulling in millions of dollars, as is Fanny, let alone one that is entirely based on sharing her life with viewers, is open to legitimate public scrutiny. A registered not-for-profit has additional disclosure rules.

I get that many people fell in love with the romance of it all, and Fanny’s charm, but snake oil is still snake oil. Trust in influencers is actually at an all-time low, rightly so because they do wield power for personal gain. Other than Tattle, who else is holding Fanny to account?
 
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Jeeves

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again...it is all strange....but seriously giving someone a cancer diagnosis and wait for radio therapy ...just imagine the torture that they all went thru.
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I was just reading about how high the incidence of TB is in South Africa. Again just asking a few questions about travel in the last year could have given the UK docs a clue. If they could have taken Percy in for radio therapy immediately he would have started that treatment. This is such a lesson to get second opinions on everything.
Fanny says that Percy underwent tests in SA at the start of the year (February?) when he was told he 'needed to live with it." Given that SA is a high incidence country for TB, you would think that the alarm would have been raised at that stage. Is this when his sons started to question if this could be TB? If so, why would they not have tried to prevent him from travelling to the UK and France when they knew that he was in poor health or is the case that Fanny and IJ had more sway over Percy's decision to travel, when he was clearly very unwell at that point.

The UK specialist who suggested that it was possible that this was likely to be cancer and intended to carry out a biopsy in two weeks before any treatment could begin approx two weeks later. (Junior doctors took part in strike action from 7am on 13 July until 7am on 18 July 2023 and hospital consultants were strike for 48 hours from 7am on 20 July.3 Jul 2023, delaying treatment for many.) I am sure that being the rapid deterioration in Percy's general health and frail appearance would have contributed to his probable diagnosis. They decided to go back to SA where he would be seen a little sooner and he had the biopsy last week, that revealed the TB.

She says that his surgeon in SA said that TB was prevalent in the past but almost eradicated and yet

"TB is the leading cause of death in South Africa. It kills approximately 89,000 people per year, or 10 people every hour. Effective treatments are available, and the country has made significant progress in combating the disease, but much more is required to bring it under control." 7.12.2022

Fanny's version of events always throw up more questions than answers.
 
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Iolair

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Good Grief... You'd almost believe she was part of Steel Magnolias. 🙄
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Honestly, It's probably something clickbaity as usual...
Sooo...

In actuality, no-one was rushed to hospital.

In fact it took, a flight to the UK, three visits to specialists and a round if tests, another flight to South Africa, then another round of tests before Percy was admitted to hospital to begin his treatment. If that's "rushing" then I'd hate to see how they handle a true emergency.

I feel for the old guy, but stoicism in the face of serious illness is bullshit. What's needed is the patient to fight, what's needed are demands, what's needed are second and third opinions, not acceptance and resignation. To me that's just fatalism. Happily TB of the throat is treatable. According to the NHS, it takes several weeks to 6 months before the person begins to feel better. Fanny says treatment takes "6 to 9 months" but she may of course be using different medical information that the NHS, the American Medical Association and the French Acaémie Nationale de Chirurgie may not be privy to.

Get well soon Percy, and don't allow Fanny and her silliness to aggravate your recovery.
 
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KyBourbon

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I’m just glad to know this TB diagnosis and scare has been a wake up call to Fanny and the rest of the dump crew. They are taking cleanliness and hygiene very seriously and scrubbed the farmhouse from top to bottom. The kitchen and loos have been disinfected. Bedding and towels thoroughly sanitized. Hairnets and gloves worn during food preparation. Bottles of antibacterial soap at the ready in the pantry and hand sanitizer in every room.

And then I woke up from my dream.

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Karma baby!

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I have a little information from a birdy. I have to not say names as the source has asked for privacy. They posted that they messaged Stephanie on patreon some information they found about the lost Rose. Brenda replied asking when they messaged. Isabelle then replied on the patron messages less than a few hours later. I therefore wonder if Brenda is Isabelle? Timing is too convient not to be related - the original message she didn't see was in Feb and they resent it once Brenda was asking

here is the message on Patreon

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My goodness thank you for all your research on the rose! I will try to read the sites you suggest. Very exciting ! Isabelle

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I saw the original exchange on Facebook and it was shocking! Some of the crazy fans were saying you should keep Patreon information on Patreon and message Stephanie on Patreon if you have questions, and this lady said she has tried that and no one responded to her… talk about the shittiest relationship management I’ve ever seen from an “Influencer”! 💩

Brenda did advise her to try messaging again, but I assure you, Brenda is as real as the structural problems in the falling shatto de LaLande 😂 she probably just gave the message to Isabelle and she went and replied to the original message.
The level of cringe I’m feeling at their treatment of patrons is beyond measure! 😬😬😬😬😬
 
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Karma baby!

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I was going to scroll and ignore, but I thought for a while and decided to comment. I was reminded of the phrase “Silence is complicity” so I think I should speak up. I don’t think anyone’s mind can be changed in a social media thread, but I hope people can at least listen and consider.

"Don’t ask yourself why children need to see drag queens, ask yourself why drag queens want an audience of children."

I’ve see this phrase used recently in the US as a way to justify or gain agreement on laws targeting LGBTQ+ people, specifically drag and transgender. The issue I have with the phrase is that it implies drag queens are groomers and pedophiles specifically targeting children. That same argument and fear was used for many years to discriminate against and target all homosexuals, especially gay men. “We must protect children” was a rallying cry, stoking fear and distrust of gay people.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t take a child to a drag show that’s intended specifically for adults… just like I wouldn’t take a child to see the show of a vulgar straight comedian… because it’s not appropriate for children. However, I don’t have an issue if a parent chooses to allow their child to go to a “Drag Queen Story Hour” in a public library where an age appropriate book is read to children. Some parents may believe it helps their child understand there are all kinds of people in the world and it’s ok to be different. I think a responsible parent knows their child and whether or not a “story hour” like this would be appropriate for them.

I’ve poked fun at Philip many times about his cross dressing. He’s not a drag queen or transgender (to my knowledge). But it’s not because he wears women’s clothes…I poke fun at him because I think he’s putting on a performance as “Stephanie’s boyfriend” for the camera, and I’m calling out what I think is a deception.

I’m really not trying to create drama or derail. All I’m asking is before quoting that phrase again, please think about the harm it could unfairly cause so many people. Variations of it has been used for years to marginalize, persecute, and demonize all gay people.
Very well said Ky!

It’s the same malicious frame of thought that says all muslims are te***ists, and all the Mexicans are illegal criminals and on and on. Taking the outsiders of a demographic they don’t like and applying their faults to everyone. But funny enough, they always fail to see their own demographic and the terrible things that are done by some of their “people”.
Regardless of gender, nationality, race or religion… shitty people exist, but most people are decent. demonizing a whole group of people and cherry picking what you see and what you ignore is the height of hypocrisy and I cannot stand it!
 
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Luna20

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Where (which country) did you decide to settle in?
This is going to sound very much like Fanny, but I decided on both countries.

after my recent visit to Spain and enjoying my time there AGAIN. I thought F*ck it, it's not like I'm going to sent off kids to college. I'll do both!
I bought in Turkey and will save up for an apartment in costa del sol. I'll divide my time between these two countries and my base will be Turkey.
Maybe when I'm old and fragile I will stop traveling between the two countries.

It's the best news and I'm really happy for you!
Not only because you bought a home, a place to no longer be a nomad, but for all you had to overcome to get here.
Well done, you! I wish you all the best in your new home!
Thank you so much for the well wishes all my lovely Tattlers.
My divorce was a blessing in disguise. I got to see and live in beautiful countries, made many new friends, got to learn about local cultures and customs. Found courage and strength through it all. I feel blessed.

To stay on topic: FANNY WHERE ARE THE ACCOUNTS?
 
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