Gawd I don't want to make this thread all about over eating.. I agree, but imagine being the partner.. your partner comes home, sleeps, sits... exhausted from dragging all that weight all day let alone the affects of sugar etc in everything they eat.. So family are not included in their time, they want to eat and sit on the couch... I remember every new years eve for several years, I took the boys snow tubing, 4 hr pass in the afternoon, dinner, then to the town party, fireworks, ice-skating, band etc... I always did it alone because my partner would say "I can't drag around out in the cold all day" "That's a long time outside" etc... so we can make excuses all day long about how hard it is for heavy people to participate, but lets not forget the burden it puts on the partner.