Yes, yes and yes - my points exactly.I really was rooting for Marie, found her insta unrelated to the Shitoo drama, and her life seemed pretty lovely. (That's how I found this thread, too).
So I'm acquainted with a local florist that does truly beautiful work. The way she tells it, and I believe her, it's real, hard graft. During Christmas time for example, she does a lot of wreaths, table decorations, all of course with a lot of love and they really are a work of art. It's 14 hour days for her and her team from November until xmas, 6 days a week for her team and 7 days for her. It's the season where she earns the most, as she has a lot of business clients, who all want their offices and such decorated for that period, and this is how she covers the lull of the rest of the year, such as holiday time when nobody orders.
Her hands are cracked from handling wet stems all day, and often she has cuts from wires and such.
After following the drama around FRK and her mental health issues - how does she expect herself to stand this kind of pressure? It's not just "doing a few jars of pretty flowers I cut while frolicking through the French country side". It's first of all, a craft you have to learn (sure, talent can help, but it will only get you this far), and second of all, it has its periods of intense pressure and its periods of very little business. Everyone that is self employed knows that that aint the holiday people make it out to be either... There are people who can definitely do this, but you have to be tough as nails to stand two months of 14 hour days without break.
And sure, not everyone has to work 14 hour days, I'm sure it's a regional obsession in my country with wreaths and such for Xmas time. But wasn't she doing weddings and stuff? I mean, that is a lot of flowers, a lot of decorations, a lot of prep time and resources, and honestly, for a wedding it has to be pretty much perfect. Lots of weddings in summer, too, so her busy time would be May to September - could she really do it? Work every weekend setting up somebody else's celebration, every summer, with a week in between to prepare? And even the logistics of that? It's intense - just imagine having a lorry be late, or not show up at all. I'm sure there's people who would shine in such situations, but I just don't see her as such a person.
And, I would hazard a guess that it took years of dedicated hard work for your local florist to build up her reputation and business too. It certainly wasn't an overnight success or, happened, instantly, was it?
Self employment is not a walk in the park, or, the countryside picking wild flowers to pop into jam jars.
My XH was self employed and it was a constant worry even though all his work was via recommendation so he was 90% employed. Plus, I too worked full time in a highly paid job - we ultimately did more than fine.
Self employment, IS ABSOLUTELY 100% much harder work than being an employee with the huge responsibilities, financial outlay before being paid and a resilience to know how to get through the down/lull times too.
I am not even a florist but I know that Christmas/Valentines/Easter/Mother's Day/Wedding season are your prime "high earnings periods" - it's a given. So, that's when you know you have to work the hardest and build your business for repeat clientele.
Unfortunately, FRK continues to live in a world of fantasy and when it gets too tough through her lack of strategic planning/a financial plan or, she runs out of money through not working long or, hard enough, she just puts out "another" IG e-begging post.
Words fail me!