The Chateau Diaries #122 A Whole new level of Ugliness that makes my skin Crawl

[Perplexed bee]

It would have been better for me to stay away, this is getting worse and worse: Stephanie Jarvis is nearly euphoric about thinking she has to report a breakup (that she maybe enabled?), having a "refugee" she can exploit for even more money, and making twee handcrafting with her scruffy enabler (sorry, soulmate). She is ignoring the Selmar vs. Nati issue and messing up the whole panelling project timeline just to be on TV. And what about the famous accounts? Why does anyone with some intellect even remain at Lalande? And why does anyone with at least one grey cell still send her money?

 

[CountessPompidoo]

Clara is Annalise

that would be fabulous

 

[HalcyonOrganic]

How fitting those ads can be ..

 

[Trollda]

Ok, let’s not let Stephanie Jarvis bury the story she doesn’t want us to talk about!

New thread title suggestion:
-“Natti bullied Selmar & Tatti,
chased them away when things got nasty!”

Kind of rhymes and it will live on the internet forever, suck it Stephanie Jarvis!!!

I think fan would be happy with ANY thread title that doesn't include the word "ACCOUNTANT" at the moment.

 

[Hemerocallis]

Yes I wondered that. Who the duck travels with jar openers?..

Somebody who desperately needs them to open a jar because he has not enough power to do it without, like my 96y old MIL......
ALways thought Philip Janssen was only old at heart but obviously he has the power of an old lady too.

 

[MRShavershamsdress]

Hisssssss.
The term "gaslighting" is grossly overused in many cases.

And quite often by people who don’t know it’s history as a term for mental abuse/manipulation. Not to mention my favorite Ingrid Bergman preformance.

 

[pasta_aldente]

"Thank you to all of the viewers of Chateau Unwrapped! because the ad revenue from this channel goes to charity and your views have enabled us to send €2019 to the Red Cross to help sustain their vital work in Ukraine." Farmhouse in the middle of nowhere's Facebook page.

 

[lulublugirl]

Holy tit l’m so behind in watching these videos.
It’s repulsive enough to have to make myself watch CDs let alone Dans pathetic drone videos.
Ok have to leave now and catch up.

Me too! I take my eye off the ball for a couple of days and it’s all change!! I don’t watch Dan’s vlogs and don’t take much notice of the peripheral dramas. However, you Tattlers just about got it right again. Many of you did smell a rat of some sort, particularly when he was hanging around the shitoo late at night etc. Hats off to your sleuthing skills yet again you clever bunch!

 

[Albee]

Thinking back to September/October when Sillymar & Tatti pitched up at the shiteau, it must have been getting crowded there. Anmuary had moved in. Then Dan moved in, so perhaps that explains why there wasn't a room available for Tatti as she'd expected.

Kat visited and Josie was there along with many other volunteers in September/October so how did fan & Co. (or did they) kept it quiet that Dan was living at the shiteau. Interested to hear from the tartlet volunteer who was at the shiteau in October what the vibes were vis-a-vis Dan.

Oh yes! That would be @missartemis

 

[MrsNeelie]

And quite often by people who don’t know it’s history as a term for mental abuse/manipulation. Not to mention my favorite Ingrid Bergman preformance.

Yes. I think telling lies to present the best view of yourself cannot be considered gaslighting. It is just lying. Gaslighting was/is considered the practice of deliberately misleading a person (one person) to undermine their grip of reality and cause mental distress. On that basis, you can't be accused of gaslighting if you hoodwink thousands of people to put yourself at advantage financially and socially? I wish people would stop using the term so freely.
It's like the whole bullying thing. If someone says something to you that you don't like you immediately accuse them of bullying? Really?? It might be that you deserved to be told that you had done something wrong surely? Possibly Selmar was out of order over something - I suspect assuming that space for his new girlfriend was going to be found at the chateau without actually checking first or that she turned up not as a paying guest but expected to treated like a paying guest. There are two sides to every story. Having said that, I think that Natty can probably be a little sharp with her tongue. But why is it bullying? I didn't take to Tatyana on first sight, I thought her to look sly and scheming. Natty looks sly and scheming too so there was bound to be a clash surely.
However, there is so much conjecture going on around all of this and distracting from real issue of the half million £s that her vagesty has received for about £5 worth of work achieved thus far. And the fact that, once again, she has conned more money for a project from the Patreons but has offered it to UK tv channels for exclusivity. disgusting!!!

 

[spuggy]

I bet she will lose some weight soon, now she's got rid of Dan.... but anyway she is beautiful inside and out so I am sure she will find love again

I hope she finds love and happiness and her and the boys can move on from this.
He is going to miss out on the best years of the boys lives to live at the scruffy play house!
He’s clearly not very bright and is consumed by fame and fortune which can bring its own misery.
I feel so sorry for A and kids as well.
His vlogs are boring now and I have also stopped following him.
Maybe Annalise should start her own vlog about living in France as single mum as she is is an inspiration to many.
I hope she finds love again and a very happy ever after for her and her boys. And then it will be too late for him to regret his actions and go back home.
Annalise your a wonderful mum and a pleasure to watch and I hope you know people support you.
I do hope as well she reads these comments.
She needs a real MAN not a cat whipped chateau wanna be

 

[lulublugirl]

100% the switching camera angles was weird and unnecessary. Also, why film it on Stephanie Jarvis’s filthy kitchen table? I would love to see the body language guy dissect Dan the gardener’s break up video. Too bad Dan is small potatoes and no one else really cares.

He most likely has nowhere else to go!

 

[Eduardo35]

Disgusting!!!
What is with this woman???
Her ego knows no bounds!!!
It's more than enough that she says her vlogs are soothing for people who want to escape from news from the Ukraine <--- that is just such a huge WTAF... These people need her vlogs to have a break from what's going on in the Ukraine. These whackadoos who live in Armpit, fill in the state, province, region, wherever, need a break from what's going on in the Ukraine... And she is the solution... Exactly what break do they need? And how is she a solution? If I know my peops they'd never heard of the Ukraine until yesterday...

And now she says her patrons should hear from her about this couple breaking up? Why? Why do her patrons need to hear her talk about this couple's private life?
She should have stopped at, "Obviously this is not my business..."
She sounds guilty about something.
The more you say the less you prove.
Hope chateau shenanigans aren't the root of the problem nor exacerbated the problem... I cringe to think how anyone would think moving into that place would help a couple in distress...

What is with all the jerking about and wild gesticulating??? I am with the guy who commented about her taking it down a notch; she gives me anxiety too!!! Why is she looking so happy, nervous, frenetic... What did she do? What is she up to?

I'M FURIOUS WHY WOULD THIS WOMAN INTERFERE BETWEEN A COUPLE'S PROBLEM! SHE'S SHOULD COMPLETELY MIND HER OWN BUSINESS!

 

[Rory]

I do wonder which room Dan was sleeping in? Perhaps Nic's apt?

 

[spuggy]

Let's face it... having a wife and kids in tow simply doesn't suit the chateau lifestyle of endless parties, alcohol consumption, travel and dress-ups. Dan has been seduced by the entire chateau lifestyle, while his partner, with her feet firmly on the ground, has remained largely aloof from the hedonistic goings-on. She's worked hard, watched over the kids in his numerous absences, and done it all with no applause, no grandstanding, and no real support. She's watched him being pulled deeper and deeper into blot on the landscape that is de la Lande, watched as he became enamoured to a lifestyle out of his reach, probably lied endlessly about his involvement in the chateau's underbelly, and watched as he walked away from everything he'd built with her.

I say she should take him for everything he's got.

Completely agree with you. She should take it all from him for her boys.
She’s beautiful and grounded. Also a brilliant mum to three little boys (Dan being the 3rd child)
She’s the only genuine person on all the vlogs.
Her boys are a credit to her as you said and she should be so proud of herself. Working hard and bringing up two boys on her own.
I take my hat off to her and wish her every success

 

[Trollda]

As I am not native English speaker, does "shortly" in this context mean "soon" or "for short time-period" ?

In the context you highlighted, it means "soon".

 

[Princess and the Pea]

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Not just smug - delighted. Happy, bouncy and utterly delighted. She's thrilled! It's completely unnecessary for her to comment on someone else's relationship, especially when it involves an employee. So unprofessional. She displayed no gravitas, no empathy and no decorum. It's as though she's acting the part of the mean cool girl at high-school with delicious gossip to whisper in your ear in the hopes that this salacious little tidbit is spread far and wide. It's contemptible. Perhaps patrons and subscribers will now flood Annalise and the boys with gifts. Gods know they probably deserve some after their personal private business has been dragged through the wringer and put on display to the world.

This is classic Narcissistic Personality Disorder behaviour. Because everything is all about them. Stephanie Jarvis. You need help. But you won't seek it because you think that everyone is like you. You know you'll never be truly happy. The booze, the shopping, the merry go round of visiting new places. The new people to meet & fall under your spell..nothing, nothing, nothing will ever make you happy. You know there is something not right about you but hey, look how fabulous everyone thinks you are so you must be fabulous right? No. The key red flag with any narcissist is an abject lack of empathy. You care not a jot that a couple have split. In fact you love it. You're positively giddy with glee - see the 'normal' people aren't really happy either. Next red flag. Drama. You love a bit of gossip & drama - because that's all this is to you. Not real life pain, but gossip and drama. You're special. But not in the way you think.

4. Self-Absorbed Egocentrism & Lack of Empathy

Since the histrionic narcissist’s primary focus in life is approval and self-gratification, other people’s thoughts, feelings and priorities are frequently disregarded with little or no consideration (unless the histrionic narcissist has something to gain from them). One of the most striking traits of some histrionic narcissists is their ability to witness human hardship (whether in personal life or society at large), shrug it off, and express distain or even contempt if others’ difficulties interfere with their selfish plans. Such is the entitlement and conceit.

 

[KyBourbon]

You’ve hit the nail on the head, @Maple fairy ! When SJ said “Dan, aren’t those the same clothes you were wearing yesterday?” she knew that Dan’s 13 year relationship was on the rocks. In hindsight, he stayed at the chateau because of troubles at home. She purposely made him squirm and uncomfortable on camera for her own sick, twisted pleasure and grotesque humor. If that singular incident doesn’t announce to the world that she’s a selfish, self-centered, narcissist witch, I don’t know what does.

If Dan was already seeing someone else after his separation when SJ said “Dan, aren’t those the same clothes you were wearing yesterday?” that’s even worse. If Annalise watched that vlog, can you imagine the hurt and pain she felt? Did SJ even think about that or care? (a rhetorical question…obviously not). And Dan is choosing to hitch his horse to that faker SJ, her run down farmhouse, and all the bull. Big mistake. He’s seen what she has done…he’s seen the damaged people…but he probably thinks he’ll be the one who shines. SJ is a narc…his time in the light will be temporary. At some point, I have a feeling he’ll regret ever coming across SJ’s path.

 

[Espe]

That cupboard would have been greatly improved as tattlers have pointed out numerous times if washed the damn thing! Afterwards add some paint but no she has to put her pretty fabric on the door to house only a few gadgets.

Can you imagine how unhygienic that material will become? It will never be taken down and washed! In particular, the one she made for the herbs and spice jars must be rank. I can imagine when people are in the middle of cooking, they will go to get a jar without washing their hands. Remember when she was rubbing salt and spices on that piece of pork and then opened jars and touched other things without washing her hands. That material container thing will be crawling with bacteria and would never pass any health and safety inspections. She is an idiot.

 

[Albee]

The last thing Annelise should do is start her own YouTube channel. In fact she should hand over the Patreon to Dan too. She should take those boys and get on with living in the real world.
Now, back to the task at hand………How does a patron get to see the accounts of the association they belong to? Who do they contact? It is at the point now that Stephanie Jarvis who runs the association does not want to be open about the monies coming in.
As a past patron I would like to see where my money went. So I would like to send an email to someone about these missing accounts. Who do I send it to?