The advice thread for random problems #7

[cowtastrophe]

I was suggesting ringing them for advice, they may know of a group or organisation

Oh I see! Sorry, I thought you were suggesting they take them.

 

[ReginaPhalange3]

These are exactly what I used, thought they were fantastic. Hopefully youre rid of them within a few days, they're right pricks! x

Are these the ones with poison they take back to their nest? Do you have a brand to recommend?

Thanks will have to try vinegar!

 

[SoulDestroyer]

A guy once broke up with me because I gave back his shirt after I worn it. He thought that I thought that I was too good to wear his crappy shirt. That wasn't true at all. I just thought he wanted his shirt back

Maybe they were all up in their doogooder high and there you are, returning the item. Or they actually want an excuse to buy an upgrade and that fell trough. Or they thought you didn't use it at all. It could have been anything but I don't think it has something to do with you're

Thank you.
How weird of that guy!
They were just gonna get the same item from someone else who gets them free from their work, so no upgrade. I couldn't really understand why I was in the wrong, because they were back in the same situation as they were before I asked to borrow. No better, no worse.
I seem to have these weird interactions quite a lot and I end up think I must be horrible or not reading the room right.

 

[Serene Serena]

Our neighbour is a complete dick. I'm fairly sure I've seen him fill up the JCB he's using for landscaping works with red diesel. Would you report him for it?

No. Why would you? It’s petty.

 

[Serene Serena]

Oo congrats! my gran used to be a gambler and she always said if you won a bit money, tell your partner but tell them less than what you got! For example, I would tell him I won £4K and keep £2K to myself so you can still treat yourself, and be sensible.

Excellent idea. I’d even go as far as to give him a grand to spend on whatever he wants.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Apart from poison how can I stop mice? I've found my second since Monday

I contacted my housing association (who I'll contact again) and was told this is my responsibility. Fed up of dealing with it

Humane trap and relocate

 

[cowtastrophe]

New thread! Come and share your random problems.

 

[chickhicks86]

Aw thank you for your quick reply. I have no idea? My husband and daughter joke that I am autistic because I remember things in great detail and I am quite averse to change and a bit controlling about the way things are done but what about all those other feelings I mention, is that a neurodiverse thing? And if it is something like autism, what can I actually do about it?

I don't know, but maybe just having an explanation for your extreme feelings to certain situations might help you to manage. I do also agree that perimenopause might play a role. It's certainly doing a number on me! I think there is a neurodiverse thread on Tattle, either in the advice section or in off topic, might be worth asking in there if anyone has experienced similar?

 

[Wooh]

Sorry first post was made in a blind panic. Hence facts wrong. Apologies.

"Sorry" first response is made in a blind annoyance. Hence I don't believe you. No apology. You've been doing this for so long. You've described debilitating physical ailments with dates ending ability to use phone. You've described multiple personalities! At some point the zombies will be at your alleged door. Yet! Fortunately you remain housed. It is great to know you are safe, even when...

 

[Candytuft]

Thank you @Carapop I've looked and was hopeful but they don't deliver to my area.

 

[Serene Serena]

I was prescribed Naproxen for period pain but I don’t think that’s recommended for asthmatics either. I’d go for over the counter cocodamol as suggested by @Strawberry13

 

[JoeBloggs]

I'm a convert to Sho. Keeps everything cold for hours and no plastic straws on their new bottles, which I love, they've moved to metal.

 

[Mamacita]

Would taken these eventually help if they are in the system?

I actually feel fine when am up an dressed, don't feel the tiredness or the strong want to stay in bed, it only seems to happen when I first wake up despite the fact am naturally waking in the first place

Tbh i think that's pretty normal? I'd actually be interested to hear from anyone who wakes up and is immediately ready to go and full of energy

 

[petitspois]

These are exactly what I used, thought they were fantastic. Hopefully youre rid of them within a few days, they're right pricks! x

I used those too and they work a treat. Quite fascinating when they all spin around then stroll inside.

 

[Mamacita]

These are exactly what I used, thought they were fantastic. Hopefully youre rid of them within a few days, they're right pricks! x

Thank you! Yeah they need to move out

 

[Darvos]

Your comment made me laugh. Don't worry, I am not a doormat. I have spoken with my dad, he doesn't want to celebrate another weekend, it's his birthday after all. And neither do I. I was just wondering what other people's opinions were.

I don't want to move it as it affects more people than just my brother and his wife. They can go away any time of the year, as their children are young adults. Plus it's not just a weekend, they have booked a whole two week trip, so the only viable other option would be the more expensive bank holiday weekend.

I knew something like this would happen, I'm convinced my brother is a narcissist for a multitude of reasons, but one reason in particular is he likes to cause disruption when its someone else's (in the immediate family) birthday, wedding, other special occasion, Christmas etc.

Here's some examples. So he will turn up late to birthday meals and keep everyone waiting, he will park somewhere that only has an hours parking and make a fuss that he needs to rush off through the whole meal, if he turns up early he has text me before and said there's no booking (busy day, big group, causing panic) turns out it's a lie, he will not RSVP to weddings or send menu choices, if it's afternoon tea and cocktails he will refuse to order and will just sit there making it awkward (he can afford it) , he will declare he's ordered and paid for a special birthday cake for a big birthday but turns up with no cake. He's previously agreed to coming away and splitting costs, let me book then denied it all leaving me to pay for it all. Christmas get together, announces he's broken down and is waiting to be towed, turns up an hour late in the car that was towed with no further explanation. You will invite him and his family on days out, casual lunches etc and he will say he will get back to you ( he doesn't), or he simply ignores you, he then either blames you for not reminding him, or declares you haven't invited him and that he is always left out. There's so many more (no wonder his first marriage didn't last).

He is exhausting and you can never win.

PS: He's not the golden child. He takes but doesn't give.

My narc sis is just like this. Her speciality is saving up dramatic news to co-opt the energy of gatherings and celebrations. Fuck him.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Summer duvets - I have a coverless 9 tog duvet which is too hot in this weather. But I can't sleep without a duvet

What brands should I look at? Amazon suggests they go down as low as 1.5 tog and they start at £21

We had a 1tog from Dunelm, and it was great, but have since moved to a feather and in a 4.5tog, and I find this better.

 

[chickhicks86]

Got a custom built pc, it's starting to get a bit dusty inside, is there a safe way to clean it, or is it fine to just open up an wipe down with a microfibre cloth? Don't want to damage anything

Open and use a hair dryer to blow out the dust. Unless you have a special vac

We've a "Compucleaner" to do this, though I'm sure there are cheaper versions. It's been quite handy for the kid's consoles and blowing crumbs out of my computer keyboard too.

 

[littlepup]

Has anyone tried any of those shampoos that's supposed to be great for hair growth? An have they worked? Or is there anything else I can do to help growth?

My hair seems to have slowed down, I got colours in it a while ago an preferably it would be best that it all just got chopped off due to how much a risk it was in the first place with my skin condition an how sensitive I am, the colours were started a little bit further down to keep away from my scalp an right now it would be too short for my liking if I cut it the now so hoping there's a way to speed up growth a bit

You could try a biotin and zinc supplement x

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Ok am I being a miserable cow? I don’t have children and I’m not maternal so I am entirely open to accepting that this is all just me.

I live in an apartment complex. My apartment is above a kind of open area. It’s just an intersection of pathways really. Every wkend, all day long, kids are playing there, bouncing balls and laughing and shouting at eachother.

I keep my windows open because I’m perimenopausal and dying of the heat constantly. The sound from outside goes absolutely through me. All I want to do is sit in my living room and read my book in peace.

I understand that I can expect a child free life but not a child free world. There are no back gardens for these kids to play. They have a right to be outside. But my ears.

Could you wear some ear defenders? Or noise cancelling headphones?
I also don’t like the noise of screaching children but in this case I imagine it’s the only play area they have.