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Pick the one where you’ll get on the the people better and the management seem better. A seemingly great job with awful people is impossible to perform well because they’ll restrict you and make the environment uncomfortable. A job that’s not so great but with great, open, supportive people can be more flexible (in the confines of the role) and it’s enjoyable going to work with people who’s company you appreciate.
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My son started school last year and became friendly with a child in class, met their family on a play date and has become obsessed with the older brother ever since; follows him around school, makes a beeline every day to play, when I asked who he plays with or who his best friend is he will always say the older child, not the younger one in the same class, and the parents are starting to notice/make comments and not in a friendly way.
What do I do? Should I discourage? Accept that it’s just a phase and the parents are being too sensitive? Apologise? Help!
What do I do? Should I discourage? Accept that it’s just a phase and the parents are being too sensitive? Apologise? Help!
Ask the parents if the older boy is getting annoyed. It might be that he doesn’t like it.
How much is the standard amount when gifting for a wedding? Context; close friend, invited to the hen do and wedding ceremony and night do. The wedding is a casual affair with no sit down meal.
Some of the recommendations I’ve seen on TikTok are absolutely insane.
Some of the recommendations I’ve seen on TikTok are absolutely insane.
I go £100 for family an £50 for friends, but really, people get a lot at weddings so just go what you feel comfortable with, while everyone got thank you cards from my bro with his wedding, he'd struggle to know what people gave him now tbh so don't overthink it
I wouldn’t say the parents are being too sensitive if it’s upsetting their older son. They should be talking to you though, not being passive aggressive wicks.
An overzealous kid is making my oldest not want to do activities if they know the kid will be there, nervous to go to school etc. It’s unfair in a way because the kid isn’t doing anything ‘wrong’ and just wants to be friends but they’ll hug and grab and get in my kids face, they’ll also monopolise mine and sort of guard them off from other children, mine really doesn’t like it.
We’ve gently spoken to the child about it and the parents and teachers and spoken to my child about ways to handle it and having to acccept they can’t control someone else’s actions and it seems to be resolving but I must say, while I have sympathy for the other child, I can’t have my child avoiding their extra curriculars because of them so we had to say something.
On the other side mine is obsessed with an older kid (family friends child) who is a great friend of theirs in a 1-2-1 but when their same aged peers are about, sort of bins my kid off a bit. We’ve tried to pull ours back in this situation and manage their expectations but it is tough to see because again, they just want to be friends and they’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ (mine isn’t grabbing or hugging but is less socially mature) so it’s more about protecting my little one’s feelings and from rejection than the older child’s.
That’s a bit of a ramble but I guess I mean it’s obviously a normal social situation with children but both set of parents need to be helping their own child deal with it. It is just a phase but I think it’s important to address so I’d ask the other parents what their concerns are and find a gentle way to overcome them.
When I sell on eBay, can I show the qr code on my phone at the post office and they scan that , to get the postage label ?
It depends what carrier the buyer has chosen.
If it’s Royal Mail all post offices should do it but not all post offices do Evri for example. If you do a search on Evri for carriers near you it will list your post office if they do it.
ETA - Am not sure if this is the right place for this so please let me know if it'd be better somewhere else. Thanks 
This is a largely hypothetical question, but it’s been on my mind recently.
I’ve just found out that someone I used to work with has been told they only have about six months to live. We were never especially close, and since I left that company years ago, we haven’t spoken or interacted much—maybe the odd “like” on Instagram, but that’s about it. When we did work together, though, we got on well enough and would share a laugh whenever our roles overlapped.
They’re not the first former colleague I’ve heard of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, and in those cases I didn’t reach out either. It wasn’t out of malice or avoidance, more that we’d drifted out of each other’s lives, and I felt strange about getting in touch only because I’d heard they were dying.
I’m not beating myself up over it, but it has got me thinking. I’d be curious to hear what other people would do in this situation. Would you reach out, or just leave it be?
This is a largely hypothetical question, but it’s been on my mind recently.
I’ve just found out that someone I used to work with has been told they only have about six months to live. We were never especially close, and since I left that company years ago, we haven’t spoken or interacted much—maybe the odd “like” on Instagram, but that’s about it. When we did work together, though, we got on well enough and would share a laugh whenever our roles overlapped.
They’re not the first former colleague I’ve heard of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, and in those cases I didn’t reach out either. It wasn’t out of malice or avoidance, more that we’d drifted out of each other’s lives, and I felt strange about getting in touch only because I’d heard they were dying.
I’m not beating myself up over it, but it has got me thinking. I’d be curious to hear what other people would do in this situation. Would you reach out, or just leave it be?
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Personally, I think I would leave it be. If it was someone I’d had contact with since leaving I might have got in touch but if there’s been no contact I wouldn’t.ETA - Am not sure if this is the right place for this so please let me know if it'd be better somewhere else. Thanks
This is a largely hypothetical question, but it’s been on my mind recently.
I’ve just found out that someone I used to work with has been told they only have about six months to live. We were never especially close, and since I left that company years ago, we haven’t spoken or interacted much—maybe the odd “like” on Instagram, but that’s about it. When we did work together, though, we got on well enough and would share a laugh whenever our roles overlapped.
They’re not the first former colleague I’ve heard of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, and in those cases I didn’t reach out either. It wasn’t out of malice or avoidance, more that we’d drifted out of each other’s lives, and I felt strange about getting in touch only because I’d heard they were dying.
I’m not beating myself up over it, but it has got me thinking. I’d be curious to hear what other people would do in this situation. Would you reach out, or just leave it be?
I would reach out. But it also depends on what outcome you’re after?ETA - Am not sure if this is the right place for this so please let me know if it'd be better somewhere else. Thanks
This is a largely hypothetical question, but it’s been on my mind recently.
I’ve just found out that someone I used to work with has been told they only have about six months to live. We were never especially close, and since I left that company years ago, we haven’t spoken or interacted much—maybe the odd “like” on Instagram, but that’s about it. When we did work together, though, we got on well enough and would share a laugh whenever our roles overlapped.
They’re not the first former colleague I’ve heard of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, and in those cases I didn’t reach out either. It wasn’t out of malice or avoidance, more that we’d drifted out of each other’s lives, and I felt strange about getting in touch only because I’d heard they were dying.
I’m not beating myself up over it, but it has got me thinking. I’d be curious to hear what other people would do in this situation. Would you reach out, or just leave it be?
Would you like to meet up? Or just say your sorry to hear about what’s going on?
If you are haply with either outcome then I would just send them a friendly DM saying you’re sorry to hear about what’s going on and if they would like a day out with you then the offer is there
If they didn’t publicly announce it, or you found out directly from them,personally, I wouldn’t reach out. If it was me, and old work colleague messaged me, I would think “oh it’s only took a terminal illness for you to reach out and messageETA - Am not sure if this is the right place for this so please let me know if it'd be better somewhere else. Thanks
This is a largely hypothetical question, but it’s been on my mind recently.
I’ve just found out that someone I used to work with has been told they only have about six months to live. We were never especially close, and since I left that company years ago, we haven’t spoken or interacted much—maybe the odd “like” on Instagram, but that’s about it. When we did work together, though, we got on well enough and would share a laugh whenever our roles overlapped.
They’re not the first former colleague I’ve heard of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, and in those cases I didn’t reach out either. It wasn’t out of malice or avoidance, more that we’d drifted out of each other’s lives, and I felt strange about getting in touch only because I’d heard they were dying.
I’m not beating myself up over it, but it has got me thinking. I’d be curious to hear what other people would do in this situation. Would you reach out, or just leave it be?
” as our lives can go at any point.but then maybe I’m harsh..so maybe you could message them and say “hi just saw this funny meme. Made me think of X time.” But not being up Their illness?
No, there hasn't been any public announcement from any of them, I've always found out from former colleagues that I'm still in touch with. It's an interesting point you make though, as I more than likely would contact them if they made some sort of public announcement, not that I'd ever expect anyone to of course.... So yeah, I think the fact I've always found out through a third party plays into why I don't make contact, especially under those circumstances.If they didn’t publicly announce it, or you found out directly from them,personally, I wouldn’t reach out. If it was me, and old work colleague messaged me, I would think “oh it’s only took a terminal illness for you to reach out and message
but then maybe I’m harsh..so maybe you could message them and say “hi just saw this funny meme. Made me think of X time.” But not being up Their illness?
Id like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help 
I've never had one before but I'm considering hiring one on an adhoc basis as sometimes when I have a lot of work on i let housework slide a lot.
But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
I've never had one before but I'm considering hiring one on an adhoc basis as sometimes when I have a lot of work on i let housework slide a lot.But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
Haven't used a cleaner myself but my boss uses a cleaner for both the office and her home, cleaner has a key an let's herself in an uses all her own stuff, it depends on what the cleaner will offer to do an pay but the one my boss uses also tidy's things up and does a very small amount of dishes (say like 3 mugs an a plate) but not all cleaners will offer to tidy up, most will do a basic hoover, and dust an pick up things laying around, you would need to be specific to the cleaner about what you mean with tidying, are you wanting things put away like in cupboards or want them just picked up an placed on a chair for example, most won't put things away but they will still pick them upId like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help
But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
You also have to remember cleaners maybe have like 3 or 4 houses a day so you'd need to make a list of exactly what you are looking for them to do an then decide if the time they have will be enough to do it in, too much work an some may cut corners to meet the time, so you might not get as thorough a clean as you wanted
I think you’ll struggle getting one willing to work adhoc. They normally have a rota.Id like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help
But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
It might be worth employing someone to do a proper clean and then doing an hour or two every couple of weeks
We have one who comes every other week. She has a key and uses her own stuff. We make sure things are tidy before she arrives, IId like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help
But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
i.e clothes put away, surfaces cleared etc. She changes the sheets too so we strip the bed beforehand. We have a standard 3 bed house, two dogs who don’t moult, no children and she’s there for three hours, hoovers, puts stuff in dishwasher away, bed, washes floors, cleans bathroom, kitchen, dusts.
I think you will struggle to get someone on an ad hoc basis. Cleaners are like gold dust around here and from what I’ve seen, they want a regular slot.
You might want a cleaning service rather than a cleaner who’ll generally want a fixed slot.Id like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help
But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?
In my experience cleaners may fold some stray clothes, put the bed sheets into the wash, take out bins and stack papers to a pile but they don’t tidy away, just clean (with their own stuff). We always end up having a big tidy the night before, make sure there’s clean bed linen etc.
Good cleaners are like gold dust though. There’s a difference between being able to clean and being a cleaner by profession.
When you're away with friends is it unreasonable to expect to actually do stuff with them? I've just had several crappy messages from a "friend" because I was away with them over the weekend and expected to do things with them? I don't want to wander around a strange city by myself. Hardly anyone told me where they were going or what they were doing
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